Toby Stuart

But there are times where it's pretty damn stressful to be the alpha, right?

Oh, yeah, yeah.

Yeah.

How would one with high status react to it?

So I argue there are four responses to this.

So one, which was my experience of it, is some version of the imposter syndrome.

Because what happens is, particularly if you study this, then you realize that if professionally, say, things go really, really well, you're kind of by definition out over your skis.

Because you get these things and you get this recognition, but you didn't

really fully earn it.

I could retell the story of my career, but there were a lot of lucky breaks and then a lot of things that led to an early bit of good fortune that then is like the fish tank, where then the status compounds.

And then the upshot of that is you realize that people expect you to be special, but you're maybe just about the same as everybody else in the room.

The person you beat up for this.

Yeah, exactly.

And not in others.

Yeah.

Where you're expected to have discerning judgment, which is the Yahoo story.

You have status in one domain.

You're a good actor, but why does that make you a good podcaster?

Right.

It's a very different skill.