Activity Overview
Episode publication activity over the past year
E234: Tie Breakers: Passwords, Period Sex, and Passenger Princesses (We’re Settling It Once and for All)
13 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re bringing back one of our favorite games, Tie-Breakers! You sent in the recurring ...
E233: Our Most Viral Tips (That Actually Changed People’s Sex Lives)
06 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Whether you’ve been with us from the start or just found the podcast, this episode is basically a ...
E232: Trick or Treat: The Bedroom Edition
30 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week’s episode is a little spooky, a little silly, and a whole lot of sexy. Since Hallowee...
E231: When Life Gets Heavy (A Personal Update)
23 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve always promised to keep things real with you — the good, the messy, and everything in betw...
E230 How to Actually Enjoy Oral Sex (Without Overthinking It)
16 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk about oral. We’ve all had those moments where oral feels way more awkward than aro...
E229: Ask A Sex Therapist: Swallowing, Fetishes, + Ex’s
09 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Every week on Instagram, we host “Ask Us Anything” sessions. And honestly? We get way more quest...
E228: Breaking Down A Real-Life Text Fight (pt 2.)
02 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve been there: the dreaded text fight. One message gets misread, emotions spike, and sudden...
E227: Initiation: What You’re Getting Wrong And How To Get It Right
25 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Hot take: when you finally get initiation right, your entire sex life opens up. Think about it. N...
E226: Foreplay Frustrations: How to Get More (and Better) Foreplay
18 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know that 64% of people say they want more foreplay than they currently get? And most people...
E225: The Truth About Sex and Aging: Menopause, Erectile Dysfunction, and Libido
11 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Aging is inevitable. But letting your sex life fade away? Nope. This week, we’re tackling one of ...
E224: The Ultimate Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys & Tools
04 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There is absolutely zero shame in using toys in the bedroom. In fact, they can be a game-changer for...
E223: Sex After Baby: Postpartum Sex, Intimacy & Desire
28 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The postpartum stage can be one of the hardest (and least talked about) seasons a couple will ever g...
E222: The AI Girlfriend: How to Protect Your Relationship from Artificial Intimacy
21 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine this: your partner sits you down and says they want to open your marriage… Not for a real...
E221: How to Explore Your Kinks Without Shame (Cuckolding, Pegging, Breeding, and more)
14 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered why you have a certain kink? Or if it’s OK to fantasize about someone else during se...
E220: A Partner’s Guide To The Female Orgasm
07 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The female orgasm: we’ve talked about it a lot over the years, but it never stops being one of the...
E219: The Truth About Female Orgasm: Your Q’s Answered!
31 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve probably heard people say, “Oh, you’ll just know.” But what if… you don’t know? ...
EPISODE 218 Got the Ick? Why It Happens in Relationships + What to Do About It pt. 2
24 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You thought last week’s icks were bad? Buckle up, friend. Because in Part 2, we’re getting in...
EPISODE 217: Got the Ick? Why It Happens in Relationships + What to Do About It
17 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You love your person… but lately… the sound of them chewing is making you cringe. You’ve go...
EPISODE 216: The Truth About Being Passive In Bed: And How To Take Control
10 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Does this sound familiar? Your partner asks you to take control in the bedroom… and your brain com...
EPISODE 215: Mismatched Sex Drive Types: The #1 Reason Couples Struggle With Desire
03 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Does it ever feel like you and your partner are just never on the same page when it comes to sex? O...
EPISODE 214: The Truth About Being Touch-Starved (Even In A Happy Relationship)
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
This week, we’re diving into something that seems simple but holds a lot of power in your relation...
EPISODE 213: What Do Men REALLY Think About…? Part 3 (Doggy Style, Aging, Leg Hair & More!)
20 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever wanted a peek inside a man’s brain? 🧠 We’re back with Part 3 of one of our m...
EPISODE 212: Why You Flinch When Your Partner Touches You (And How To Fix It) "The Bristle Reaction”
12 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you heard of The Bristle Reaction? It’s a term Vanessa coined—and when we posted about it o...
EPISODE 211: Ask A Sex Therapist: Penis Pumps, Pegging, + Postpartum Sex
05 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Ask a sex therapist is back! Have you ever Googled something about sex and then immediately delet...
