Terry Real

It was only 5% full a week ago.

Hey, you did a half-ass job.

Good for you.

What are we going to do to get the other half on?

But we're discouraging people because we don't want to be vulnerable and receive.

There's an art to receiving.

So there's an art on both sides of how to work a relationship.

And I have to teach women how to be more empowering of their partner and less complaining of them.

And I believe in that.

And that's often their work.

But

You can't sit around and wait for your partner to do it right.

You have to be able to respond.

On Tuesday, they do it beautifully.

On Thursday, they're a goddamn asshole, but you still have to respond well.

This is your own integrity, and it's a great freedom to take it upon yourself to behave with integrity and skill.

independent of what your partner's doing on their side of the seesaw.

It doesn't always work, but it's your best shot.

And you don't have to be a slave to their immaturity.

If every time they're immature, you jump in the mud pit with them, you're a flag in their wind.