back from the borderline
shame series part 8: religious trauma, rigid sex roles and cultural suppression of emotion
15 Aug 2023
This episode is the eighth and final installment of our multi-episode series, aiming to guide you in alchemizing and transmuting your toxic shame. Discover the insidious nature of toxic shame and its potential role as the root cause behind our ongoing suffering and emotional turmoil. At the core of self-sabotage, toxic shame leaves us feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected from others. Learn how internalized toxic shame manifests uniquely in individuals, evident through feelings of unworthiness, negative self-talk, perfectionism, fear of vulnerability, struggles with intimacy, boundary challenges, chronic self-consciousness, avoidant behaviors, negative body image, and emotional instability. TIME STAMPS: 00:00 – 11:45: How “underworld experiences” can help bring us closer towards healing11:45 – 25:05: Understanding the connection between religious trauma and toxic shame25:05 – 29:41: The denial of secondary causality as the insidious and toxically shaming distortion of many religions29:07 – 32:55: Spiritual bypassing and how religion is used to deny or suppress “bad” emotions32:55 – 36:32: Religious addiction and perfectionism as mediated by psychological inflexibility40:09 – 49:34: Healing toxic shame when it has become a cultural norm (how shame is baked into our modern culture)49:28 – 01:03:05: How rigid sex roles foster the development of internalized toxic shame01:03:05 – 01:08:25: The impact of mass cultural denial and suppression of emotion01:08:25 – 01:17:38: Healing from toxic shame (a starting point) PREMIUM PORTION: 01:19:10 – 01:27:44: Listener question from Amy (what to do when you’re buried in toxic shame)01:27:09 – 01:39:54: Listener question from Teresa (dealing with splitting, overthinking and PMS in a new relationship)01:39:54 – 01:54:34: Listener question from Gia (can you be TOO self-aware?)01:54:34 – 02:01:57: Outro + premium submarine updates and reflectionsCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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