Self Soothing 101: The Importance of Self Regulation: Do this BEFORE you Text them

When your anxious attachment is triggered, your body panics and your brain spins stories like, “They’re going to leave” or “I’m not enough.” It feels real, but it’s not a real threat — it’s your nervous system asking for regulation.Self-regulation means calming your body before reacting, before texting, before spiraling. When you pause, breathe, and comfort yourself first, your brain learns that emotions are safe to feel. The goal isn’t to stop feeling — it’s to stop believing every anxious thought.Your panic is the cue to pause, not act. Ask yourself: – Am I in the present or in a story from the past? – What am I making this mean? – What do I need to feel safe right now?Regulate your body — breathe, splash cold water, journal, walk, or wrap yourself in a blanket. Then talk to yourself kindly: “It’s okay that I feel this way. My brain is just triggered. I can feel this and still be safe.”This work isn’t about becoming hyper-independent — it’s about self-trust. When you soothe yourself first, you show your brain you’re capable of handling discomfort without needing immediate validation.Remember: Trigger → Big Emotion → Pause → Self-Regulate → Self-Compassion → Thought Work → ReconnectYou don’t need to act on panic to feel secure. You can hold space for your feelings, regulate your nervous system, and choose peace before you text them.“The power is in the pause — regulate before you react, because your safety starts with you.”📩 Work With MeYou don’t have to do this work alone! ✨ Schedule a FREE 1-hour consultation → [email protected] ✨ Join my 12-week coaching program to stop your anxious attachment cycle, build confidence, and finally feel secure in your relationships and life.Links and Resources:Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious AttachmentLinktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrainLet’s Connect:Follow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionFollow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach AmberFollow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoachingEmail me at [email protected] for a free one hour consultation

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