Xander Marin

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3,285 appearances 11 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2026 last heard today

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Pillow Talks · E276: How Do You Turn Your Partner On? (When You've Been Together For Years) · 3 Sep 2026 podcast

Yeah, so this fits on top of the desire types that we just talked about. podcast-host

Because the desire types are about when and how you feel desire, but they don't say anything about specifically how you enjoy having sex initiated. podcast-host

So it's, you know, with the desire types, it's understanding, okay, this is when I might be more open to sex. podcast-host

This is when my partner and when and how my partner might be more open to sex. podcast-host

Then the adding the initiation styles on top of that is understanding, okay, now how do we actually get it started? podcast-host

What language do we use? podcast-host

What energy do we use? podcast-host

So this is getting even more like tactical, like actually getting down to the nuts and bolts of okay, what do you say? podcast-host

How do you say it? podcast-host

Now that I understand my partner's desire type and I understand podcast-host

When the highest likelihood is podcast-host

for them to be open to sex or open to being turned on. podcast-host

Now you use the initiation styles to go, okay, now this is how I know that they like to get it started. podcast-host

Yeah, well, but we are tot we're totally different. podcast-host

Not totally, but we are partially different when it comes to the desire types. podcast-host

Yeah, so I think that you can, as Vanessa describes that, you can probably start to see or understand really how this differs, how this is an important piece of information to have on top of the desire types. podcast-host

Because remember when we were talking about desire types, we talked about that first one where I was like, you know, so hey, someone that is a brain and physical first desire type, they might, you know, they might be really open to any kind of initiation. podcast-host

or being turned, you know, something that might turn them on in any given moment. podcast-host

But now that you've heard all of these different initiation styles, what you would actually say at any given random moment could be very different based on any of those. podcast-host

Is it something that is more connection? podcast-host

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