Trauma Expert: 3 Oddly Specific ADHD Trauma Issues
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What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
A lot of high-functioning women with ADHD that are late diagnosed spend their lives masking from the outside.
How do you separate who you are from who you've had to become to survive?
It doesn't look like there's much wrong. So as soon as you stop masking, uh-oh, the real me is going to be revealed. And the real me was the one that was told, you're too lazy, too noisy, too late.
What childhood experiences contribute to masking in ADHD?
You stop trusting yourself. So you're more likely to be able to be vulnerable to manipulation, abuse, and coercion.
Do you think if you experience the horrific abuse that you went through, do you think that makes a very nasty version of RSD?
If I feel like I'm not pleasing somebody, they're going to be unhappy with me and there's a consequence to that. It's not just about rejection, interestingly enough. It's about being perceived as a problem.
How do you separate who you are from who you've had to become to survive? So... Can I have just a second of your time?
Why are individuals with ADHD more vulnerable to abuse?
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How does trauma intensify rejection sensitivity in people with ADHD?
I recently met an ADHD woman at an event and she asked me a question that I can't stop thinking about. She said, how do you separate who you are from who you've had to become to survive? When you hear that question, what comes up for you and how does that relate to your personal experience with ADHD and trauma?
That's a very good one.
Why does rejection hurt people with ADHD more deeply?
It's a great one to start with as well. So I'm going to try and answer this without complicating it, which will be very difficult. When you're born, you're born without an identity. Obviously, there's genetic expression and all of that stuff, but you're pretty much this core self, a being of light. And you're shaped by your environment, your relationships, what you see, what you experience. So your identity is largely based on who you're around, social circles, etc., etc. As we're forming our sense of self and we're developing, our neurons are firing and wiring together and they join through an electrical pulse. And with every thought we have, there's like a chemical cascade in the body that we call the emotion.
And then that gets stored as a cellular software and it starts to operate the mind.
What is the survival response of masking in ADHD?
So we become bottom up emotionally. instead of top-down eventually. And so the unconscious or the soma, the brain-body system, is now working on this cellular software that's been given to us by our experiences, our relational experiences, our environment. But just like a computer, as soon as we realize that we're in this programming, we can start to understand that we can change it. So our identity is based on that chemical experience, that cellular software, and that's the energy that we put out into the world. So it's the feedback loop that we get as well. So we kind of get stuck in this repetition compulsion, both from a sort of psychological point of view and an energetic point of view as well.
So to separate it is to understand that we all start off as this being of light. And it's simply the, I guess you could call it the simulation, where we get this feedback from everything around us and we are a product of that. Yeah. So you separate it by understanding it first, and then you start to design what you would like to be. And I said on a podcast once before, and a girl that became a client of mine after I did this podcast last time, and I'd said in that podcast that if you're going to live in the matrix, you may as well design it. And I believe that firmly, that once you understand what your identity is and why it's there in the first place, and that it's really not who you are, it's what you've experienced, you can start to work on designing a new identity.
How can you calm your nervous system when rejection sensitivity is triggered?
And that's the bit that takes time. It's not overnight, but it's important that you know that it's possible.
So you're born and you've got a certain amount of light to you.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:00–0:05
2
How do you separate who you are from who you've had to become to survive?
0:05–0:16
3
What childhood experiences contribute to masking in ADHD?
0:16–0:48
4
Why are individuals with ADHD more vulnerable to abuse?
0:48–1:10
5
How does trauma intensify rejection sensitivity in people with ADHD?
1:10–1:31
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Why does rejection hurt people with ADHD more deeply?
1:31–2:23
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What is the survival response of masking in ADHD?
2:23–3:52
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How can you calm your nervous system when rejection sensitivity is triggered?
3:52–54:56
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