Stephan Speaks

Well, my initial response is going to be you don't communicate with them at all, you let them go but... Let's say you already gone too deep. Yeah, and we know it's not always that simple. So, and this is part of the problem of not understanding ourselves coming into it. Because the reality is that levels of communication or what each person needs is going to differ, right.

Well, my initial response is going to be you don't communicate with them at all, you let them go but... Let's say you already gone too deep. Yeah, and we know it's not always that simple. So, and this is part of the problem of not understanding ourselves coming into it. Because the reality is that levels of communication or what each person needs is going to differ, right.

Some people need a lot of communication, some not much. And so, when you're dealing with someone who cannot communicate, I do think you have to ask yourself one, if this is not going to change are you going to be okay? And also, which types of discussions are we unable to have? So, for example, if a woman or man wants to be able to have like political discussions with their partner, right.

Some people need a lot of communication, some not much. And so, when you're dealing with someone who cannot communicate, I do think you have to ask yourself one, if this is not going to change are you going to be okay? And also, which types of discussions are we unable to have? So, for example, if a woman or man wants to be able to have like political discussions with their partner, right.

And their partner doesn't want to engage in that type of stuff. To me, that's not worth leaving them for. Now, of course everyone's different and if it's going to bother you to the point where it's going to affect your ability to show up in this relationship the way that you need to then you still should walk away regardless of what it means to me or how I view it or anyone else views it.

And their partner doesn't want to engage in that type of stuff. To me, that's not worth leaving them for. Now, of course everyone's different and if it's going to bother you to the point where it's going to affect your ability to show up in this relationship the way that you need to then you still should walk away regardless of what it means to me or how I view it or anyone else views it.

However, I do think one of the things we're missing in many relationships is understanding how we can supplement certain things, right. So, you know how they say it takes a village to raise a child? I think it takes a village to have successful marriages and relationships. Because okay, maybe... And again, I'm just going to use the women as an example. Let's say you had something

However, I do think one of the things we're missing in many relationships is understanding how we can supplement certain things, right. So, you know how they say it takes a village to raise a child? I think it takes a village to have successful marriages and relationships. Because okay, maybe... And again, I'm just going to use the women as an example. Let's say you had something

stress what happened to you today, you want to call your husband, right? But he's busy right now and he's busy a lot and that can be very frustrating. Okay, well, maybe you can supplement it by talking to your mom first or your female friend. That way you can get all your frustration out, you can vent, he can do his thing and then when he has more time later you can do a quick recap.

stress what happened to you today, you want to call your husband, right? But he's busy right now and he's busy a lot and that can be very frustrating. Okay, well, maybe you can supplement it by talking to your mom first or your female friend. That way you can get all your frustration out, you can vent, he can do his thing and then when he has more time later you can do a quick recap.

And now that works for everybody, you see what I'm saying? But the problem is for some people when your partner is your whole world and you don't have any outlets, this creates a lot of frustration and conflict. So, I do think that's one when we consider the whole communication issue.

And now that works for everybody, you see what I'm saying? But the problem is for some people when your partner is your whole world and you don't have any outlets, this creates a lot of frustration and conflict. So, I do think that's one when we consider the whole communication issue.

But if we're having issues with discussing our relationship problems, things that need to be addressed, that is... It's hard for me to give any kind of work around that because if we can't discuss it how can we fix it? You see and so, of course I'm all for you know, trying to understand what this person's hesitancy is, why they struggle in this way.

But if we're having issues with discussing our relationship problems, things that need to be addressed, that is... It's hard for me to give any kind of work around that because if we can't discuss it how can we fix it? You see and so, of course I'm all for you know, trying to understand what this person's hesitancy is, why they struggle in this way.

Because a lot of times it's not as simple as well, they just don't communicate. Totally. There's something going on maybe they feel like you're not going to listen to what they have to say they're used to being dismissed. Like, I have to throw out there I love women but women swear to the greatest communicators and a lot of times they're not, okay.

Because a lot of times it's not as simple as well, they just don't communicate. Totally. There's something going on maybe they feel like you're not going to listen to what they have to say they're used to being dismissed. Like, I have to throw out there I love women but women swear to the greatest communicators and a lot of times they're not, okay.

And they don't realize how in that moment because they're so... Women are so in tune with how they feel and they're so immersed in it that it's easy for them to become blind to how it's impacting someone else or how someone else is feeling in that same exact moment. See, when she's calm and cool she probably can pick up on things easy.

And they don't realize how in that moment because they're so... Women are so in tune with how they feel and they're so immersed in it that it's easy for them to become blind to how it's impacting someone else or how someone else is feeling in that same exact moment. See, when she's calm and cool she probably can pick up on things easy.

Right, but when she's passionate when she's feeling strongly about something whatever she's frustrated that blocks a lot. And so, a lot of women don't realize in their discussions with their partners how negative they were how dismissive they were all these things and the dude shuts down. And so, going forward he doesn't want to talk about anything because to him it's pointless.

Right, but when she's passionate when she's feeling strongly about something whatever she's frustrated that blocks a lot. And so, a lot of women don't realize in their discussions with their partners how negative they were how dismissive they were all these things and the dude shuts down. And so, going forward he doesn't want to talk about anything because to him it's pointless.