Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Start Creating the Life You Really Want with Heather!
13 May 2026
Chapter 1: What should you let go of to create the life you want?
What are you hanging on to or allowing for? I see so many people, I know so many people settling for things, settling for bad jobs, settling for bad relationships, settling for not being healthy, just because they're afraid to let go of what is to see what can be. sometimes the universe gives us something so much better that we didn't even know was out there for us.
Chapter 2: How can negative thinking block your opportunities?
You're never going to find, in my opinion, what it is you really want if you're not willing to let go and walk away of what you don't want, right? Like you've got to say goodbye to that if you want to open that door for what you truly want. Come on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to
chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow.
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Chapter 3: What role do belief and energy play in decision-making?
I'm going to try to share with you today the process that I went through or I've gone through over the last few months to try to bring about change in my life, right? Which was not easy. However, I really believe that it worked. I mean...
proof is in the pudding right so let me cut to the chase okay as you know so bizarre i started saying this is gosh months ago this is probably back in january i started saying i don't know how but i know some way that my son and i are going to move to a new home with so much space by the way i live in a two-bedroom condo on the ocean in miami beach which is gorgeous, right?
I live in the most beautiful place in the world on the water for 17 years. I love it. However, to live in a pandemic with a child and zoom in one room and me in the other room on the computer and zoom all day. And we had no space, right? So ever since that happened, It just became clear to me I really wanted to have space. That was something really important to me.
And I didn't know how it was going to happen, but it's been something I've been putting out to the universe, right? This is what I want. Don't know how it's going to come to be. And the reason why I say that is I bought this place in 2005, which was literally at the height of the market. South Beach was on fire.
Chapter 4: How do your words and mindset shape your reality?
You couldn't even get in. Very similar to what it's like now. But because I bought at the height of the market, I just always assumed I had to own this place forever because I wouldn't be able to make a profit. I just end up renting it out, you know, years later. But I felt I was stuck here. OK, so as long as I held on to that belief, I remained here. Key change the belief, right?
So I started just putting out to the universe that I knew we were moving to a really spacious, beautiful, again, lots of space. He could have his own floor. I could have my own floor. I mean, big goals here, right? So anyhow, I kept putting that out to the universe and on the daily, I had it written down, right? Like I commit to it. I visualize it happening.
And for a while, nothing happened during this time. My son goes to school very far away. And it's almost like it's a 45 minute to an hour ride to school every day. You have to cross multiple causeways, which means real potential for massive traffic. I was spending so much of my time in the last year in a car. It was truly causing me anxiety. I was like getting panicked when I was driving.
I just was so sick of just wasting time. And for my poor son too, you know, who had to wake up at 5 45 in the morning to get to school. It's just, it's crazy. No one should have to, you know, live like that unless you want to, unless you're a morning person, which 5.45 for a young boy in middle school is pretty early. Okay. So I was clear on what I didn't want, right? Which was helpful.
I knew I didn't want to live so far from his school anymore. I knew I didn't want to sit in traffic and waste time so much anymore and spend so much of my day driving, right? So I was really crystal clear on what I did not want. Now I needed to start getting clear on what I did want.
So I wanted to live closer to his school, closer to his friends, so that I wasn't an Uber driver every day just driving him around, right? I wanted something that's easier, easy. Doesn't that sound so nice? Oh my gosh, I love easy. Right, so I decided I wanted something easy with a lot of space and beautiful and... just easier.
So I was putting that out to the universe, right, for a while, and definitely talking to people about it, not knowing what would happen. And wouldn't you know, randomly, and if you've been with me, listening to the show for a while, you already know this part of it.
But all of a sudden, one day, my neighbor walked up to me on my floor, she literally used to live next door to me, super nice woman and said, Hey, you should put your house up for sale. We just put ours up and we made a fortune on it. They haven't lived here that long. So I thought, oh, you know, they probably didn't buy it the worst time in the world like I did.
And I said, oh, yeah, that sounds great. I wish I could move. That would be amazing. She said, well, talk to my realtor because we just sold our place. We're moving. And, you know, there's other buyers that wanted our place. Maybe they'd buy yours. I said, okay, yeah, I will.
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Chapter 5: What small changes can signal readiness for bigger opportunities?
I'll talk to him. And so I go inside. The next day I get home, right? I did nothing about it. I was thinking about it, but I didn't do anything. And I got home and there's a note on my door from my neighbor. And it says, Heather, call my realtor. Here's his name, David. Here's his number. And I thought that was interesting, right? Because she's not a pushy person at all. She's so sweet.
I don't even see her very often, right? They have a couple of different homes and they're not always here. So I just thought, you know what? This means something. I'm super open to signs from the universe, from God. I'm always asking for them. If you're not, start asking for them because it's incredible what you'll find. But anyhow, so I thought, okay, this is a sign I need to call.
So I call the realtor, immediately calls me back. And he says, listen, I can sell your place in a week to two weeks tops a month. This is back at the end of April. So I said, okay, oh my gosh, this is amazing news. I've been wanting to move so bad. My son goes to school so far away. It would be incredible. Get over here and tell me how much you think you can sell this for.
I bought it the worst time. He and his partner come over and right away, they tell me $500,000 more than I paid for it. I about fell over. I was so living in the past that I wasn't opening my eyes up to the real potential of what was happening in the marketplace in front of me. I was just holding on to this idea that I bought at the worst time and I could never sell.
