Stephan Speaks

So, in dating and relationships there's nothing wrong with honing in on your audience that you want to pull from. However, I think that... No, I think I know that connection can transcend our type. Okay, and I believe the key is always being open to connection in whatever package it comes.

So, in dating and relationships there's nothing wrong with honing in on your audience that you want to pull from. However, I think that... No, I think I know that connection can transcend our type. Okay, and I believe the key is always being open to connection in whatever package it comes.

Now, I want people to understand when I say whatever package it doesn't mean you won't be attracted to them, all right. It doesn't mean you're going to be disgusted by them any kind of way. It just means that plenty of people if not everyone even when having a type have found someone outside that box that they found attractive. all right, that they may even feel drawn to.

Now, I want people to understand when I say whatever package it doesn't mean you won't be attracted to them, all right. It doesn't mean you're going to be disgusted by them any kind of way. It just means that plenty of people if not everyone even when having a type have found someone outside that box that they found attractive. all right, that they may even feel drawn to.

You have to be open and flexible in that way, all right. And I think for me it's less about having such a strict type but more so fundamental principles. Like, I think attraction is important, all right. Communication is important. There's a level of... If you're into energy or you can pick up on people's energy that's going to be important. And to me those are foundational things.

You have to be open and flexible in that way, all right. And I think for me it's less about having such a strict type but more so fundamental principles. Like, I think attraction is important, all right. Communication is important. There's a level of... If you're into energy or you can pick up on people's energy that's going to be important. And to me those are foundational things.

It's less about what they got to be this tall or they have to have this type of job. But there are some core traits that there's nothing wrong with that. So, I do think for those that the type is working against it's because they might be too strict, there's no flexibility and they're also not understanding are you the type that the type wants?

It's less about what they got to be this tall or they have to have this type of job. But there are some core traits that there's nothing wrong with that. So, I do think for those that the type is working against it's because they might be too strict, there's no flexibility and they're also not understanding are you the type that the type wants?

Okay, so you can want your type all you want that's fine right, nothing wrong with that. But are you really tapping into the type of partner they would want? And it's not even are you willing and both can you sustain that, all right. Because there's a lot of people trying to present a certain kind of way to get this type of individual and they may get them but they can't keep it up.

Okay, so you can want your type all you want that's fine right, nothing wrong with that. But are you really tapping into the type of partner they would want? And it's not even are you willing and both can you sustain that, all right. Because there's a lot of people trying to present a certain kind of way to get this type of individual and they may get them but they can't keep it up.

I'm going to give one example And again, it's never shade to any gender when I use them as an example but let's say there's a man who wants this ridiculously beautiful woman, right. Who is accustomed to the high life, all right. And having all kinds of men shower her with gifts and money.

I'm going to give one example And again, it's never shade to any gender when I use them as an example but let's say there's a man who wants this ridiculously beautiful woman, right. Who is accustomed to the high life, all right. And having all kinds of men shower her with gifts and money.

And he knows one, he don't have money like that and two, he does not have the desire to keep up that lifestyle. But he's so infatuated with this woman he goes and he pulls out all the stops, fancy dinners, gifts, all these things and he gets her. But then after a few months the real him comes out and now he doesn't want to go to the nice restaurant. He doesn't want to take the nice trip.

And he knows one, he don't have money like that and two, he does not have the desire to keep up that lifestyle. But he's so infatuated with this woman he goes and he pulls out all the stops, fancy dinners, gifts, all these things and he gets her. But then after a few months the real him comes out and now he doesn't want to go to the nice restaurant. He doesn't want to take the nice trip.

He thinks that bag is way too expensive now, okay. And now she's pissed off because it's like wait a minute you sold me on this and to him it's oh, you're ungrateful or you're... No, you tricked her. You tricked her and you tricked yourself because you were so fixated on this type and this person but you never questioned can you really be that? Are you really that?

He thinks that bag is way too expensive now, okay. And now she's pissed off because it's like wait a minute you sold me on this and to him it's oh, you're ungrateful or you're... No, you tricked her. You tricked her and you tricked yourself because you were so fixated on this type and this person but you never questioned can you really be that? Are you really that?

And can you keep that going for the rest of your life? And if you can't, all right, go to a different type, a different type of you know, person whatever that fits who you are. And it goes back to really understanding who you are, accepting it and embracing the type of people who fit that individual.

And can you keep that going for the rest of your life? And if you can't, all right, go to a different type, a different type of you know, person whatever that fits who you are. And it goes back to really understanding who you are, accepting it and embracing the type of people who fit that individual.

My instinct is to say no. 100% no. Yeah, I'm with you. I think, to be honest, there's a level of insecurity there. All right? Now, don't get me wrong. I do think when we love someone, there may be at least some part of us, right, that's going to have an eye open to all this attention you're getting. For sure.

My instinct is to say no. 100% no. Yeah, I'm with you. I think, to be honest, there's a level of insecurity there. All right? Now, don't get me wrong. I do think when we love someone, there may be at least some part of us, right, that's going to have an eye open to all this attention you're getting. For sure.