Stephan Speaks

But to be bothered by it usually speaks to you not having a sureness in yourself, all right. And in the relationship. And in the relationship, exactly. And that's such a key. So, I want to give a quick story because I think this is... Please. Lines up perfectly.

But to be bothered by it usually speaks to you not having a sureness in yourself, all right. And in the relationship. And in the relationship, exactly. And that's such a key. So, I want to give a quick story because I think this is... Please. Lines up perfectly.

I once had a man he came to me he was having a problem in his marriage and his issue was his wife had this male best friend who she was showing all this attention to, okay. and he was like they would be arguing about this friend and she just doesn't want to let go of this friend and all these things.

I once had a man he came to me he was having a problem in his marriage and his issue was his wife had this male best friend who she was showing all this attention to, okay. and he was like they would be arguing about this friend and she just doesn't want to let go of this friend and all these things.

And I said well, listen, trying to argue against her friend when she's saying it's platonic, there's nothing there, you have nothing to worry about is a very difficult battle. let me ask you what's the quality of the relationship? And he's like, oh, it's not that great, we got some issues. I said okay, before we worry about this friend, let's focus on solidifying the relationship, all right.

And I said well, listen, trying to argue against her friend when she's saying it's platonic, there's nothing there, you have nothing to worry about is a very difficult battle. let me ask you what's the quality of the relationship? And he's like, oh, it's not that great, we got some issues. I said okay, before we worry about this friend, let's focus on solidifying the relationship, all right.

Let's make that strong, let's make that good and then see what happens. He hit me up, I want to say like three, four months later, he said man, your advice worked perfectly. Oh, I love that. By him shifting his focus to the relationship quality and fixing everything in there, the issue with the friend completely disappeared.

Let's make that strong, let's make that good and then see what happens. He hit me up, I want to say like three, four months later, he said man, your advice worked perfectly. Oh, I love that. By him shifting his focus to the relationship quality and fixing everything in there, the issue with the friend completely disappeared.

She naturally was not showing the friend anymore attention like she was anymore, just everything fell into place. So, going back to your point about jealousy, yes, I feel people aren't being honest with themselves that they do not feel secure in their relationship for various reasons. And this attention that your partner is getting is a threat to you.

She naturally was not showing the friend anymore attention like she was anymore, just everything fell into place. So, going back to your point about jealousy, yes, I feel people aren't being honest with themselves that they do not feel secure in their relationship for various reasons. And this attention that your partner is getting is a threat to you.

It is a threat that well, what if they like it so much they take someone up on their offer. All right, but if you really felt good about yourself in this relationship you're just not going to worry about it. And I think also it goes to a level of I'm going to use the word evolving in life and understanding that you cannot control everything.

It is a threat that well, what if they like it so much they take someone up on their offer. All right, but if you really felt good about yourself in this relationship you're just not going to worry about it. And I think also it goes to a level of I'm going to use the word evolving in life and understanding that you cannot control everything.

So, to me I just feel like and I have a feeling you're probably the same exact way. I'm not going to be worried about this attention you're getting because at the end of the day if you're going to do something wrong you're going to do it wrong. Me trying to police you it's a waste of my energy it is too stressful I don't want that life, all right. Do your thing.

So, to me I just feel like and I have a feeling you're probably the same exact way. I'm not going to be worried about this attention you're getting because at the end of the day if you're going to do something wrong you're going to do it wrong. Me trying to police you it's a waste of my energy it is too stressful I don't want that life, all right. Do your thing.

Now, if you do something you're not supposed to do you will pay a consequence I will let you go. But I'm not going to sit here and check on this and watch this or you can't go here. Man, do what makes you happy enjoy yourself and I want you to live in your truth. I don't want to suppress you in any kind of way. And I'm going to bring this up and I'm just going to say this is a theory.

Now, if you do something you're not supposed to do you will pay a consequence I will let you go. But I'm not going to sit here and check on this and watch this or you can't go here. Man, do what makes you happy enjoy yourself and I want you to live in your truth. I don't want to suppress you in any kind of way. And I'm going to bring this up and I'm just going to say this is a theory.

I'm not saying I'm accurate, but it's something for everyone to think about. So, talking about attention I do think that In most cases the dynamic is usually the woman getting a ton of attention and the man not knowing how to handle that. And there are a lot of men on the internet who like, they go in on these women who oh, you're always wanting this attention you're posting here.

I'm not saying I'm accurate, but it's something for everyone to think about. So, talking about attention I do think that In most cases the dynamic is usually the woman getting a ton of attention and the man not knowing how to handle that. And there are a lot of men on the internet who like, they go in on these women who oh, you're always wanting this attention you're posting here.

There was even celebrities once that talked about something like that and they went in on her. Anyways, I have this theory or this question I was like, what if attention for women is like sexual desire for men? And what I mean by that is you'll hear men make the argument of well, I can have sex with these different women and it's nothing.

There was even celebrities once that talked about something like that and they went in on her. Anyways, I have this theory or this question I was like, what if attention for women is like sexual desire for men? And what I mean by that is you'll hear men make the argument of well, I can have sex with these different women and it's nothing.