Tony Robbins

If I do the right thing at the right time, I get the reward.

But if I do the right thing at the wrong time, which three quarters of the time was the wrong time, I get nothing.

Once we understood that, okay, and then I got to protect it during the summer, then I get to reap in the fall and I better hang on to some of that for the winter.

That's why we're here not living like survivalists, right?

think of your relationship as four seasons.

Think of the first season as the season of just pure chemistry.

Pure romance, which you've read about and everything else, where you don't even know the other person's values, but you're in love with them because you've got the chemistry for it, right?

And we all have that experience.

But that's about a...

three to five year max for most people, right?

After three to five years, some of that wears off.

And by the way, when you're under the chemistry of something and you have the attraction going, everything your partner does is beautiful and wonderful.

But when all of a sudden you get to the point where there'll be some clashes, oh, we have different ideas about parenting.

Oh, we have different ideas about economics.

Then all of a sudden the chemistry can disappear a little bit.

And that is the testing time.

Most people that...

three to five, maybe seven years max season, if they don't get their needs met, they leave because they think I'm in a relationship to get my needs met.

The purpose of relationship is not a place to go get.

The purpose of relationship is a place you go give, and that's what lights you up.