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We all have a hostile inner critic; it’s part of how our brains evolved to keep us safe. But in today’s world, that survival instinct can turn into a constant pressure to be better, do more, and never slow down. We use it to judge if we are worthy enough, smart enough, happy enough, successful enough, pretty enough, etc, etc. And when we start measuring our worth by productivity? That’s when burnout sneaks in.In this episode, Leah and I dig into where her inner critic comes from, how it shaped her sense of self, and what happens when, in an attempt to make it positive, it morphed into a drill-sergeant-style coach who never lets her rest! She came on the show because she was looking for more balance in her life and less burnout. That’s important for her because she is starting her own business in addition to working full-time. The business is her passion, so countering the “coach” by not doing the work, as one therapist told her to do, doesn’t help her find the balance and still reach her goals.Enter me! In this live streamed episode, I get to know the context and history of her inner critic, looking for a way to, finally, shut it up. You’ll be surprised by what we come up with! The goal isn’t to silence your inner voice completely, it’s to change the conversation, so everything shifts, and you actually get more done with less stress.Key TakeawaysYour Inner Critic is Just Trying to Keep You Safe – But it doesn’t have to be so mean about it!Perfectionism Feeds Burnout – Chasing impossible standards will only leave you drained and discouraged.Rest is Not Laziness – It’s actually the secret weapon to being more effective, creative, and energized.Turn the Coach Into a Cheerleader – Instead of a voice that pressures you, create one that lifts you up!Celebrate Every Win – Small victories matter, and noticing them will actually help you feel more motivated.Resources Mentioned in This EpisodeResources mentioned in this episode:Watch the video of this episode at the blog: https://jodiaman.com/blog/negative-inner-criticDr. Jodi Aman’s YouTube Channel: @DoctorJodiGeneration Z Mental Health Resource Guide: jodiaman.com/guideRedirect Positive Mindset Cards jodiaman.com/order-redirect-flash-cardsEnCompass SEL Class Activity jodiaman.com/order-encompass-gameAnxiety, I'm So Done with You! BookThank you so much for listening to Ask Dr. Jodi! If you enjoyed today’s episode, please take a moment to leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts and share it with someone who needs inspiration or help to heal!
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