Ted Nguyen
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard 20 Dec
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I thought this might be relatable to Ryan, but what I'm trying to figure out is the level of guilt we should feel if we were doing the experience that he offers to pay for that we otherwise wouldn't be able to do. Recently, we were all going to go get tickets to a sought after college football game, take all of our kids. That's a lot of tickets. And we were looking for normal bowl seats.
And then he just buys all of them right down by the field and tells us to send him whatever we would have paid anyway. Do you do that? He tries to do the same thing on vacation. We were picking somewhere to stay and he just books the best place and send what we want. I'm an adult with a wife and three kids. So how do I handle it? Do I struggle? and pay my full share on pride.
Do I swallow it and trust that he really means it and doesn't care to be clear. The amounts are definitely not affecting his personal situation whatsoever.
Um, good.
Um, no, I don't think, I think you have to look at it from the standpoint, like if he's just stepped up and now he's done this a couple of times, right? So he just said, screw it. I'm buying all these tickets. And then the vague, like,
do whatever you think is right thing or he didn't even say that which would have been a way worse way to phrase it like he gave you a really specific thing like hey whatever you're going to spend before just spend money that and then i've covered the rest of it uh you know look all of us are different right um and in this case i think you have to understand that part of his um joy of
of being able to do this stuff is that he can share it with somebody else. Right. I think this guy's coming from a pretty good place based on the description and the fact that he's booking a vacation and being like, look, I can afford this. This is the standard that I want to be at, but I also don't want you to feel bad. Now, granted, there's plenty of people listening right now.
And just to say pride wise, like I can't have you do that. I have friends. Um, there's one situation where a friend needs some help and he was like turning it down, turning it down. And finally, like a bunch of us just get together and we're like, we're not going to listen to him. Like, let's just, help our friend. He needs the help.
And of course it was a great thing and it didn't really impact us all that much. And it, and it changed, um, something for him at the time he needed it. And it was something we felt good about. Like, you know, we, we felt great that we were able to help our friend and there wasn't a moment where any of us felt like we were being asked to do something that we weren't comfortable doing.
So that's different because it was something that was far more serious. But in this case, I think what you have to understand is that he wants to be able to do
these things that he can afford but he wants to share them with somebody else and part of the reward of of having access to these different things and and just being able to have the financial freedom where he doesn't worry about it like so many of us would that you being a part of the activity with him is what he really wants because like dudes that are loaded like cool you can you can take a jet here you can stay in aspen or you know you can do all these different things
like other than me, very few people actually want to do this stuff by themselves. Uh, and I, for the record, I've never, ever taken a jet, uh, by myself where I've been like, whatever, this is a massive waste of money. Let me just go to Maui as I can. Uh, and I wouldn't, I don't think I would ever do that just by myself. Maybe who knows, never really, but, um, Just keep telling yourself that.
And as far as you and what you're supposed to do, follow his instructions. Don't feel like you have to be taxed for his aggressiveness because then you end up resenting it. And that leads to all sorts of other stuff.
I think we've even had emails on that where the one person decides this is where they want to stay and then everybody else feels like they're totally strapped or put out and then the vacation ends up being something they're kind of digging out of financially for a little while and they kind of get resentful about the whole thing.
So I remember when I was, you know, back in the day and the hockey guys would come back to Burlington and they were young and they immediately were making money. And it was just kind of understood like they were going to pay for the guys that couldn't pay. And you hope it works out down the line where you can repay them.
Sometimes you can't, but most of the people being generous about this aren't doing it because they feel like they're, I'm taking too long with this whole thing. They're not being taken advantage of. They actually really want to do this. So don't feel like you have to get dollar for dollar back to him.
And if it ends up being a pride thing, then stop going with him if it's going to bother you that much. But again, clearly the emailer is not saying that it's bothering him so much. So I think this is just a win for everybody. Life's rare like, hey, I think everybody's kind of right here. So don't worry about it.
Yeah, I mean, if he has enough money that none of this is ever going to bother him, I don't think he wants to be sitting 40 rows lower, turning around, waving to his friends.
Like, you know, I mean, plenty of rich guys are totally fine with it. And I think there's always something... to the rich guy in the group that pays for stuff because he wants to dictate every piece of the itinerary. So it's essentially his trip and there's a power play there.
Yeah. I mean, I've had a couple of friends where it is like that. Like you're, making it look like you're doing all of these things because you're such a gracious person. And ultimately what you're doing is controlling all of it. And that's when your boy checks out. That's when your boy's like, all right, I'm totally out of here. Or I'll upgrade in a different area. And then it's like, cool.
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