Vivian Tu

Yeah.

yeah, he's always made more money than I did until I started Your Rich BFF.

And he answered in a really, really thoughtful way.

And he was like, no, why wouldn't I want you to make more money so that we can do the things we want to do faster and I can retire earlier?

And I'm like, okay, sick, easy.

And he's like, but on top of that, like,

you can't make your partner feel bad that's the part that's really messed up i think like regardless of if you know the guy makes more the girl makes more the where you'll see issues is where the partner who makes more leans on that money to replace actual emotional investment in the relationship so like

Venmoing your partner $200 because you can't make that date.

That's trying to buy affection instead of being like, I am so sorry.

And then the next day, sending roses.

You're still spending money.

You're still getting a gift.

You're saying sorry, but it's not so transactional and gross.

And then on the women's side, it's like making your partner feel bad.

Like, well, I earned this money.

It's like, you know, why are you going out golfing?

Right.

I don't think money should be like held over anybody's head regardless of who you are in a relationship or if just, you know, between friends because that's going to negatively impact relationships no matter what.

A fear of inadequacy, obviously.

I mean, I don't mean to say like, obviously, you don't think about that.