New episodes every Thursday | Hosted by Blaine & ReedWe’ve kept this conversation in the vault for nearly a year—because it’s that important.After 35 years of marriage, Matt was outed overnight. Part 1 captures the immediate shock-wave: family fallout, buried trauma, and the first steps toward rebuilding a life that was never supposed to stay hidden.This isn’t just a coming-out story. It’s about the cost of secrets, the long shadow of shame, and what it takes to start over with integrity.🎙️ Part of our ongoing Because of Them series—honoring the lives and stories that made Pride possible. Some were loud. Some were quiet. All mattered.🔍 What We CoverThe split-second moment Matt’s secret became publicDecades of secrecy and its impact on identity & relationshipsTherapy as a lifeline when truth finally surfacesWhy support systems are critical when the closet door is ripped open⭐ Key TakeawaysComing out isn’t always a choice.Secrets carry a heavy psychological price.Family dynamics stay complicated long after the reveal.Healing starts with truth, therapy, and community.⏱️ Chapter Breakdown00:00 — Introduction to the Journey02:51 — The Unexpected Outing05:49 — The Aftermath of Being Outed08:58 — Family Dynamics and Reactions11:59 — Navigating the Emotional Turmoil15:04 — Confronting the Truth18:02 — Seeking Help and Support20:49 — The Impact of Trauma24:03 — Understanding Identity and Acceptance26:56 — Finding a Path Forward33:10 — Rationalizing Identity and Behavior36:09 — The Complexity of Coming Out39:12 — The Burden of Secrets41:36 — The Impact of Therapy on Self-Discovery45:19 — Navigating Relationships Post-Come-Out48:00 — Experiences in Treatment Facilities53:30 — Reflections on Self-Entitlement and Guilt56:39 — The Evolution of Connections in the LGBTQ+ Community01:01:45 — Mental Health and Workplace Dynamics01:03:35 — The Importance of Resources for the LGBTQ+ Community🔊 Memorable Lines“I was ripped out of the closet.”“I didn’t want to hurt people.”“I was so f*cking entitled.”🧭 Why It MattersNot everyone gets to come out on their own terms. Matt’s story shows how heavy the closet can be—and how powerful truth becomes once spoken aloud.🎧 Listen now, then queue Part 2 to hear how Matt starts over at 60. 💬 Tell us: Who made your Pride possible? 📲 Follow @coffeewithgays for clips, polls & more.Support the showFollow Us! The Hosts are on our linktr.ee 😉🌐 Visit our Linktree For All the Socials🕺 Follow us on TikTok🎥 Subscribe to our YouTube Channel📸 Follow us on Instagram🐦 Follow us on Twitter🍏 Subscribe on Apple Podcasts🎵 Subscribe on Spotify Podcasts❤️ Subscribe on iHeart Radio🌍 Check Out Our Website: https://www.coffeewithgays.com/

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