Stuart Shanker

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1,736 appearances 3 recordings 1 series first heard Oct 2022 last heard 3 Jul

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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children · TPP 305a: Stuart Shanker on What Self-Regulation Is, Why It Matters, and How to Help Our Children (and Ourselves) Do It Better · 3 Jul 2026 podcast

So that the child naturally wants to engage with us, wants to look at us, be with us.

And that's what we did, and that's what we reported on, we wrote papers on it.

But basically, what it means is that by getting that child to shift from a maladaptive way of dealing with their stress, namely shutting down, to an adaptive way, namely being with us.

Thus we were changing the child's trajectory.

This child now could seek out us, seek out their parents when they were overstressed.

And the big lesson that we learn from all this is it is no different for any kid, for any teenager, for any young adult.

If they are shutting down, avoiding us when they are overstressed because of COVID, because of global warming.

Because of political insanity.

When they are shutting down, the latest thing, the attack on gender dysphoria, when they shut down, go shrink into themselves, they are depriving themselves of oxytocin.

Parents ask us all the time: what's the healthiest thing for my kid to do when they're overstressed?

And the answer is, come to you.

The answer is come for a hug.

Don't offer it, don't impose it.

And what we learned is our little guys, as young as three, could do this.

And now I have uh a 20-year-old hulking son who's somewhere in the background, and he has learned very well, he's on the spectrum, and he's learned very well that when when life's a little bit too much for him, what he really needs is just a gentle voice.

voice and maybe some scratching on his arms.

He's ever since ever since he was a baby, he liked to be scratched.

But this is a huge lesson.

And it's a huge lesson, not just for our children, but for our entire society.

Okay, so suppose now, let's take as an example, I'm trying to talk with, you know, Uncle Joe, who is, you know, raving and ranting and ruining Thanksgiving, and, you know, whatever you pick your political topic.

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