Stephan Speaks

It doesn't mean anything to me but they just enjoy the sex they would never leave the woman they love all these things and I'm not advocating for any cheating or anything I'm just explaining this dynamic.

It doesn't mean anything to me but they just enjoy the sex they would never leave the woman they love all these things and I'm not advocating for any cheating or anything I'm just explaining this dynamic.

Yes. Yeah. Well, that's how a lot of women view attention. She may enjoy attention, but she has no plan on entertaining any of those men. She will go back to her man, but she still likes to get a compliment. She likes to go out and hear people say, oh, you look good today. Oh my gosh, that dress is nice. But it's not because like she's this bad person. It just might be an inner desire. And...

Yes. Yeah. Well, that's how a lot of women view attention. She may enjoy attention, but she has no plan on entertaining any of those men. She will go back to her man, but she still likes to get a compliment. She likes to go out and hear people say, oh, you look good today. Oh my gosh, that dress is nice. But it's not because like she's this bad person. It just might be an inner desire. And...

Again, there's going to be different scales of that desire. There's going to be some women who don't want attention at all. They don't like it, right. But there's going to be others who love it. And I think sometimes we demonize these things and it goes back to understanding and respecting the differences between the genders and between individuals, okay.

Again, there's going to be different scales of that desire. There's going to be some women who don't want attention at all. They don't like it, right. But there's going to be others who love it. And I think sometimes we demonize these things and it goes back to understanding and respecting the differences between the genders and between individuals, okay.

And you, I think for a man or for a woman if you're dealing with that person what's important is to understand why they enjoy the attention. Where does that come from? Does it come from an inadequacy? Does it come from you not giving them attention? Are they starving at home so now they have to go outside to get it, right?

And you, I think for a man or for a woman if you're dealing with that person what's important is to understand why they enjoy the attention. Where does that come from? Does it come from an inadequacy? Does it come from you not giving them attention? Are they starving at home so now they have to go outside to get it, right?

Or is it someone who just they feed off of that stuff, they love it, but again, it doesn't make them a bad person. But to go back to your question, I don't think you have to be jealous of someone to love them. I can love you to death and not get jealous, you know, because again, I'm not worried about it. But I do think when we do get a little bit jealous, that's also, like, it's just normal.

Or is it someone who just they feed off of that stuff, they love it, but again, it doesn't make them a bad person. But to go back to your question, I don't think you have to be jealous of someone to love them. I can love you to death and not get jealous, you know, because again, I'm not worried about it. But I do think when we do get a little bit jealous, that's also, like, it's just normal.

But that goes back to the point, if you are looking to make them jealous is it because you're not getting what you need in this relationship in general?

But that goes back to the point, if you are looking to make them jealous is it because you're not getting what you need in this relationship in general?

Like, something is probably missing we're not... Because a lot of people will do things to just get a reaction out of their partner and it's because they want to see that you care. And if I have to see that you care that means you're not showing me in other ways or at least I'm not feeling it in other ways that you care. There's a disconnect there.

Like, something is probably missing we're not... Because a lot of people will do things to just get a reaction out of their partner and it's because they want to see that you care. And if I have to see that you care that means you're not showing me in other ways or at least I'm not feeling it in other ways that you care. There's a disconnect there.

So, rather than jumping to the whole make them jealous because that's a dangerous game to play because what people don't realize is yes, you may have succeeded in making them jealous but you may have also planted a seed of insecurity. And now they have to worry do you really want someone else's attention and time? Are you entertaining someone else?

So, rather than jumping to the whole make them jealous because that's a dangerous game to play because what people don't realize is yes, you may have succeeded in making them jealous but you may have also planted a seed of insecurity. And now they have to worry do you really want someone else's attention and time? Are you entertaining someone else?

And so now, you got this initial great feeling of their jealousy but what's the backlash that comes from it later on? You see what I'm saying, what have you created? So, to me you got to go to the... It's always about getting to the real root of the issue. Why are we behaving in this way? Why are we trying to make this happen?

And so now, you got this initial great feeling of their jealousy but what's the backlash that comes from it later on? You see what I'm saying, what have you created? So, to me you got to go to the... It's always about getting to the real root of the issue. Why are we behaving in this way? Why are we trying to make this happen?

Now, I think there's some couples where they just playfully do these things it's not that serious to them, right. And that's fine, but you just want to make sure this is not coming from an unhealthy place because you're going to create a more unhealthy situation.

Now, I think there's some couples where they just playfully do these things it's not that serious to them, right. And that's fine, but you just want to make sure this is not coming from an unhealthy place because you're going to create a more unhealthy situation.