Terry Real
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
You know, this isn't about your bad behavior.
You're just a rotten person.
That's shame.
You have enough boundaries.
You have enough self-esteem.
You go, well, they're being abusive.
This is not the best part of them.
But rather than react to that, what are you so upset about, honey?
What can I give you right now?
And, oof, the beauty of these skills—
is that they work.
You react to the bad behavior on your partner's part and you're off.
This goes on for hours, days.
You duck under that and go, okay, you're upset.
What can I do to help you?
And all of that toxicity just passes through you.
That's a real man.
And it's like something that could have been misery for a day to a week,
It calms down in 10, 15 minutes because it's a good job.
And when I talk to guys, I want to redefine strength.