EPISODE 210: How To Know When Enough Is Enough
29 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Maybe it’s a gross habit that totally kills the mood… Maybe it’s a bigger issue that leaves...
EPISODE 209: Mental Load: The #1 Desire Killer
22 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Does sex feel like a chore to you? According to 86% of our audience? Yes. Maybe sex doesn’t fe...
EPISODE 208: Stuck In A Relationship Rut? Here’s Your 4-Week Fix
15 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
In this episode, we’re giving you a realistic, 4-week plan to help you and your partner get out of...
EPISODE 207 The Foreplay Episode: The 5 Things We’re All Getting Wrong
08 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Ready for our go-to masterclass on one of the most overlooked (but absolutely essential) parts of in...
EPISODE 206: Butt Stuff 101: Everything You’re Too Afraid To Ask
01 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We’re bringing back a fan favorite this week… and yep, we’re going there. Butt stuff. 🍑 ...
EPISODE 205: Couples Coaching Session: How To Ask For More Even If You Don’t Know What You Want
24 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We’re back this week with another coaching episode — where we listen to real voice notes from re...
EPISODE 204: Confessions Of An Overactive Bladder
17 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
If you’ve ever joked about “peeing just a little” when you sneeze, or you’re the kind of per...
EPISODE 203: Is This Cheating? Part 2
10 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Is it cheating if you go to sex club… but just to watch? What about a flirty Snapchat streak with...
EPISODE 202: Am I being defensive, or am I defending myself?
03 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We’ve all had that moment — your partner brings something up, and suddenly you’re snapping bac...
EPISODE 201: Couples Coaching Session: They Love Each Other… So Why Does Their Sex Life Feel Stuck?
27 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
🎙️ Welcome to our very first coaching episode! Ever feel stuck in your sex life — like you k...
EPISODE 200: 200 Episodes Later: Let’s Get Personal! (Ask Us Anything)
20 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
🎉 We made it to 200 episodes! 🎉 It’s wild to think about how far this podcast has come. The...
EPISODE 199: Am I The Asshole? Masturbation, Snooping, and Jealousy
13 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We’re back with a fan-favorite series—Am I The Asshole? 🎉 You know we love diving into the w...
EPISODE 198: Stop Doing THIS If You Want More Sex (Initiation Fixes You Need to Know)
06 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Initiating sex in your relationship should feel exciting, not frustrating—but let’s be real… f...
EPISODE 197: Ask A Sex Therapist - Resentment, Sexual Frustration, And The Death Grip
27 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Ever wish you had a sex therapist on speed dial? We get so many questions every week (because you ...
EPISODE 196: 90 Prompts to Transform Your Sex Life (We Answer Some Live!)
20 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
🔥 Let’s talk about sex—but let’s make it fun, flirty, and way less awkward. In this episode...
Episode 195: Giddyup, Cowgirl! Tips, Tricks, & Techniques For Maximum Pleasure
13 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Cowgirl is one of the most empowering positions in the bedroom—so why do so many of us avoid it? 🤠...
Episode 194: What Your Partner Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom Part 2
06 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever wondered if there’s something you do in the bedroom that your partner secretly (or n...
Episode 193: The Things We Can’t Say In The Comments
30 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Ever wonder what we really want to say when someone leaves a spicy comment on one of our social medi...
Episode 192: “Is This Normal?” Part 4 — Low Desire Husband, Never Had A Fight, & Baby Talk
23 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We’re diving into part 4 of one of our favorite series, “Is This Normal?” We’ll be explorin...
Episode 191: Breaking Free From Purity Culture And Religious Shame
16 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
If you were raised in Purity Culture, you already know how challenging it can be to overcome now tha...
Episode 190: Am I Being Reasonable Or Ridiculous?
09 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever wanted something from your partner, but found yourself wondering, “Am I asking too m...
Episode 189: Can We Have A Fresh Start? Or Is It Too Late?
02 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
It’s officially 2025 and you might be feeling like your relationship could use a fresh start. We a...
Episode 188: Is Your Ultimatum Going To Work?
26 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We were feeling inspired… The Ultimatum is back on Netflix, and it was wild. It left us wondering ...
Episode 187: Am I The Asshole? The Holiday Edition Part 2
19 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Tis the Season for DRAMA! We’re so excited to bring you another hilarious “Am I The Asshole?” ...
