Trent Shelton

And so that's helped me so much by saying one of my main principles is I am going to keep peace in my life and I'm not gonna start a war within myself. And I'm not gonna worry about who feels a certain way. I'm not gonna worry about the private conversation and that'll become public information and the talks behind the backs and oh, Trent's like this.

And so that's helped me so much by saying one of my main principles is I am going to keep peace in my life and I'm not gonna start a war within myself. And I'm not gonna worry about who feels a certain way. I'm not gonna worry about the private conversation and that'll become public information and the talks behind the backs and oh, Trent's like this.

And I'm not worried about that no more because I'm choosing to keep my peace because a life without peace is nothing. And so, yeah, I wanted to share that because I know a lot of people are starting wars within themselves.

And I'm not worried about that no more because I'm choosing to keep my peace because a life without peace is nothing. And so, yeah, I wanted to share that because I know a lot of people are starting wars within themselves.

They're carrying these internal battles and wars and they're driving themselves crazy, stressed out, burnt out, depression, because they won't say their peace or they won't set that boundary.

They're carrying these internal battles and wars and they're driving themselves crazy, stressed out, burnt out, depression, because they won't say their peace or they won't set that boundary.

Absolutely. I think a lot of people are afraid, Jamie, to let people down.

Absolutely. I think a lot of people are afraid, Jamie, to let people down.

Well, you should be afraid to let the most important person down in your life is yourself. And so every time you are choosing not to set a boundary or not to say no, or even say yes on the flip side, you might need to say yes to something else. And you're so afraid to let people down, you're letting yourself down. Yeah.

Well, you should be afraid to let the most important person down in your life is yourself. And so every time you are choosing not to set a boundary or not to say no, or even say yes on the flip side, you might need to say yes to something else. And you're so afraid to let people down, you're letting yourself down. Yeah.

over and over and you get to that point where that war inside you becomes stress, you become disconnected, you become, you lose the vibrancy of life. And it's like, man, and I'm gonna say this, and this is kind of a curve ball, but I talked about this the other day on my social media, because the thing that I see too with social, it's not even like the people around you.

over and over and you get to that point where that war inside you becomes stress, you become disconnected, you become, you lose the vibrancy of life. And it's like, man, and I'm gonna say this, and this is kind of a curve ball, but I talked about this the other day on my social media, because the thing that I see too with social, it's not even like the people around you.

Like some of us, we don't wanna let down strangers on the internet. And I literally posted this the other day. I said, the people that you don't want to let down, the people you're trying to smile for the camera, die behind the scenes or whatever it is, those people will not be at your funeral. And losing mom, like I got to see the people that she kept wars for wasn't there. Yeah.

Like some of us, we don't wanna let down strangers on the internet. And I literally posted this the other day. I said, the people that you don't want to let down, the people you're trying to smile for the camera, die behind the scenes or whatever it is, those people will not be at your funeral. And losing mom, like I got to see the people that she kept wars for wasn't there. Yeah.

Wasn't bringing flowers to her grave. So I'm like, okay, like I get it now. And I'm not saying everybody who you're starting a war with in yourself is not going to support you or be there for you. But I saw that. And so I'm like, I'm not living for to please. I call in the book professional people pleasers. That's what we are. Triple P's. We want to please.

Wasn't bringing flowers to her grave. So I'm like, okay, like I get it now. And I'm not saying everybody who you're starting a war with in yourself is not going to support you or be there for you. But I saw that. And so I'm like, I'm not living for to please. I call in the book professional people pleasers. That's what we are. Triple P's. We want to please.

And a lot of pleasing comes from the desire. We put our worth in being needed so much. And we don't feel like we're pleasing people. Oh, I'm not needed. So if I'm not needed, I don't have value. And so for me, I've learned how to start with myself. And I'm not trying to make this a selfish thing, but if I'm not giving myself what I need, how can I be the greatest self for those that need me to be?

And a lot of pleasing comes from the desire. We put our worth in being needed so much. And we don't feel like we're pleasing people. Oh, I'm not needed. So if I'm not needed, I don't have value. And so for me, I've learned how to start with myself. And I'm not trying to make this a selfish thing, but if I'm not giving myself what I need, how can I be the greatest self for those that need me to be?

How can I be the greatest self for my kids, for my wife, for my community? So I want to tell everybody, listen to this, man. Stop losing yourself trying to please strangers on the internet. trying to please people who literally are going to just jump on the next bandwagon. We've seen this over and over.

How can I be the greatest self for my kids, for my wife, for my community? So I want to tell everybody, listen to this, man. Stop losing yourself trying to please strangers on the internet. trying to please people who literally are going to just jump on the next bandwagon. We've seen this over and over.