In this episode Joanne Williams, LCSW Explains How to Use Emotions to your advantage; to manage emotions like Anger, Sadness, Anxiety as a message to help you make a better decision. We have a conversation with Dr. Ed Daube, PHD The Emotions Doctor, who has written a book- How Emotions can be used as Tools, A Self help Guide to Controlling Your Life, Not your Emotions. You can go to his blog at TheEmotionsdoctor.com Summary of Today's Podcast- How to use Emotions to your advantage and an Interview with Dr. Ed Daube: The Emotions Doctor. Questions: From face book- How can I get rid of having emotions? How can I change my emotions? Is stress an emotional reaction to a situation? A doctor told me that 85% of the patients he sees, the issues are stress related. Our emotional brain, which is in the lower part of your brain, sends warning to protect you from doing things, our higher brain or the rational brain isn't even started to be formed until age 12 has no way to understand logically your emotions Emotions are just signals they are just giving you or information to use to make decisions. Understanding that emotions are giving you information so that you can use to make a better decision about a life situation, if there only purpose, not to torture you or punish you. Just gives you information. Use them to your Advantage as your internal guidance system as one piece of the information puzzle. How it makes you feel as one half and then what you are thinking about the decision as the other half. All emotions have their own message. Anger is to say no. A boundary. Please don't do that again. It is not rage or abuse. It is standing up for yourself. Guilt am I doing something wrong against my morals and values. This is a tricky one, we need to take a 2nd step and ask did I really do something wrong against my morals and values or am I using it to punish myself, like I was in my family or religion? Shame is deeper guilt that has gone into you character or being bad or worthless. Alcoholism or drug abuse. This is a deeper issue that will need some special help unless you can love yourself the way you are, not matter what. Or sadness and it is telling you need to connect. There are 4 main emotions. Happy, sad, mad or scared. Keeping it simple and being aware is the emotions is the 1st method that will take you through the steps to focus your thoughts and emotions toward what it is that you want more of in your life to build the skills to manage your emotions. To answer the question How can I get rid of having emotions? Don't get rid of your guidance system or like why would get ride of your GPS, he helps to get you where you want to go in your life. Emotions Are the same. How can I change my emotions? Become aware of what you are thinking that creates the emotional Response if you are thinking I am going to die if I go on a plane. My A.C. T. method the A. is to be aware of your thoughts that are creating the emotions. C is connecting your thought with that emotion to reassure it. T is train your brain to focus and continue with the calmed thought and feeling while you practice it. There I will be more on my ACT method and even a webinar to help you truly feel in control of your thoughts and feelings. Go to net for my free A.C.T. Next is an interview with Dr. Ed Daube the Emotions Doctor is our guest today Theemotionsdoctor.com In this interview Joanne Williams introduces Dr. Ed Daube a retired Psychologist who worked for the Cal. Correction Facility for 32 years with the juvenile division. His book Emotions as Tools-Self help guide to controlling our Life not your emotions. He has a Four step process to use as a tool for any emotion S-A-P-A. Step 1. Stop to Give time to separate yourself form the anxiety and Breathe. 2. Assess-Ask yourself questions to assess the threat. 3. Plan- Make a Plan 4. Action Take Action on the plan. Use this to assess situations. Next podcast episode: Build a Practice of Meditation Join the Conversation-Our favorite part of recording is answering your questions, from Face book at AnxietySimplified.net. Leave comments in the comment section, we will answer on a Podcast on that subject. So listen for your question. Or share it with someone who may be helped with that answer. See other podcast at AnxietySimplified.net

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