What happens when you get exactly what you prayed for… and it makes you feel replaceable?For years, I was one of the people my church needed behind the drums. Then the team grew. New drummers came in. They got better. The ministry became healthier.And suddenly, they didn’t need me as much.That should have felt like success.Instead, it exposed something in me.I didn’t just enjoy being useful. Part of my identity had become attached to being needed.Maybe you know that feeling.You’re the provider.The fixer.The leader.The dependable one.The person everybody calls when something goes wrong.Those can all be good things—but what happens when your usefulness becomes the thing proving your worth?In this video, we’re talking about:• Why someone else’s growth can sometimes feel threatening• The difference between being needed, useful, wanted, and loved• How our identity can quietly become attached to our role• Why delegation and multiplication can expose insecurity• What John 15 and Ephesians 2 teach us about belonging and fruit• How to celebrate someone who gets the opportunity you wanted• Why losing a role doesn’t mean losing your worth• Three questions to help uncover where your identity has become tangled with what you doGod may reduce your role without reducing your worth.Your children becoming capable without you, someone you trained becoming better than you, or a team you built functioning without you doesn’t automatically mean you’ve become irrelevant.Sometimes, that’s what faithful leadership and legacy actually look like.You were created to bear fruit.You were never meant to make the fruit the root of who you are.👇 PRESENT PROVIDER ASSESSMENT:https://forms.gle/pixHy6AzSFiaPTFw8If this hit somewhere personal, tell me in the comments:“If they no longer needed me to __________, I’m afraid it would mean __________.”Let’s live faithful—not FOR identity, but FROM identity.Now go live better and best. Conquer this week.CHAPTERS:00:00 Success That Hurts01:37 Loving The Craft02:19 When Growth Costs You02:57 The Need To Be Needed06:13 Identity Beyond Usefulness06:55 Faith Abiding And Fruit07:47 Legacy Not Replacement10:01 Don’t Withdraw In Pride11:00 Three Questions To Ask12:50 Journal And Pray It Out13:58 Calling Worth And Legacy15:22 Assessment And Sendoff

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