Been There Got Out Podcast
Episodes
How Narcissists Sell Themselves and Exploit Others Through Role-Playing - with Coach Elizabeth Shaw
27 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes UK superstar narcissistic abuse expert and coach Elizabeth Shaw (Instagram @coachelizabethshaw), who speaks about the narcissist and rol...
Eye on the Prize: Focusing on What's Important During A High-Conflict Family Court Case - with family law attorney Ruth Chung
22 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes NYC family lawyer Ruth Chung (Instagram @ruthchungesq), who talks about how to behave properly in court, why you need to find moments of...
Divorce 101: The Basics - with family lawyer Ken Novenstern
20 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes NY family lawyer Ken Novenstern (Instagram @novenstern), who talks about the fundamentals of divorce, including what you probably didn&a...
The Role Assumptions & Cultural Competency Play When Choosing a Therapist - with Sara Mathews Dixon
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes back CT social worker Sara Mathews Dixon (Instagram @sara_lcsw) who speaks about the importance of rapport with a therapist - especially...
The Power of Ritual and Gratitude During a High-Conflict Case: Tips on How to Ground Yourself and Your Kids - with Kristen Darcy
10 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes our friend, Massachusetts divorce and infertility coach (and Divorcing Intact summit coordinator!) Kristen Darcy, who shares some amazin...
The Myth of Cooperative Co-parenting In High-Conflict Divorce - with “TH” of @exexperts
06 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes co-founder of @exexperts (Instagram) “TH,” who talks about the myth of amicable co-parenting with a toxic ex, why you should stop &q...
How To Dissolve a Business With Your Spouse - with PA Business Attorney Linda Alle-Murphy
21 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes PA business litigator, attorney Linda Alle-Murphy (Instagram @allemurphy) who talks about what you need to know when you’re getting ou...
Learning to Let Go of People: Betrayal Trauma in Friendship - What it Looks Like & How to Cope - with Therapist Rebecca Ishida
19 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes back our friend, CA therapist Rebecca Ishida (Instagram @rebecca_ishida) who talks about betrayal trauma and friendship during divorce a...
Why You Can’t Give Up on Your Kids During High-Conflict Divorce & Co-parenting Situations (and How Not to) - with Amber Chapman
16 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes Amber Chapman (Instagram @family_matters_with_amber), who talks about what it's like on the other side of high-conflict divorce and...
How To Protect Yourself From Digital Stalking and Reclaim Your Privacy - with Security & Digital Privacy Expert Vance Long
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes NY security, executive protection, and digital privacy expert Vance Long (Instagram: @theskaingroup) who discusses digital hygiene, how ...
How Toxic Men & Women Weaponize the Legal System, Part II - with CA Family Lawyer Padideh Jafari
12 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes back Los Angeles family lawyer Padideh Jafari (Instagram @jafarilegal) for part 2 of our 2-part interview. We continue our conversation ...
How Toxic Men & Women Weaponize the Legal System, Part I - with CA Family Lawyer Padideh Jafari
06 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes our friend, Los Angeles family lawyer Padideh Jafari (Instagram @jafarilegal) for part 1 of our 2-part interview. Padideh talks about ho...
How to Get a Difficult Person to Settle: Everything You Need to Know About Mediation - with Retired Judge & Expert Mediator Shel Stark
03 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this interview, veteran mediator Shel Stark discusses why a mutual pledge is necessary at the beginning of the mediation process, the importance of...
Everything You Need To Know About Restraining Orders - with Security Expert Steve Dana
01 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes back our friend, NJ security expert Steve Dana (Instagram @thebodyguard.official) and head of the non-profit @protectionfromabuse, who t...
"A Conflicted Mind Never Decides:" How to Find Clarity and Certainty - with health coach Tess Abalos
15 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes Connecticut massage therapist and health coach, Tess Abalos (Instagram @mtabalos), who talks about the importance of realizing our own b...
How the Pandemic Has Changed The Family Court System, For Better or Worse - with family law attorney Melissa Cohen
12 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes our friend, New Jersey family lawyer Melissa Cohen (Instagram @melissapen123, @seidenfamilylaw) who speaks about how the pandemic has af...
Side Effects of Staying in a Toxic Relationship - with Matt Phifer
10 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes back our friend, author, coach, therapist, and TikTok superstar creator, Matt Phifer (Instagram @matthewlphifer) who talks about how sta...
Legal Services for Less Than A Dollar a Day?! - with Carol Reed of LegalShield
08 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes Carol Reed (Instagram @carolareed), a LegalShield (@legalshield) representative, who talks about the extraordinary benefits of prepaid l...
Why Kids Won't Talk to the People Meant to Help Them, and Loving From a Distance - with therapist/author Marnie Grundman
06 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes back our friend, Canadian therapist, author, narcissistic abuse expert, and TikTok superstar, Marnie Grundman (Instagram @marniegrundman...
How To Take Control of Your Own Fate in Family Court - with Family Law Attorney Katrina Xyloportas
04 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes NJ family law attorney, Katrina Xyloportas (Instagram @katrinaxylo), who discusses how the deficits in the court system right now affect...
