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Thanks for believing me when I said that to you.

But it didn't sound like it was her choice.

A mutual friend is also concerned after seeing the way he talked to her.

The weird part is that despite them being together for over six years, I've never really known them as a couple.

I've never spent meaningful time with them together.

So I know some of the red flags, but also none of the green flags.

I know her from a distance.

I used to know him and I don't know their relationship.

Now they're getting married and I can't tell if my discomfort is because A, I've picked up on things that genuinely concern me.

B, I'm grieving the friendship we used to have.

C, I'm struggling to accept that she's become a completely different person.

Or D, I'm simply being an arsehole because I don't personally relate to the life she's chosen.

The thing is, if she told me tomorrow she was starting a business, moving abroad, writing a book or training for a marathon, I'd be her biggest cheerleader.

A wedding, a church, a traditional family setup.

I honestly have to work a lot harder to access that same enthusiasm.

And here's the part I'm really stuck on.

Do I say something?

I've recently watched other friends come out of abusive relationships, messy divorces and financially controlling situations.

I would say that...

that your friend is big enough and bold enough to make around decisions.