Sheleana Aiyana

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The School of Greatness · Why the Wrong Person Feels Like Home | Sheleana Aiyana · 26 Jun 2026 podcast

The thing that I love that we did was we created shadow vows.

shadow vows yeah and those were sort of we also call them ownership vows so we wrote our sacred vows to each other but then we also did ownership vows and so at our wedding we had a different type of wedding where we had everybody actually sat in a circle on the floor only the elders in our community sat on chairs and we had all of these plush rugs everywhere and uh we did a cacao ceremony and a group meditation and then we you know we stood in front of our community

And we had spent a month negotiating our shadow vows.

And essentially we were calling out the parts of ourselves that were not yet healed or some of the worst things that we're bringing to the relationship.

Or the ways that we show up

in a crappy way with our partner which there is always ways you know and so we did that we wrote it down and we shared with each other and we also allowed each other to give feedback before we did this oh my gosh that's amazing is there anything here you know that i is there anything that i do that you want me to own and and we use that we did that in front of our community we stood and we we owned you know holy cow you know i own that i'm going to project my unhealed

father wound onto you sometimes you know and I promise that I'm going to always come back to love that's the kind of vows that we said and so it was very vulnerable and intimate but everyone in our community got to witness this is the true Shalina and Ben these are the things that they're working on we're not painting this perfect picture and then they vowed to hold us through that and

And then every year, what we do is we take our shadow vows and we go through them together and we say, oh, I think I've actually worked really well on this one.

Maybe we should take this one off the list.

Maybe that one has been completed.

Or maybe we need to add this to the thing, you know, maybe we need to work on this one.

And so we actually reassess our vows.

We sort of use it as like a template to check in, do a temperature check.

And that has served us very well.

And we've guided other couples through that as well.

So that's the thing that I loved the most.

Definitely would have been more somatic work, more nervous system work.

That's something that I started the year that we got married.

And it was because when we got married four years in, all of a sudden I started feeling like I needed to escape.

My ego was like, oh God.

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