Episode 186: Period Sex, Internal Vs External Processors, & Queer In A Straight Relationship
12 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
There are a ton of topics we want to cover on this podcast, but sometimes we just don’t have enoug...
Episode 185: How To Navigate Porn In Your Relationship
05 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Today we’re tackling one of the trickiest and most controversial topics we get asked about - porn....
Episode 184: How To Get More Physical Intimacy From Your Partner
27 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Do you want more physical intimacy in your relationship? In this episode, we’re talking about diff...
Episode 183: How To Get More Emotional Intimacy From Your Partner
21 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Do you want more emotional intimacy in your relationship? In today’s episode, we’re covering wha...
Episode 182: “Help! I’m Not Into My Partner’s Fantasy!”
14 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
What happens when you have a fantasy that your partner is just not into? When your “yum” is thei...
Episode 181: A Brutally Honest Relationship Check-In
07 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
How are we really doing? We had a plan to talk about a different topic, but once we sat down in fron...
Episode 180: Smash Or Pass: We Try The Weirdest Women’s Magazines Sex Tips
31 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
It’s time for another edition of one of our most popular series, Smash or Pass! This is where we t...
Episode 179: All Your Female Orgasm Questions: Answered!
24 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
What’s the difference between a clitoral orgasm, g-spot orgasm, and cervical orgasm? What’s squi...
Episode 178: Tie-Breakers: We Solve Your Relationship Standoffs
17 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We’re bringing one of our favorite Instagram games to the podcast, Tie-Breakers! We asked our comm...
Episode 177: Why You Should Try Mutual Masturbation And How To Do It
10 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Mutual masturbation is one of the sexiest things you can do in the bedroom! But when we asked our au...
Episode 176: Is This Cheating?
03 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Is it cheating to keep nudes from past relationships? Have an Only Fans account? Have a “work wife...
Episode 175: “Should I Put Up With This In The Bedroom?”
26 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Is there something your partner does in the bedroom that you’re not sure you should put up with? ...
Episode 174: Ask Us Anything: Addressing All Of Your Assumptions
19 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Does Vanessa wear the pants in the relationship? Are we skipping out on meetings to have sex in the ...
Episode 173: I’m Attracted To Someone Else, What Do I Do?
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Ever found yourself feeling attracted to someone else despite being in a committed monogamous relati...
Episode 172: Bring Sex Toys Into Your Bedroom (Without Making It Weird)
05 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you wanted to bring a sex toy into the bedroom but been worried about your partner’s response...
Episode 171: Your Funniest Stories About Getting “The Talk”
29 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
“When mommy and daddy lock the bedroom door…” We’ve all been there at some point in our chi...
Episode 170: What Do Women Really Think About ___? Part 2
22 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We’re back with Part 2 of our “What Do Women Really Think About…?” series. We turned to our ...
Episode 169: Is This Your Shit Or Mine? Part 2
15 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Ever had a frustrating situation with a partner that left you wondering, “Is this your problem to ...
Episode 168: Long Distance? How To Keep The Spark Alive
08 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Long distance relationships are hard! About 14 million people are in long distance relationships in ...
Episode 167: Should We Open Our Relationship?
01 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever considered opening your relationship? Or just ever felt nosy about why other people op...
Episode 166: How To Create More Privacy For Sex
25 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Does a lack of privacy get in the way of your sex life? You’re not alone. 62% of our audience say ...
Episode 165: How To Actually Be Vulnerable With Your Partner
18 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Did you know that only 24% of people said they’re happy with the level of vulnerability in their r...
Episode 164: Why You Need To Flirt In Your Relationship And How To Do It
11 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Your partner wants you to flirt with them more! But the majority of us feel like we don’t know HO...
Episode 163: Should We Have A Threesome?
04 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies, but most of us feel completely clueless about how t...
Episode 162: “Is This Normal?” Part 3 — More Questions You Never Dared To Ask Out Loud
27 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Get ready for the highly anticipated third act to one of our most popular episodes yet - Is This Nor...
Episode 161: We’re In Couples Therapy - Ask Us Anything!
20 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Today we’re getting ULTRA personal, and answering all your questions about our recent experience i...