So thankfully, my neighbor tapped me on the shoulder. Thankfully, I'd been putting out to the universe, to God, that I wanted to move. I wanted some opportunity to come along so that Dylan could get closer to school. Anyhow. Okay, so I was super excited right over the moon he reached out to all the potential buyers that had wanted my neighbor's condo.
And so, immediately we were showing my condo like, I don't even know five times a day. Now, let's pause for a minute. This is where no matter what change you want in your life, there's going to be pain with change, right? Like change is you're going through some kind of an evolution, right? So the painful part around selling my condo was you have to get it literally pristine.
You want everything so clean. You can't have dishes around or laundry around or anything. You know, everything has to be as clean and as empty as possible. They wanted me to purge through so much stuff, you know, old boxes or papers or whatever. So there was a lot of work that went on behind the scenes. And as we were showing the condo so much, he didn't want me here when he's showing it.
And I work from home, right? So it was definitely... a challenging window of time. You know, I was just leaving my house whenever he would text me, I've got someone, can I bring them by? Sure. I would cancel a meeting or run to the car and take the meeting in the car. It was just crazy. My point is it wasn't easy, right?
We hadn't reached easy yet, but I knew I need to go through this little challenging window to get to this better other side that I want. So I want you to think about that for whatever changes that you want in your life. You're gonna have to go through some kind of a struggle, right? And challenge to get there, but it's so worth it. What do you do?
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Chapter 6: How can you retrain your mind to see new possibilities?
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So this went on, I don't know, for maybe a week or two weeks and we immediately had two offers. Oh my gosh, this is so crazy. The first offer we had was almost full asking price. It was like $50,000 less than asking price. And my realtor's an expert in this business and he said, let's go back and push them to meet halfway. Okay, sure. She walked from the deal, right?
Because she just didn't want to negotiate and that was it. Okay, so she was gone. By the way, that was the best offer we ever got on the condo. How crazy is that? Because if you're aware of what's been going on, right, interest rates have skyrocketed and people are talking about recession and the housing market suddenly started slowing down in the mid to end of May.
We didn't know this was coming, right? Had no idea. So that right after we lost that first buyer, a second buyer came, a little bit less than the first buyer, still a lot of money. And we said, yes, okay, we're going to take the deal. All cash should close really quickly. From day one, these people were so difficult to deal with. Nitpicking everything, it was just a nightmare.
And you could sense something not good was going on. Well, my realtor explained to me, because I haven't sold a house in 17 years, that they have to put a deposit down immediately. Then they have to put a huge deposit down once you pass inspection. And once that happens, that's when he wanted me to go find somewhere else for us to live. But not until then,
because you're not certain that you have the deal done even though you have the contract right you don't have the money so it was the day of our inspection i went over to this super cute restaurant right next to my house which is adorable and i was just drinking coffee working over there and he was there for hours and he told me it was going to be super quick
red flag anyways i came back they said they wanted to meet the people that run the building then they found out there was a legal issue which every condo building has legal issues but they decided to say tell heather she either cuts another 100k off the price or this deal's dead we're walking So ultimately, they were trying a really dirty way of negotiating, which I think is extremely unethical.
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Chapter 7: What challenges come with making significant life changes?
I didn't know there was going to be a big speaking career for me. I didn't know there was going to be this podcast and that you were going to be listening and that we were going to be hanging together. I didn't know any of these things were going to happen. until I was willing to let go of what was and step into the possibility of what could be. Super scary, I get it.
And listen, I'm trying to tell you, I still toggle back and forth, but I'm getting better. It's like retraining yourself. One of the things that was helpful for me it might be helpful for you, is learning, learning new things, listening to different people, listening to people who have been where you want to go, will start allowing your mind to think differently and start seeing possibilities.
So I made a decision a few months ago, no longer to listen to radio or music or whatever in the car, but instead to listen to audiobooks and podcasts that would train me to think differently, that would teach me new ways of thinking and and would help me to focus on what I want to create. And I think it's had a big impact, right?
Like I'm constantly running these loops in my mind of what the potential of my future can be. And I'm focusing on these changes and I'm making small changes all around my life to show the universe and God that I'm ready for these bigger ones. And I'm seeing it come to fruition now. And it's so exciting. And I want that for you, right?
I know it's super easy to get caught up in the headlines and all the negativity. I'm choosing not to participate. I'm over it. You know, I chose to participate during COVID and it took me... to downtown negative Nelly, like not a good train, not interested in going back. So instead, this time, I'm going to focus on my mindset, my thoughts, and the possibility within me.
And there is always possibility. I think back to the 08-09 recession, and I just... I focused on all the negativity and how scared I was. What I've learned now is that you have a choice to choose fear or you can choose joy. You can choose love. You know, today I'm choosing joy and love. I'm not going to hang on to fear. It doesn't end well, right?
Like you end up harming yourself, whether you realize it or not at the time. I want you to know that is a choice. And I get it. You're saying, well, maybe for you, it's a choice. But for me, I'm afraid I'm not going to be able to pay my bills or do this or that. I get it. I felt the same way.
But once I changed my thinking, those opportunities started to present themselves and they weren't presenting themselves when I was hanging on to the fear, when I was hanging on to what wasn't working. So choose to let go of what's been weighing you down.
Choose to let go of what you've been settling for so you have that opportunity to open that door to that possible future that is out there for you. I am living it right now. I promise you I am so living it and I so want you to be as well. So thank you for being here with me this week.
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