Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Speak with Gravitas and Command the Room with Caroline Goyder
24 Feb 2026
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Chapter 1: What does Caroline Goyder believe about confidence?
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Chapter 2: What is the 'Mafia Secret' to powerful stage presence?
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Chapter 3: How can lengthening your exhale help with anxiety?
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One of the principles on stage is stillness and movement, movement and stillness. And often you can tell on stage who the most powerful person is. You know, think of any good mafia movie that you've watched. The most powerful person is still because everybody else moves around them. Is there in the animal kingdom as well?
And so often stillness is the kind of paradoxical thing that makes you powerful. And stillness in the breath underpins stillness in the body. Because you can't be still in the body if your breath isn't calm.
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Chapter 4: What role does the diaphragm play in voice projection?
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Tell me, have you been enjoying these new bonus confidence classics episodes we've been dropping on you every week? We've literally hundreds of episodes for you to listen to. So these bonuses are a great way to help you find the ones you may have already missed. I hope you love this one as much as I do. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so glad you're here today to meet our guest, Caroline Goiter.
Caroline's global reputation as a speaker and voice coach is built on her warm, engaging, relaxed, and highly practical style and her expertise honed by her work with actors, teachers, broadcasters, and the corporate sector. That means you. She worked for many years at Royal Central School of Speech and Drama as a voice coach.
Her skill is to take ideas previously known by performers and broadcasters and to make them immediately usable for the audience in their personal and professional challenges. She's regularly sought after by the media as an expert in her field, and her work has featured her on television and numerous national and international newspaper articles.
Her TED Talk, which is amazing, has over 9 million views.
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Chapter 5: Why are pauses considered an underrated speaking tool?
And yes, I am very jealous. At Caroline's website, carolinegoiter.com, I'll link it in the notes, you will find information about booking her to speak, signing up for her Find Your Voice event, and you can download her short audio courses and help you speak better. with confidence. Caroline, thank you so much for being here.
Oh, it's great to be here, Heather. And your TED Talk, I know, will have as many views in as much time. They go up.
From your lips to God's ears, I am hoping so. And I want to start with the TED Talks for two reasons. One, I saw your talk. It's unbelievable. Definitely warrants the views that it got. It's so unique and different. But you seemed so confident and so calm Did you feel that way?
Chapter 6: How does standing up during virtual meetings impact presence?
Like break it down for me because I was a nervous wreck when I gave my... So the backstory to this one is that I had a wonderful coach called Denise Graveline who really sadly died. She ran a site in the US called The Eloquent Woman. And she died three years ago, which is awful. But at the time she was coaching me, she said, this is a massive risk.
Because of course, a speaker coach, I mean, you know, right? The speaker coach standing on a TED stage, you've got to nail that. You've got... You did, though. You did nail it. So the back story to that is that I did do a lot of work on it and I spent time with Denise working on script. I spent time thinking about the prop and I spent quite a lot of time rehearsing with a stand up comedy coach.
It's not a funny talk, but stand up comedy coaches are just good at nailing it. And when I got there on the day, one of the organizers said, you're the most prepared person in this room. And I was like, you bet I am.
So I can't mess this up.
Chapter 7: Can introverts be compelling speakers?
But it's important for everyone to understand because I didn't even know this. Here you are, you're the coach. You are a speaker coach and you're enlisting and investing and getting your own coach. That's a big deal.
I mean, it's like any tennis player will tell you or any executive will tell you, you can't do it without a coach. You can't cut your own hair because you can't see around the back. You can't coach your own talk because you can't see your blind spots. So you and I both know that coaching is...
essential and even when you become this thing called an expert a coach is even more important because nothing is static learning has to evolve and if you're not evolving you're not an expert oh it's so that's so true and back to our conversation we were having earlier with all the ai and technology changes and updates we constantly have to be learning and growing
Well, Caroline, I found it interesting that one of the first things I thought when I listened to your talk was the way you speak and your voice just draws you in. It's so beautiful. And when I shared that with you, you said, oh my gosh, it hasn't always been that way. So take us down that journey and how that could even be real.
I really am the archetypal teacher who teaches what she needs. And the reason I'm so passionate about teaching people
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Chapter 8: What mindset shifts can help transform anxiety into authority?
to speak with calm and control and confidence is that when I got to drama school, you know, 2000 BC, they said to me, you have no presence. You're not centered. Your voice is thin. You're not grounded. You're not listening. And I, you know, a litany of kind of complaint that you often get at drama school. And I had no idea what to do with that. And I thought there's nothing I can do.
I'm just, I'm just a bad actor. And I got the right teachers. And with their help over the last couple of decades, you unpick that I wasn't breathing in the right way. I was standing badly. My throat was tense. My jaw was a bit tense. And I wasn't present to others because there was too much noise in my head. All the stuff that I'm conscious of now, I had to learn about.
And as soon as you unpick it, you realize you can change really quickly. And voices respond so quickly. to a bit of gentle attention. So this is all so learnable. I am evidence of that.
Well, I'm so glad you're here because I have zero knowledge around this topic. And it's so interesting to me to think that everything that you just described, that you actually learned and access knowledge, and now you're going to share that knowledge with us. So where do we begin? I constantly get DMs from people saying, I have to give a big speech or I have to get up in my office and talk.
I'm freaking out. What do I do, Heather? How do I find the confidence? How do you direct people?
The first thing I would say to someone is understand that confidence is a set of behaviors. You know, whether you call it atomic habits or Aristotle's right actions, confidence isn't something you're born with. So if you're feeling... oh my God, I can't make that speech or I have to speak on that panel. It's like thinking I can't drive.
If you think I can't drive and I need to drive, the thing you do is go get driving lessons. So the first thing I would say to someone is if you have that speech coming up and it worries you, don't ignore it. Seek out help. The beautiful thing about the US is there is a good speech and voice coach in every town. You just put that, put it into Google and someone will come up. Enlist their help.
work on your speech with them get support find out what you do well find out what you need to tweak and then practice it and if you spend three or four lessons with a voice and speech coach and then practice it at home a few times you will feel ready because you've practiced it just like when you do a driving test If you've done enough practice, you pass. And that's the thing.
People think it's magic and it's not. It's not magic. It's practice.
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