Nate Alley: Growing Up Without a Dad, Driving $200M in Construction & Why He Nearly Lost It All
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What challenges did Nate Alley face growing up without a father?
Thank you.
I wanted a dad, like, real bad. We were brought up by our old lady. Our old man took off when we were really young. I was three, she was two. Growing up, we did witness a bit of violence, a lot of alcohol, heaps of drugs. I think I was a pretty shit human being, man, to be perfectly honest. I was angry. There were times when I went from being bullied to being the bully.
You're 35 years old. You've built and scaled an incredible building business with Sentinel Homes in Hamilton that's done over 200 mil in building work.
I had no idea what I was up to. I had six staff, was taking on full contract bills. No contracts, just at the time, just like, you know, because I'd come from absolutely nothing. Mum's broke my whole life. You know, for me, the thought of making more than 30 bucks an hour was just like, oh, like, wow. And so I had a real disrespect for money even. I remember looking at my baby, man, and just being like, man, I need to sort my shit out. I mean, as Sentinel stands today, we've just done 10 years in business. We have a team of 20 at the moment.
How did Nate's upbringing influence his character and decisions?
In our biggest years, we've built 50, 60 homes in a year. We've done nearly 200 million in construction work in the last 10 years. Why do we do what we do when we know what we know? Look in the mirror, smack yourself in the face with a brick and go, why am I doing what I'm doing when I know what I know? I know that I want to be here. I know that I want to achieve this, but I'm doing this. And everyone has the ability to own that.
This week on Between Two Bears, we talk to Nate Alley.
Nate is one of our low-key legends. He's 35, a Hamilton builder and the co-owner of Sentinel Homes Waikato, a business he and his business partner Ash have grown from two houses in their first year to a $36 million pipeline and over $200 million in completed work. But this episode isn't really about building houses, it's about building a life. Nate grew up in Tokoroa without a dad. He went off the rails as a teenager. He left home at 15 and spent his early 20s chasing the wrong things for the wrong reasons. The day his eldest daughter was born at 26, something shifted and he spent the years since doing the deep unglamorous work of figuring out who he actually wants to be.
He's an Ironman, a God's Own competitor, a voracious reader, a recovering people pleaser, and one of the most value-driven blokes we've ever had in the studio. He's also been through a divorce, a near-business failure, and a proper burnout, and he doesn't dodge any of it.
There's some difficult stuff in here that Nate has never spoken about publicly before, and we're really grateful he trusted us with his story. This is one for anyone pulling themselves out of the shit or just trying to be a better version of who they were yesterday.
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Nate Elley, welcome to Between Two Beers. Happy to be here. We're very excited to have you in the One New Zealand studio this morning. I wanted to start by asking how you're feeling about being here. Oh, I'm not going to lie, man.
I'm bricking it. Long time listener. Yeah, probably just never thought I'd be in this seat. But yeah, honoured to be asked to share a yarn and obviously had some super massive shoes to follow in behind this week in particular. So yeah.
Yeah, happy to be here, man, but definitely feeling pretty nervy. I saw Nate on the way here. I was grabbing a coffee beforehand and I saw the look on his face and he walked in and I said, hey, look at this guy, got the weight of the world on his shoulders right now.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What challenges did Nate Alley face growing up without a father?
0:00–1:02
2
How did Nate's upbringing influence his character and decisions?
1:02–8:15
3
What pivotal moments led Nate to confront his past?
8:15–17:58
4
How did Nate Alley transition into the construction business?
17:58–1:01:05
5
What moment led Nate to realize he needed to take care of himself?
1:01:05–1:02:31
6
How did Nate's upbringing influence his leadership style?
1:02:31–1:04:40
7
What values does Nate emphasize in his business and personal life?
1:04:40–1:08:09
8
How does Nate approach personal development and coaching?
1:08:09–2:06:33
Speakers
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