Stuart Shanker
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1,736 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Oct 2022
last heard 3 Jul
Stuart Shanker’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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There's a big smile now.
But the face is telling us through the she's calm now, she's grounded now, and that's what her face is expressing.
That's what the child hears, that's what the child processes.
So if you're calm, it comes through your facial expression, it comes through your eye gaze, it comes through it we it's called leakage and it leaks out through your nonverbal modes of communication.
That's all the kid is hearing.
If you're agitated,
that's what the kid hears.
So there's a story in the book that Debbie just mentioned about this teenage girl and she was going through every single night, she's thirteen and she's having a fight every single night with her mom and it would last her a couple of hours.
And the child was quite irrational.
You know, there's an awful lot of stresses that are going on in the in a thirteen year old.
And Mum was trying to explain why all these fears were irrational.
It was a wonderful kid.
And that just led to shouting and door slamming and nothing.
And so what the therapist said to mom, when you were sitting around a group table, was the next time this happens, you have to you have to ground yourself.
You have to calm yourself.
You have to it's only if you're calm that the child's gonna pick up on on on that calmness and not on your agitation.
So sure enough, a couple of days later, the kid had asked for a a pink hoodie like all the other girls, and Mum came home with a gray hoodie.
They were out of pink hoodies.
And so they had a rip roaring fight and Mum wanted to I'm not allowed to swear, right?
It was Mum who's for.
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