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2023 ISIT DBT Conference Part 2

30 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jo and Ulland invite friend Kerrie Toole in a conversation reviewing some of the content presented at the annual DBT conference in Seattle.  If you a...

2023 ISIT DBT Conference Part 1

30 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jo and Ulland invite friend Kerrie Toole in a conversation reviewing some of the content presented at the annual DBT conference in Seattle.  If you a...

Is DBT all about emotions?

09 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ulland and Jo discuss how DBT is all about emotional processing while building capacity to live effectively regardless of emotional reactivity. 

Apologies vs. Accountability

25 Sep 2023

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Ulland and Jo discuss why apologies are often not helpful enough with conflict in relationships. They review what they mean by accountability and how ...

What do we mean by Fragilizing?

18 Sep 2023

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Ulland and Jo review the concept of fragilization.  They review how walking on eggshells with family members is generally not helpful, especially whe...

Is it my fault my child suffers?

30 Jan 2023

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Ulland and Jo review how parents can feel defensive in family work as though they are being blamed. They review how DBT is a no blame model and how fa...

"DBT is too soft."

16 Jan 2023

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Ulland and Jo address judgments towards DBT they have heard more than once regarding being "too easy" with clients. They discuss how those unfamiliar ...

Assumptions for Therapists and Treatment

09 Jan 2023

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Ulland and Jo finally review the therapist and client assumptions within DBT. These assumptions help clinicians adhere to the principles of DBT. Knowi...

Can Minorities Benefit From DBT?

04 Jan 2023

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Ulland and Jo review common themes in demographics found within many DBT studies. They discuss that DBT studies often include many individuals who are...

Ye Ol' Existential Crisis

21 Nov 2022

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Ulland brings up ideas he sometimes presents in his group on the unit, albeit at a more reasonable pace than here.  Jo discusses what meaning is to h...

Yes and…

14 Nov 2022

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Ulland and Jo review ideas that came up after a Parent University this past week regarding dialects and parenting. They discuss how dialects are often...

How do you know?

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ulland and Jo wonder how can we be certain about things? Also, how is it that Tyler Durden is writing about vaccinations and can he be trusted if he p...

Behavioral Formulation for Eating Disorders

26 Sep 2022

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Ulland and Jo review a formulation Ulland finds helpful as a framework for understanding which interventions might work by understanding how eating di...

Suicide Risk Assessment

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Shamefully, Ulland and Jo make good on a more than a year-old request. A fellow traveler posted a comment to discuss suicide, and to approach from the...

Difficult Problems as the Origins for DBT

18 Jul 2022

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Ulland and Jo review several common problems that Marsha Linehan. PhD had to solve after deciding to work with suicidal patients, ranging from a need ...

Anger 1.2

04 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ulland and Jo continue a discussion regarding anger. Ulland reviews the ruminative anger cycle and Jo provides more discussion of how to use skills to...

Anger 1.0

27 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ulland and Jo review anger at the request of a listener.  Ulland goes on a tangent in culture and expression of anger. Culture and expectation can le...

Psych 101.6 The End of the Series

20 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ulland and Jo realize how long this has taken, unfortunately, but it is the end of the series. Are emotionally reactive people empaths, or are empaths...

Psych 101.5 Biology vs. Environmental?

14 May 2022

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Ulland and Jo review what they believe to be some of the biggest misconceptions about seeking therapy. Ulland challenges the duality of "biological" v...

Psych 101.4 How might DBT work for a male program?

04 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ulland answers a question regarding medications for emotional reactivity and discusses how he often prescribes for clients he assesses.  Ulland revie...

Psych 101.3. What's the hardest part of the job?

01 May 2022

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The series continues with "frequently asked questions" from a high school psychology class. The questions they are tasked to answer are: What's the ha...

Psych 101.2. Why your program and way of doing things?

23 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The crew continues with explaining the origins of the program.  Ulland describes reasons of need and efficiency, while Jo discusses the prevention of...

Psych 101.1. How and why did you come to do this?

27 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Psych 101.1. How and why did you come to do this?  Ulland and Jo answer questions written by local high school students after presenting for a couple...

Burning Bridges and Building New Ones

25 Jan 2022

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Burning Bridges and Building New Ones.  Ulland and Jo reviews these concepts while giving examples that these skills are not only applied to relation...

100th Uploaded Episode

19 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

100th uploaded episode.  Ulland and Jo discuss the origins and some of the difficulties with keeping the dream alive. They offer thanks to listeners,...

