Tara Mohr

Picture, really play the movie in the most vivid way you can in your mind of I'm doing this.

Like, or what if I imagine taking a bold step towards it tomorrow?

And then fears are going to come up.

Like, and usually it's, it's not going to go well, or people aren't going to like it.

Or what if nobody responds?

And then we got to get out our pen and paper or talk to a supportive person and really get into like, what are those fears exactly?

Let me look at them in the light.

And what would my wisest, most loving self say to do about those fears?

the woman I want to be, how would she work with those fears?

When we really get quiet and ask ourselves that, like there's amazing answers always waiting for us.

It is completely different to write something than to try and think about it.

You know, again, I would say guilt is often about what we're afraid of being or what we're afraid of being perceived as.

So all of these, like, I don't want to be the selfish lady.

I don't want to be the too ambitious lady.

These are often things that two women will say.

You know, when we surveyed women in our community, we asked them, how many of you have been given the feedback in a professional setting that you're too aggressive, too direct or too abrasive?

And then we also asked how many were given the feedback that you're too quiet, you're too passive, or you lack executive presence.

So between the two of those, right, we're at 95%.

That's all of us.

Yeah, got us down.