Terry Real

And unfortunately, because so many men are so unrelational, we're going to change that.

That's what you get.

And if dad is distant from me, dad's also distant from mom.

And mom is brokenhearted emotionally.

And traditionally, mom's brokenhearted and not doing much about it, just resenting it and suffering it.

Downloading a lot of that feeling to me, whether she means to or not, I just pick it up.

And then I move into some skewed relationship where I'm parenting her instead of being parented by her.

She doesn't have to do a thing.

She can be the world's greatest mom explicitly, but I'm feeling her distress and stepping in to that.

And then I have a hard time with relationships as an adult.

Man, we call this being a love avoided.

It's like my template for relationships is I'm caretaking you.

You don't really care about me.

So I'll be in the relationship, but I don't want to get swallowed up by you.

So I'll be in the relationship, but I'll also be very distant.

In that way, the distance gets replicated generation by generation by generation.

They're better.

They ain't no angels.

Women have to learn a few things, too.

They have to learn to be subjective.