How To Properly Manage Your High-Conflict Case (Including With Your Own Attorney) - with NY Family Law Attorney Kara Bellew
01 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes NY family lawyer Kara Bellew (Instagram @bellewkara), a unicorn of a divorce attorney who is highly trained and very experienced in dome...
Self-Advocacy Can Be Really Exhausting: How Hypnotherapy Can Help You Regain Your Life (and Sleep)! - with Hypnotherapist Annie Alexander
20 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes Washington state hypnotherapist Annie Alexander (Instagram: @northwesthypnosis) who speaks about how hypnosis can help eliminate trigger...
How Taxes Impact the Divorce Process & What You Can Do To Get The Money You're Entitled To - with Paul Mendelsohn
14 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes NJ CPA Paul Mendelsohn (Instagram: @paulmendelsohn_cpa) who discusses red flags to watch for with an accountant during the divorce proce...
I Can't Save You, But You're Still Going To Be OK: An Unfortunate Fortunate Experience - with Alex Shaw
12 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes Canadian Alex Shaw (Instagram: @alexandria_m_c), who shares her incredible story of being trafficked and living with a gang (which saved...
Getting Comfortable with Doing the Uncomfortable: How to Help Your Kids (and Yourself) Build Confidence - with Gloria Williams
08 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes author, musician, educator, and presence advocate, Gloria Williams (Instagram: @iamgloriawilliams), who discusses how to help kids build...
Tips To Properly Prepare for Divorce (Especially Financial!) - with Attorney Cathy Jones
06 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes Minnesota family lawyer Cathy Jones (Instagram: @cat.jones.90), who talks about the important stuff you need to know to properly prepare...
Managing Expectations and Radical Acceptance In Family Court - with NY attorney Stephanie
30 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes back our friend and NY family lawyer and domestic violence attorney (as well as TikTok superstar), Stephanie (Instagram @steph_ny_law), ...
How to Strengthen Your Relationships with Your Kids (Especially When They Are Being Turned Against You) - with Clarissa Constantine
27 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes educator and child relationship expert Clarissa Constantine from Parent T(w)een Connection (Instagram @parentweenconnection), who speaks...
How To Find the Hidden Money You Are Entitled To During Your Divorce - with Tracy Coenen
25 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes forensic accountant and investigator Tracy Coenen (Instagram @divorcemoneyguide), who discusses how to tell if there's financial fr...
"No One Has Been There for Me”: When Your Narcissist Ex Aligns with Your Toxic Family Against You in Family Court - with Marnie Grundman
22 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes back Canadian author, survivor, trauma expert, therapist, and TikTok superstar Marnie Grundman (Instagram @marniegrundman), who talks ab...
How We Internalize The Narcissist's Voice As Our Own, and How To Get It Out of Our Heads - with Chelsey Brooke Cole
19 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes back therapist, author, narcissistic abuse expert, and our good friend Chelsey Brooke Cole (Instagram @chelseybrookecole), who talks abo...
Top 18+ Hacks: How To Find Hidden Assets During Your Divorce with Michigan family lawyer JayAttorney
16 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes Michigan family lawyer and former investigator JayAttorney (Instagram @tipsdivorceattorney), who talks about financial fraud and shares ...
How a Collaborative Approach Works in a Custody Evaluation - with Dr. Liz Stilwell
13 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes NY psychologist, evaluator, and risk assessment expert Dr. Liz Stilwell (Instagram @drstilwell), who talks about the different types of ...
Lessening the Conflict When Divorcing a High-Conflict Personality - with family lawyer, CEO, and founder of Hello Divorce, Erin Levine
11 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes California family lawyer Erin Levine (Instagram: @hellodivorce), who talks about some red flags that indicate a high-conflict divorce an...
How To Form Secure Attachments With Your Children (And Preserve Your Relationship with Them When Dealing with a Toxic Co-Parent) - with Dawn Brauer
25 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, BTGO welcomes back our good friend, Dawn Brauer (Instagram @securebabies), an expert on child development, who talks about what you c...
What "Parental Alienation" Really Means and How To Handle Children Who Have Been (Or Are Being) Alienated from You - with Dr. Mark Singer
11 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back New Jersey psychologist and custody evaluator Dr. Mark Singer (Instagram @drmarksin...
How to Prepare for a Successful Custody Evaluation (from an Evaluator Schooled in Coercive Control) - with Dr. Mark Singer
08 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes New Jersey custody evaluator, Dr. Mark Singer (Instagram @drmarksinger), who discusses the importance of cultural knowledge and comfort ...
A Lawyer Who "Gets It:" Interview with Dr. Jude Egan
30 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, BTGO welcomes California attorney, Dr. Jude Egan (Instagram @jude_should_be_writing), who talks about why the job of children's ...
How Family Court is a "Wounded Human" Problem, and How to Regain Your Power and Help Your Kids - with Michelle, the “Pistol Whip Hippie”
29 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome our friend, fellow coach, and author, Michelle (Instagram @the_pistolwhip_hippie), who t...
