Sonja Lyubomirsky

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Modern Wisdom · Why Nobody Feels Loved Anymore - Sonja Lyubomirsky - #1115 · 25 Jun 2026 podcast

So research shows that we think that especially asking deep questions, if I ask you a deep question, I'll think, oh, he's going to think I'm prying, that I'm being a little nosy.

And sometimes that happens, but on average, people crave to be seen, right?

They want to be known.

I have an example for my daughter who has a roommate who's having a lot of problems.

And her family was coming over.

They were crying.

There were all these sort of sessions.

And they were speaking Spanish.

So she didn't know.

My daughter didn't know what they were saying.

So I said to my daughter, why don't you talk to your roommate and ask her what's going on?

And she said, oh, mom, I couldn't do that.

She'll think I'm prying.

And I think, you know, she could be right, but I think most likely she's wrong.

That this roommate probably would feel really supported and loved if she was asked about it.

But we usually think, yeah, so we don't ask enough questions.

So ask your friends, colleagues, and partners those deep questions.

That's part of radical curiosity and part of listening because listening is a back and forth.

And then there's two more mindsets we talk about.

One is called open heart.

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