Shelby Dennis
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575 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard May 2026
last heard 4 Jun
Shelby Dennis’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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It's a emotionally abusive tactic.
That a lot of people do when they cannot handle their emotions and when they start to get emotionally aroused, they just dip out and they leave.
And that's like a very common abuse tactic.
It's not necessarily always the most extreme forms of abuse where you're thinking of like,
beating the crap out of a horse or being highly physical there's different forms of abuse pushing your horse through immense stress laughing off ignoring their stress is emotionally and often physically abusive but it's not as dramatic as watching a trainer forcibly lay a horse down and then like whip them and i think that there's this this idea where people only want to class things as abuse when it's the worst form of abuse but we don't get to that point of
the worst type of abuse without these smaller abuses being justified because that's how people build to that point.
You don't just start beating the crap out of horses out of nowhere.
It starts small and you're slowly conditioned to view the big abuses as not a problem.
Those add up.
And once you start it, it gets less scary because you realize that it's not as difficult as you think.
And I think that like the other thing too, is that like a lot of people look at the rewards-based training movement and they think that we're expecting perfection, but it's like, no, none of us got into rewards-based training just by deciding one day and then suddenly flipping and being 100% of the way there.
Not at all.
There's like levels to it and then there's regressions, but the key is catching your regressions earlier and earlier and earlier and not getting as frustrated, not going back to old habits as easily and gradually building it like a muscle until when you look back, you're like, wow, look at how much my emotional resilience has improved.
Look at how much less frustrated I'm getting.
And your mistakes are stuff to acknowledge and to be accountable for and to make changes, but they're also a part of learning and
I think that the horse world and honestly the world at large has this issue with admitting fault and they view taking accountability as being irredeemable.
So then the alternative to that is to never take accountability.
But then that's where the actual problem is, is the refusal to look at your harmful behavior, acknowledge it, apologize, make changes and change accordingly.
And it's not even that people have to accept your apology.
Like they could decide to never forgive you, but that doesn't mean your behavior still shouldn't shift and that you shouldn't be accountable.
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