What I Did Right, Wrong, and Had No Control Over - with Katie
26 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, which gets pretty intense, we welcome our friend Katie (Instagram @kwg19). 20 years after escaping ...
Superstar Judge & TikTok A-Lister Anthony Bompiani
23 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome retired judge and family lawyer Anthony Bompiani (TikTok @anthonybompiani) for more real...
The Significant Impact of Trauma Bonding In High-Conflict Divorce, and How To Protect Yourself - with superstar coach, author, and podcaster, Matt Phifer
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome superstar coach, author, and podcaster Matt Phifer (Instagram @mattphifercoaching), who ...
How Mediation Can Empower Someone in a High Conflict Divorce or Co-parenting Relationship, as Well as Make Sure A Child's Voice Is Heard - with Dr. Barb Hughson
17 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back our great friend, Dr. Barb Hughson (Instagram @drbarbh), a professional mediator an...
Maryann's Nightmare of Abuse by Proxy - with Maryann Petri
02 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome the host of the Slam the Gavel podcast, Maryann Petri.After years of peacefully co-paren...
How To Protect Yourself from Parental Alienation Claims When Dealing With a Toxic Ex: Parenting Plans, Relocations, and Legal Agreements - with California Family Law Attorney Brian Pakkpour
31 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome California Family Law Attorney Brian Pakpour (TikTok @brithefamilyguy), who talks about ...
How To Best Protect Yourself Physically From a Dangerous Person - with Steve the Bodyguard
29 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back Steve the Bodyguard (Instagram @protectionfromabuse @thebodyguard.official), who of...
Turning Your Mess Into Your Message: How to Survive a Narcissistic Parent (or Spouse) and Go On To Have an Amazing Life - with Coach Chris Jackson
27 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome our new friend, Coach Chris Jackson (Instagram @the_kineticlife_coach), an adult child...
Lies, Smear Campaigns, False Allegations, Oh My! - with Author and Narcissistic Abuse Expert Tracy Malone
25 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back our friend, narcissistic abuse expert, coach, and best-selling author Tracy Malone ...
Sex Addiction and the Narcissist (and More!) with Therapist Rebecca Ishida
23 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome therapist and addiction specialist Rebecca Ishida (Instagram @rebecca_ishida), who gets ...
How to Recognize a Narcissist on Social Media - with Chelsey Brooke Cole
22 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, the Been There Got Out Podcast welcomes back our friend, psychotherapist, author, and narcissistic abuse expert Chelsey Brooke Cole (...
I Just Want This Done! - with Family Law Attorney Raiford Palmer
21 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
BTGO welcomes Chicagoland Family Law Attorney Raiford Palmer (Instagram @raifordpalmer), author of “I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful Peo...
The Client as Consumer: Taking Your Power Back in Family Court - with David Morneau & Warrior Woman Angie
20 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, Lisa and Chris welcome back Canadian family law attorney David Morneau (Instagram @dmorneaulaw) and...
Creating Secure Attachments with Your Children - with Dawn Brauer
19 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, the Been There Got Out Podcast welcomes our friend and attachment expert Dawn Brauer (Instagram @securebabies) for a talk about how t...
Sharing Your Story on Social Media During a High-Conflict Case - with Attorney Sean Valentine
18 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back our friend, Canadian attorney, Sean Valentine (Instagram @seancory42) who gets into...
How to Take Strategic Oversight of Your Own Case: Tips for Representing Yourself in Court - with Lielle Arad
17 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out podcast, we welcome Lielle Arad (Instagram @lawsuitsme), a successful pro se (self-represented litigant), fo...
The Client As Consumer: Things to Know When Retaining An Attorney (part 2 of 2) - with David Morneau & Warrior Woman Angie
16 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we continue our longest-ever interview with Canadian GOLD STANDARD family law attorney David Morneau and super-client / warrior woman...
The Client As Consumer: Things to Know When Retaining An Attorney (part 1 of 2) - with David Morneau & Warrior Woman Angie
15 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, Chris and Lisa welcome Canadian GOLD STANDARD family law attorney David Morneau (Instagram @dmornea...
How to Navigate Your Way Effectively Through Family Court - with Attorney Dennis Vetrano
14 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome NY family law attorney Dennis Vetrano (Instagram & TikTok @drvlaw) who gives it to y...
How to Effectively Deal with Kids Experiencing Emotional Abuse - with Christine Cocchiola
13 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back Christine Cocchiola (Instagram @coercivecontrolisipv) for an enlightening and emo...
The Amazing Trauma-Informed Mediator Dr. Barb
12 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back our friend and colleague, Dr. Barb Hughson, for an interview that’s PACKED with a...
Surveillance, Stalking, Survival, and How to Properly Use Information to Strengthen Your Court Case - with Greg Glassock of Olympic Tactical
04 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back Washington-based Greg Glassock, head of Olympic Tactical @olytac (Instagram), who t...