Tyler McAllister
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114 appearances
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1 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
Tyler McAllister’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Yeah. Dude, I think, I think that second, the first one's awesome, right? Like how can I get better in this? I think that's just fun to dream that way. But the second one I think is like one of the most powerful things that you can tell yourself in any situation, relationships, business, spiritually, right? Like I just got to like breathe, trust in the unknown.
We can influence it. We can impact it.
There's definitely a facade. In less than control, it's more like control the response. I love Urban Meyer, his little equation, E plus R equals O. Have you heard that one? No. It comes from his book, Above the Line, which is absolutely phenomenal. It stands for event plus response equals outcome.
And essentially he says, if you want to impact and control the outcome, you just have to learn how to control the response. You're never going to be able to control the event events happen. And it's this all, it's the same mentality, right? Like events happen, like employees are outraged. Uh, somebody's quitting a million dollar fine, whatever, whatever, right.
This is an event, literally no control over it. Right? Like, You may have been able to impact it before, but it's already happened. Here it is. Nothing's changing it. And so it's OK. This is the event. How am I going to respond if I want this outcome? And so the thing he always talks about is like, OK, understand what the outcome you want.
And say, if I wanted this outcome, how would I respond to this situation? Press pause. How would I respond in this situation to it? So like bringing a relationship, right? Like the outcome I want in my relationship with my wife is I want an eternal companion that's always with me. We're strong. We love each other. We laugh together. We have a good time, right? Like all the different things, right?
That's the outcome I always desire, right? events, wife come up to me and says, yo, I want a divorce like that hasn't happened. Andrea, I love you. But say that was the event, right? In that moment, if I can press pause and realize, OK, what outcome do I want? How would I respond to that situation? Right.
Versus like I'm not clear on the outcome I want and I'm not willing to press pause that when that event happens, like I just like react and respond in a way that's like, what are you talking about? Like, I thought things were good. You know, that's like versus like, hey, babe, clearly I've done something wrong. Right. Like I if you are feeling this way, like that's blindsided me a little bit here.
I'm committed to being your number one. I want this. How can we work on this? That's a completely different response. And it's the same in business. I want to sell my business for $100 million. I get a million dollar fine and we have 10 grand in the bank account, right? How am I gonna respond to this particular situation if that's the outcome that I desire, right?
Versus, you know, and so it's just constantly like keeping your eternal, I guess you'd say, or like future perspective of outcome. And so, and not necessarily controlling it, but more just controlling like the response and, And hoping for a better future.
And and I what I would interpret that as is like, I think I think where control goes wrong is when we try to control others rather than control ourselves. Yeah. Right. Like I think because because what you're saying is like, I just need to control being my best version and and understand that others are going to be the way they are and things are going to happen for a reason.
And I think where frustration happens in regards to control is when I want to take away your choice or somebody else's and get this perfect scenario that I have imagined up in my mind.
I love it. Well, everybody, Tyler, appreciate you being on, uh, being on the show is a lot of fun. Just having a good conversation about everything. Yeah, man. Appreciate you guys. Yeah. Yeah. It's, uh, look forward to spending the next few days here in Hawaii together. It's going to be a good time. Likewise. As a reminder, uh,
If you haven't taken a look into our programs, The Next Level Pros, we have coaching, consulting, workshops, masterminds, all the goodness that we'd love to help you out. And no matter where you're at, business, life, whatever, it's all about the trajectory that you're on and getting yourself to the next level. Until next time.
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