Terry Real
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
It's really tempting because I do know more about relationships than my guy to start feeling like I'm his coach.
I'm going to teach him what he needs to do.
That's an arrogant position.
That's a grandiose position.
Stay humble.
I can teach you what I need.
I'm not your relational coach.
That's a trap.
Women have to learn how to speak relationally also.
So story, I love to tell stories.
This is a true story.
And this is the example I give about stepping out of our usual cultural framework and learning how to think relationally.
How many of people listening can relate to this one?
She to him, you're a reckless driver.
Him to her, you're overly nervous.
How many of us have sat through that one?
And they get into what I call an objectivity battle.
You marshal your evidence, you argue your case.
Well, you do this, you do that, you're reckless.
Well, you're overly nervous about this.