Holidays 2021

19 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 93.  Holidays 2021.  By special request from a friend and through gratitude from a recent pre-holiday Parent University, Jo decides it's tim...

Community Reinforcement

13 Dec 2021

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Episode 92. Community Reinforcement. Ulland and Jo review aspects of how to reinforce abstinence with the environment and how to replace addictive beh...

Clear Mind

06 Dec 2021

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Episode 91. Clear Mind. Ulland and Jo review clean mind and addict mind, and the overlap where clear mind exists. This is a similar synthesis to reaso...

Dialectical Abstinence

03 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 90. Dialectical Abstinence.  Man, this one has a rough start.  Ulland has a head cold, and probably presents as though he has viral meningit...

When the Crisis is Addiction

20 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 89. When the Crisis is Addiction. Ulland and Jo begin reviewing which DBT skills are often used for addictions with this brief overview defini...

AODA 7: Special Strategies to Cope

20 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 88. AODA 7:  Special Strategies to Cope. Ulland and Jo review special strategies and skills that are necessary for working with substance use...

Interview with Raina 4

03 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 87. Interview with Raina 4. Raina shares how her treatment has translated into her life over the past two years. She discusses some lapses she...

Interview with Raina 3

02 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 86. Raina 3.  Raina shares how treatment was like for her and her family.  She discusses how limits on the unit were difficult and helpful, ...

Interview with Raina 2

31 Jul 2021

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Episode 85. Interview with Raina 2. Caution: This episode briefly mentions sexual abuse and suicide. Raina discusses what things were like right befor...

Interview with Raina 1

20 Jul 2021

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Episode 84. Interview with Raina 1. While on a visit to see family, Raina stops by to visit about life and how things changed after residential DBT tr...

AODA 6 : Special Attachment Strategies

20 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 83. AODA 6 : Special Attachment Strategies. In this episode Ulland and Jo review some of the special strategies for how to foster attachment w...

AODA 5: Treatment Hierarchy

04 May 2021

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Episode 82. AODA 5: Treatment Hierarchy.  Ulland and Jo break down the early stages of DBT for AODA as compared to standard DBT. They review pre comm...

Welcome back . . . again.

04 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 81. Ulland and Jo come back.  They have been keeping busy, probably like everyone.  Life changes, manuals, Magic the Gathering, etc. And the...

Is this what it's coming to?

07 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 80: Is this what it's coming to?  Ulland discusses some ideas and shares some emotion about his experience this past weekend with social medi...

AODA 4: How AODA DBT differs from standard DBT

27 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 79. AODA 4: How AODA DBT differs from standard DBT.  Ulland and Jo review some key differences in how DBT is adapted to work for individuals ...

Horror Stories from the Ward

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 78. Horror Stories from the Ward. Ulland admits outright to Jo that the title of this episode is clear click-bait. The content of the episode ...

AODA 3: Similarities and Differences for 12 step and DBT

08 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 77. AODA 3: Similarities and Differences for 12 step and DBT.  Ulland and Jo take the time to review similarities and differences between the...

AODA 2: Evidence for DBT in SUDs

26 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 76. AODA 2: Evidence for DBT in SUDs.  Ulland and Jo discuss some evidence for DBT for treating substance use disorders as being promising, e...

Listener Feedback for AODA Episodes

11 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 75. Listener Feedback for AODA Episodes.  Ulland and Jo consider the helpfulness of feedback provided via a listener who cautions against bei...

We're Baaaack!

11 Jan 2021

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Episode 74 . We're Baaaack!  Welcome Back and Welcome 2021. Ulland and Jo come back after a period of quarantines and the craziness that has been 202...

AODA 1: Why?

16 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 73. AODA 1: Why? Ulland and Jo discuss the reason. They point out that they are not experts in addictions treatment. So, please, listen to the...

Val 7: Accumulating Positives in the Long Term

09 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 72. Val 7: Accumulating Positives in the Long Term. Finally Jo tries her hardest to teach Ulland a skill. It is strenuous and treacherous, but...

Ramblings of a Quarantined Mind

02 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 71. Ramblings of a Quarantined Mind. Apologies to the Listener. You may have been expecting accumulating positives in the long term, and that ...

Val 6.2: Death

06 Oct 2020

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Episode 70. Val 6.2 Death. Life after death. Kidding. In this episode Ulland and Jo wrap up the death talk. Ulland tries to monetize the Podcast with ...

Val 6.1: Death

01 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 69. Val 6.1: Death 1. Ulland and Jo review Immortality Projects and how they are related to values. Ulland provides the only initial condition...

