Stephanie R. Yates-Anyabwile

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1,222 appearances 107 recordings 4 series first heard Jun 2022 last heard 14 Sep

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TED Talks Daily · Talks on Love Playlist (1/5): Your relationship expectations could be holding you back | Stephanie R. Yates-Anyabwile · 12 Jun 2026 podcast

Now that I think about it, I bet her mom put her up to this.

What's interesting is that her parents did go on to get divorced, and my parents stayed together for 23 years before my mom passed away.

Now, do I think that's due to them commuting separately?

Of course not.

But I think it shows us two things.

First, it shows us that any deviation from the norm can be met with curiosity and even judgment.

It also shows us that sometimes when we decide to do things a little differently, we can avoid the difference between having a really challenging day as a couple or a smooth day by simply accepting our differences not as a couple, but as individuals.

Instead of trying to change our partners, what if we instead embraced their differences, our difference in values, and released the pressure of doing what everyone else is doing?

It's OK to be a stay-at-home dad.

It's OK if you prefer to travel without each other.

It's OK if you need to have your own bedrooms so you can maintain personal space and be sane for each other.

It's OK if you want to break tradition and create a new last name.

It's OK if you want to share your love on social media, but it's also OK if you want to protect it from public opinion.

It's OK if you're in a season of life where you both just cannot prioritize sex.

It's OK if people are confused about your relationship.

It was never theirs to understand in the first place.

If we continue to accept the narrative that relationships are hard, then we'll continue to do nothing about it.

If our relationships feel hard, I encourage us to reflect on what is hard about it.

Is it really the relationship, or is it external factors like our own personal trauma histories or work stress?

If it really is your relationship, let's really think about what you and your partner are willing to do differently to enjoy it again.

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