Episode 160: These 4 Communication Mistakes Cause Breakups
13 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Are these four communication mistakes ruining your relationship? In today’s episode we’re reveal...
Episode 159: “Why Do Guys Do This?” - Xander Explains Male Behavior Part 2
06 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Xander’s back in the hot seat answering all your burning questions about male behavior! Why do guy...
Episode 158: Maybe It’s Not Low Libido…
30 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
When the spark dies off in a relationship, it’s really easy to blame it on libido. But is libido a...
Episode 157: Come on a Double Date with Us! (“Know Ya Boo” Part 2)
23 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Welcome to our 2nd round of “Know Ya Boo” (bonus points if you get the Parks and Rec reference)....
Episode 156: What To Do When It’s Been A While… (The Dry Spell Episode)
16 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
What do you do when it’s been a while… When you don’t remember the last time you had sex. When...
Episode 155: Am I The Asshole? In-Laws Edition
09 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We’re back again with another edition of Am I The Asshole. This time around we’re talking about ...
Episode 154: How To Stop Feeling Resentment In Your Relationship
02 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
A few weeks ago we asked our community if they felt resentment in their relationship and only 29% sa...
Episode 153: The Secret Foreplay Technique You Don’t Even Know About
25 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Imagine this… you’re crawling into bed at the end of the night, thinking, “Hmmm sex sounds nic...
Episode 152: Breaking Down A Text Fight
18 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You’ve had a fight over text message with your partner, right? Most of us have! Maybe you sent a t...
Episode 151: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up About Sex (Even If They’re Resistant)
11 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
If you’re a Pillow Talks listener, you’re probably on board with the idea of talking about sex o...
Episode 150: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Volume 3)
04 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We really went there… It’s time for another round of Smash or Pass! The series where we fin...
Episode 149: Partner Having Penis Performance Problems? Here’s What To Do - And What Not To Do
28 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
“This, uh, isn’t working…” Most of us have experienced a partner having some performance is...
Episode 148: “Help Me See Where My Partner Is Coming From!” (Advice Episode)
21 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
“I just don’t understand where you’re coming from.” Have you ever been in the heat of a...
Episode 147: Your Sexual Fantasies Revealed
14 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever wondered what everyone secretly fantasizes about? We anonymously polled our audience, ...
Episode 146: Are You Nagging? Or Is Your Partner Being Childish?
07 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
75% of people say that nagging is an issue in their relationship. So we thought it was time we gave ...
Episode 145: What Your Partner Secretly Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom
29 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever wondered what your partner REALLY thinks about your performance in the bedroom? W...
Episode 144: We’re In Couples Therapy
22 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Surprise! We’re in couples therapy. We sat down and recorded one of our most vulnerable episode...
Episode 143: The Body Confidence Episode - How To Feel Good In Your Skin During Sex
15 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Today, we’re tackling a huge issue that so many people can relate to… feeling uncomfortable in y...
Episode 142: Are You Lazy In Bed? Here’s What Your Partner Says…
08 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Today we’re asking a tough question… Are you lazy in bed? And an even harder one… Would your p...
Episode 141: How To Get Your Partner To Be More Romantic
01 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
79% of our community members want their partners to be more romantic. Romance seems to come so easy ...
Episode 140: What Your Sex Personality Type Says About You In The Bedroom
25 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You might already know that you’re a 3 on the Enneagram, a generator in human design, or an ENTJ i...
Episode 139: Xander’s Vasectomy Part 2: Answering Your Questions About Pain, Performance, And Masculinity
18 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Snip snap! We’re back with part 2 of Xander’s vasectomy journey. (Start with part 1 if you want ...
Episode 138: Your Funniest Foreplay Fails
11 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We asked you to share your funniest foreplay fails, and you REALLY delivered! Today we’re sharing ...
Episode 137: Xander Got A Vasectomy!
04 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Xander got a vasectomy! By popular demand, we’re walking you through the entire process - how a...
Episode 136: The Top 10 Pillow Talks Podcast Moments of 2023
28 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
2023 has been one wild ride! This podcast - all 136 episodes so far - has been a major part of our y...
Episode 135: Am I The Asshole? The Holiday Edition
21 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
The first time we did Am I The Asshole it was a major success, so we knew we had to bring it back fo...