Val 5.2: Rejection

09 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 68. Val 5.2: Rejection. Ulland starts by inadvertently blaming Jo for difficulty starting to record due to generalized shenanigans.   What a...

Val 5.1: Rejection

31 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 67. Val 5.1: Rejection. The partnership discusses the Paradox of Choice and how limits around choices may lead to more happiness. Rejection of...

Val 4: Failure

25 Aug 2020

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Episode 66. Val 4: Failure. Ulland and Jo welcome failure. Such a good way to learn. Fail hard, fail fast, fail often. Ulland's son plays the cello so...

Val 3.3: "Kill your 'self'," says the Buddhist

10 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 65. Val 3.3: "Kill your 'self'," says the Buddhist. Ulland and Jo review avoidance of uncertainty, which can happen from a threat to our ident...

Val 3.2: Meaning in Uncertainty

03 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 64. Val 3.2: Meaning in Uncertainty. Ulland and Jo discuss meaning and how subjective it is compared to an objective universe. Ulland likens t...

Val 3.1: Uncertainty

28 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 63. Val 3.1: Uncertainty. Ulland and Jo gossip about their familiar friend Uncertainty. No one knows when the episode will start for sure. Nei...

Val 2: Accountability

15 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 62. Val 2: Accountability. Ulland and Jo define accountability. Examples are given. Ulland discusses the complexity of accountability in treat...

Val 1: Shi**y and Good Values

14 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 61. Val 1: Shi**y and Good Values. Ulland and Jo start the conversation about values in a theoretical sense. They review values that are helpf...

Happiness = Problems to Solve

22 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 60. Happiness = Problems to Solve. Ulland and Jo discuss how problems are necessary for growth and positive emotions. They discuss dialects an...

First World Problems

01 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 59. First World Problems. Ulland and Jo review the mediocre life. They review technology and the overwhelming amount of choices we have and ho...

Theory(s) of Stuckedness

25 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 58. Theory(s) of Stuckedness. Ulland and Jo re review Jo's Theory(s) of Stuckedness. This had been discussed in the previous episode of Turnin...

Pefrectionism: Body Image, OCD, OCPD and Anger

19 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 57. Pefrectionism as it Relates to Body Image, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder and anger. Ulland and ...

Prefectionism: Depression, SAD and GAD

13 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 56. Prefectionism: Depression, SAD and GAD. Ulland and Jo discuss perfectionism and how it relates to depression and the most common anxiety d...

Perfecionism: Thoughts and Behaviors

11 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 55. Thoughts and Behaviors of Perfecionism. Ulland and Jo review thoughts and behaviors strongly associated with perfectionism. Look for these...

Origins of Perfectionism

27 Apr 2020

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Episode 54. Origins of Perfectionism. Ulland and Jo decide to take on perfectionism. With mistakes. This episode reviews what it is, what it looks lik...

Bloopers for Assumptions

27 Apr 2020

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Bloopers for Assumptions. Ulland hits record and Jo doesn't know as usual, since no one tells no one what to do. A short conversation unfolds about ho...

Dialectical Responses to Trauma

21 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 53. Dialectical Response to Trauma. Ulland and Jo discuss common responses to trauma. The dialects are drawn similarly to how the Secondary Ta...

The Three Buckets of Shame

08 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 52. The Three Buckets of Shame. Ulland and Jo review Jo's insightful idea about three major ways that shame can manifest itself. Perfectionism...

The Forgotten Pandemic

01 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 51. The Forgotten Pandemic. Ulland and Jo review statistics regarding mental health burden, and cost. Some of the statistics reviewed suggest ...

The KingVirus

29 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 50. The KingVirus. Ulland and Jo discuss some statistics about COVID, suggesting different perspectives of the reality we find ourselves in. A...

Assumptions

15 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 49. Assumptions. Ulland and Jo review the assumptions within DBT—the secret sauce. These are the components that can be some of the most dif...

Behavioral Chain Analysis

10 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 48. BCAs. Ulland and Jo review Behavioral Chain Analysis. They also review missing link analysis. Examples are provided as are the reasons for...

Fidelity

02 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 47. Fidelity. Ulland and Jo discuss fidelity with DBT. Is it DBT? The five major components are reviewed, including skills group, individual t...

Diary Cards

23 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 46. Diary Cards. At the request of a listener, Ulland and Jo review the importance of diary cards in DBT for many reasons, including metrics, ...

