Zach Morris
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3,776 appearances
15 recordings
1 series
first heard Sep 2017
last heard Jul 2025
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Yeah.
My first words of encouragement are slow down.
really check it, check in with yourself and first even identify like, am I in a regulated state?
Like being witness to this or sort of being in the same shared energy space, or am I really moved from my center?
And all of a sudden I'm, I'm noticing my own anxieties and my overwhelm and my fear, because if, if that's the main reaction I'm having, it's going to be really hard for me to co-regulate, right?
It's how can I co-regulate if I'm not regulated?
What I encourage my families to do that are working with the students at our school is first really check in with yourself, first really slow down, and then move at one-tenth speed that you want to because you're not problem-solving and conflict-resolving with another regulated adult brain anymore.
You're working with a young person who's in a really dysregulated state.
And so all of those things that you want to get into might not happen at that same pace that you yourself would be able to do.
And if you notice sort of as the parent or as the teacher or the facilitator that you're not regulated, first get regulated so that you can offer that co-regulation.
And that's obviously a big spectrum to what that looks like.
But we could think of it similar to the oxygen mask on the airplane, right?
I have to put my mask on before I help other people.
it's that same idea.
It's like I need to be regulated enough to be able to co-regulate.
Otherwise...
there's all these subtleties that are going to come out that don't look like regulation that are coming from me.
They instead look like expressions of my own anxiety, expressions of my fear, expressions of my irritation.
And so my first encouragement is always check in with yourself.
How are you experiencing that?
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