#66 How To Find Love Without Dating Apps
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Welcome back to the most dateable podcast on the internet. My name is Ian. This is Above the Influence. And today we have... I'm Britt. And I'm Petro. Just a quick intro. What do you do? Where do you live? And what's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Wow, that's fun.
Also, can you hold it a little closer?
Powerful. What do we do? We host an event series called Date My Friend. It's a live event where people come and pitch their friends on stage in front of a crowd in like a rock venue. And then afterwards, they all hang out and mingle. We live in LA and the worst pickup line I've ever heard was actually to me. And someone said, wow, you're my favorite female photographer, which I'm a, I'm a full time touring photographer.
It doesn't even feel like a pickup line. Like it's just like, I mean, a good pickup line is secretive like that. Like, it doesn't feel like a pickup line.
He's like, Britt, you're just my favorite female photographer.
I guess it's like secretive but not sexist. It was a good start. And, like, they failed on the second part.
I was like, dude, it doesn't work if you don't just say I'm your favorite photographer in general. You've got to throw female in there.
That's crazy.
And I just have never forgot it. The word female just felt so crazy.
Yeah, that is a crazy thing to say. That is a crazy thing to say. I was going to say, I think... A classic horrible pickup line. I don't know why this one comes to mind. It feels like the OG bad pickup line that I wonder if now you said it, like it's been so long, maybe it would be appreciated as like a bit ironic.
Yeah, yeah.
Like it's meta almost. Exactly. Like maybe we've entered the era where you can go up to someone in a bar and ask them if it hurt. What is it? If you ask them, did it hurt? And everyone knows. Because we're at the point now where they know, so I'm not kind of deciding that that actually might be a good pick-up line. I don't know if I believe in pick-up lines in general. Like, I feel like... You can't.
You can't script Riz. And it's very copy-paste. It's like, how many other girls have you... Most girls are like...
okay we've been here yeah yeah yeah i've seen this it can work you have to be like super handsome i mean yes if you're super handsome you can do anything yeah yeah yeah it's just a way to express i'm interested in you and like okay that's exciting i think it works maybe if it's directed as a joke like if you're making a joke about the fact that you're doing a pic you gotta be mad about it yeah yeah it's kind of
You got to be inside. So you mentioned you're a photographer. Yeah. And then do you need anything else besides date my friend? Yeah. My main job is I'm a music producer. OK. Yeah. And I mean, we both work in music.
We do.
But we came together to do this and put it on in like like Brit said, in rock venues and kind of appeal to people who go to like indie shows and make a little kind of cooler DIY vibes.
Yeah. I've been thinking a lot about how much pressure there is to present a version of yourself that isn't fully real, especially when it comes to dating. Like, you're not just meeting someone. You're kind of performing, trying to say the right thing, look a certain way, come across as more interesting or put together than you actually feel. And honestly, that's exhausting. That's why I've been really intrigued by Hiley. That's H-I-L-Y, the Hiley dating app. it brings people together who are ready to show themselves and accept others for who they are if you're tired of feeling like you have to perform just to connect with someone highly dating app is worth checking out download highly dating app from the app store or google play or visit highly.com that's h-i-l-y.com so it's side gig passion project like what would you classify date my friend as uh
I think for me, at the moment, it's an expansive side quest.
It started that way, and now it's getting bigger and bigger.
It started as a... Not even inside, but kind of a joke. The idea was... Let's get all our fun single music friends up on stage at a venue we love and give like wedding speeches about them.
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Chapters
6 chapters
1
What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:00–10:25
2
How did Date My Friend grow from a joke to viral events?
10:25–14:10
3
What is Date My Friend and how does the live pitching format work?
14:10–15:34
4
How do pitches get selected and what makes a great pitch?
15:34–19:21
5
What happens during a Date My Friend show (structure, timing, audience)?
19:21–51:16
6
Can live events really create romantic matches and long‑term relationships?
51:16–1:03:52