Susan Stiffelman
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353 appearances
1 recordings
1 series
first heard Oct 2019
last heard Oct 2019
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We don't want to presume the worst about our kids' day.
But we also want to make it clear that if they're struggling and we have made effort to forge a connection, we've tried some creative things to make it easier for them to feel connected or seen or enjoyed by their teacher, that that it's safe for us to tell us and we we won't simply say, well, you shouldn't you shouldn't misbehave then or stop talking in class and you might you might like you more.
So that there's a freedom for the child to kind of know, yeah, n know that we understand this isn't this doesn't feel good.
And
I won't even go down the road of, you know, can you find a different teacher?
Because I know parents in your community are constantly looking for the best situation and the best setting for their child.
And in many cases there isn't a very good one.
So you make do with what you can and you make it the best that you can and then you augment or you supplement with some kind of activities outside of the school day where your child is really enjoyed and celebrated.
So they have something that kind of mitigates some of the challenge they might fa face in a traditional classroom.
There are a lot of ingredients to that.
Um, one of them is attachment, because in general when kids feel enjoyed by us and close to us and whatever however that looks with your particular child, for some it's very physical.
For some, they some children don't want physical contact, but they just want to smile or a pat on the head or they wanna sit side by side with you looking at pictures of horses, right?
Mm-hmm.
Um, so when attachment when when there's a hefty dose of friendly connecting activities with your child.
that aren't about getting them to do something or stop doing something and to get on to a task they'd rather not do, that can help.
When we're rested and we feel supported, that's why I love that you have your community, Debbie, because
When parents feel that there's a safe place for them to go to be re replenished or where they feel understood, that can make a huge difference in
how nourished and and supported we feel, which affects how we show up with our children.
And of course when we do our own work, when we look at the story that we're telling about our parenting or our child or how they should be.
and we kind of untangle some of those beliefs, it can make it easier to show up with less rigidity.
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