BKRVW03: Irresistible

21 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

BKRVW03: Irresistible by Adam Alter. This book reviews addictive behaviors, from defining how they are possible without substances. How they are start...

Outtakes for Happiness Episodes

15 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Outtakes for the Happiness episodes.  WARNING: Some choice words are said in this short outtake.  Apparently, Ulland and Jo see different things in ...

Happiness 1.2

15 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 45. Happiness Part 2. Ulland and Jo complete their discussion of concepts relevant to the happiness formula; H = S + (V+C), as found in Jonath...

Happiness 1.1

11 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 44. Happiness Part 1. Ulland and Jo discuss the happiness formula H=S + (V+C), as found in Jonathan Haidt's book, "The Happiness Hypothesis." ...

Black Friday Dog Adoption Cliffhanger

03 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 43. Black Friday Dog Adoption Cliffhanger. Ulland shares with Jo and viewers the outcome of the 2020 resolution to adopt a canine buddy. Damn....

How to End a Relationship

01 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 42. How to End a Relationship. Ulland and Jo discuss ending relationships when patterns of communication as discussed in previous episode seem...

BKRVW02: Digital Minimalism

29 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

BKRVW02: Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. This is a helpful book reviewing how we can change our behaviors with digital media in ways that benefit o...

How to Keep a Relationship Part 2

28 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 41. How to Keep a Relationship Part 2. Ulland and Jo complete their discussion of habits and patterns for healthy communication. This episode ...

How to Keep a Relationship Part 1

23 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 40. How to Keep a Relationship Part 1. Ulland and Jo review habits and patterns of healthy communication which lay the foundations for relatio...

BKRVW01: Drunk Tank Pink

19 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

BKRVW01: Drunk Tank Pink by Adam Alter. This is the first book review by Ulland for this podcast. Due to having a life to live, and in this case the P...

Kool-Aid Anyone?

13 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 39. Not a cult? Why so much Kool-Aid? In this episode Ulland and Jo review how DBT may be confused as being a closed group, often misunderstoo...

Black Friday Dog Adoption

05 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 38. Black Friday Dog Adoption. In this episode Ulland discusses his family's difficulty adopting a previously not-so-loved canine. Jo provides...

Interview 2: Matt

03 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 37. Interview2: Matt.  In this episode Ulland and Jo invite Jo's good friend Matt to a conversation. Matt skips the "pleasantries," willingly...

Effective New Year!

30 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 36. Welcome to 2020, if we are not there already. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss New Year's resolutions. Jo provides some helpful point...

Happy Holidays if That's Your Thing

16 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 35. Happy Holidays. In this episode Ulland and Jo talk a little about the holidays which leads to a discussion about fitting back into a famil...

Interview 1.3

30 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 34. While in Atlanta at the 2019 ISIT DBT conference, Ulland and Jo finish an interview with Izzy and Julianna, a mother-daughter dyad from a ...

Interview 1.2

30 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 33. While in Atlanta at the 2019 ISIT DBT conference, Ulland and Jo continue an interview with Izzy and Julianna, a mother-daughter dyad from ...

Interview 1.1

30 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 32. While in Atlanta at the 2019 ISIT DBT conference, Ulland and Jo interview Izzy and Julianna, a mother-daughter dyad from a family they wor...

Ep 31. Lessons Learned from Chronic Invalidation

30 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 31. In this episode, Ulland and Jo discuss three common lessons learned from invalidating environments including confusion, hopelessness and c...

Ep 30. Biosocial 1.3: Environmental Invalidation

27 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 30. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the third third. This section covers invalidating environments. This e...

Ep 29. Biosocial 1.2: Behavioral Dysregulation

27 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 29. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the second third. This section covers behavioral dysregulation. This e...

Ep 28. Biosocial 1.1: Emotion Dysregulation

27 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 28. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the first third. This section covers emotion dysregulation.This episod...

Ep 27. Difficult Conversations

07 Nov 2019

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Episode 27. In this episode Ulland and Jo review how to have difficult conversations.  How to win at tug of war.  Maybe keeping the cowl on is a goo...

Ep 26. Parenting with DBT

01 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 26.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review various skills and principles within DBT that can be used in parenting. Examples are given. Validat...

Ep 25. Relational Dimensions

01 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 25.  In this episode, Ulland and Jo review in the moment interactions through the use of Lorna Smith Benjamin's Interpersonal Reconstructive ...

Ep 24. Relational Mindfulness

31 Oct 2019

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Episode 24.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review relational mindfulness.  Reactivating relationships is central to this episode for relationships t...