You're afraid of not feeling good enough. Meanwhile, you wake up every day already feeling that way. So what exactly are you protecting yourself from? In this live coaching episode, I work with Laurie-Ann Murabito, a successful speaking coach who's built a beautiful business but came to me feeling stuck. Not confident enough. Not getting the engagement she wanted. Not seeing the results she expected. So she stopped promoting her work and held back from the bigger vision she knew she was being called toward. Within minutes of our session, I exposed the pattern she was living: She was afraid of not feeling good enough, but she was already experiencing that feeling every single day. She was protecting herself from what she was already living. This is imposter syndrome in its most insidious form. Not the dramatic "I'm a fraud" moments, but the quiet, daily erosion of confidence that keeps accomplished people playing small. Laurie-Ann had all the evidence she needed that she was creating real results. Clients hiring her out of the blue after listening silently for months. People telling her she was their only choice. But she wasn't looking at that data. She was hanging her confidence on likes, comments, and downloads that would never be enough. Here's where the coaching got interesting: I asked her what she was getting from staying stuck that she wouldn't admit. What was the real payoff for playing small? Her answer shifted everything: "I get to stay right here. I don't have to step into that bigger role." This is the work I do. I don't coach to what you think the problem is. I coach to the operating system underneath that's producing all those symptoms. While most coaches would focus on confidence-building exercises or mindset mantras, I go after the unconscious pattern that's creating the lack of confidence in the first place. When Laurie-Ann described the vision she's been holding back from, building a world-class speaking and communication company, tears came. That's when I knew we hit the real issue. This wasn't about confidence. It was about identity. Who would she need to become to step into that vision? And what parts of herself would she need to stop being loyal to? I guided Laurie-Ann to see that she was choosing evidence that kept her small because looking at evidence of her real impact would require her to step up. And stepping up meant leaving behind the familiar version of herself that feels safe, even when it's exhausting. In this coaching episode, you'll hear me guide Laurie-Ann through: Why she was making her confidence conditional on external results instead of recognizing that doing the work itself was enough The unconscious payoff of staying stuck and how it was protecting her from having to step into a bigger role How she was choosing to look at data that supported staying small while ignoring evidence that she was creating real results The exact question that exposed the paradox: being afraid of what she was already experiencing every day The practice of naming the part of her that believes she's not enough so it stops running her life (meet Gertrude) The difference between acknowledging limiting voices and tolerating them How to stop protecting yourself from what you're already living This episode is for you if: You've built success but don't feel successful You're accomplished on the outside but struggling with confidence internally You have a bigger vision but keep finding reasons to stay where you are You're tired of waiting to feel ready before you take action You want to understand what it's like to work with me This is what it sounds like to work with a Master Coach who sees the operating system underneath your surface symptoms. If you've been holding back from something bigger, tune in. Ready to explore your own patterns? Book a free 15-minute Congruency Audit at lisacarpenter.ca/audit. We'll identify what's working, what's out of sync, and the single biggest opportunity to bring your life, work, and self back into congruence.

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