Divorce Your Story Podcast
Episodes
107. What Does " Doing The Inner Work" Mean?
12 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you hear things such as: You need to heal OR You need to do your inner work You could be left to wonder "What does that mean?", "What does th...
106. Moving On From An Unhealthy Relationship Without The Guilt
04 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When a relationship is considered to be "unhealthy" the misunderstanding is that once you depart: You fall out of love The emotions are gone Thoug...
105. Quitters & Committers...Interview w/ Sadie's Divorced & Happy Podcast
27 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to relationships, you're often told to "never give up" or "persevere" or "stay and fight" ....but is there a time where it may be in the...
104. 5 Signs That You're Healing From Your Past Relationship
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to "healing" from a previous relationship, questions such as: "How long will this take?" "Will I ever get through this?" "When will...
103. Being "Friends" With Your Ex
13 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Breaking up can be so hard to do that attempting to maintain a friendship sounds civil to help lesson the pain. However, is it good for your quality o...
102. Why The Podcast Name Change?
06 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to our new updated podcast "Purposely Thriving". We've decided to pivot in a direction that still focuses on divorce and relationship dissolut...
101. Acknowledging Your Progress Within Your Journey - 10 minute talk w/ Tonya
30 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's so easy to look at others that we know and love and be proud of them....however, when it comes to your own acknowledgements, do you carve out int...
100. Q & A w/ Tonya - Accepting The Reality Of Your Divorce
23 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Acceptance is one of the most courageous but challenging stages of grief that a person can experience when dissolving a relationship. Acceptance takes...
Re-Aired Episode! "When They're Unable To See Your Value"
16 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you're attempting to make sense of the dissolution of your relationship...one of the questions you could be asking yourself is "Why were they una...
99. When You're The One Getting Hurt In Relationships
09 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you keep asking yourself questions such as: Why do I keep getting hurt? Why is this always happening to me? How is it that I'm a good person...
98. Breaking Up With Your Past
02 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How loyal are you to your past? The past is not always "left behind"...oftentimes, it can travel with you therefore developing inaccurate truths and n...
97. Reclaiming Your Self-Worth
25 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Ending a relationship can have you questioning your self worth. You may find yourself with questions and/or statements such as: What's wrong with me...
Re-Aired Episode! "When You Still Love & Miss Your Ex"
18 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There's this misconception that when the relationship is over, all feelings are gone when that's hardly even the case. This can cause a person to beli...
96. Healing Your Relationship With Food w/ Dr. Ebony Butler
11 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Let's talk food...specifically your personal relationship with food & what does that relationship currently consists of. And this is much deeper t...
95. Are You Planning For An Intentional Life? - 10 minute talk w/ Tonya
04 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Divorces/Breakups hurt, however, what perception has been developed from this experience? What story are you constantly rehearsing, rehashing and repl...
Re-Aired Episode! "Be Intentional"... 4 Things You Need To Stop Doing After Your Relationship"
20 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
One of many challenges when dissolving a relationship is adjusting in ways that will help you heal forward… I find that some people make themselves ...
94. Be Protective With Who You Give Your Time To
13 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Here's a unpopular truth: No relationship is guaranteed however when you're not on the same page in terms of wanting commitment, then you must be mind...
93. On & Off Relationships
07 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you're in a cycle of "break up to make up", not only does it bring relationship dissatisfaction but it also brings psychological distress such as...
92. Are you questioning your value? - 10 minute talk w/ Tonya
30 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you've displayed support, unconditional love, and a 110% effort in a relationship and it didn't work out, one of the most challenging things is n...
91. Are You Breaking Your Own Heart?
23 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There are many conversations around heartbreaks from others but what about the heartbreak that a person could be doing to themselves? Could a pe...
90. Q & A w/ Tonya - Surviving a Narcissistic Relationship
16 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dissolving a relationship with someone who's a narcissist can leave a person feeling powerless, drained, emotionally intoxicated and mentally confused...
89. Women's Health...Be Your Own Champion w/Dr. Indie F. Jones
09 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
According to the CDC, 2 out of every 3 caregivers in the U.S. are women, meaning that they provide daily or regular support to children, adults, or pe...
88. What a Broken Heart Can Do to Your Mind
02 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Studies indicate that a person's mental health can be impacted when faced with any form of a challenge in life. Losing/Ending a relationship can be a ...
87. Cultivating Self-Trust
25 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When relationships dissolve, "trust" is of the most fragile things that needs to strengthen. From betrayal, manipulation, to even disregarding your ne...
Re-Aired Episode! "When Your Ex Moves On Quickly"
18 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week I've decided to reair one of my most popular episodes! Seeing your ex move on quickly after your relationship can leave questions. You may w...
86. Financial Freedom (How She Saved $750,000 Post Divorce in Four Years) w/ Dr.LaKisha Simmons
11 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When relationships end, finances get impacted in ways that can bring worry and uncertainty in reference to your financial future. From your daily bill...
85. Q & A w/Tonya - How Do I Overcome The Fear Of "Being Used" Again?
04 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you've been used in ways that your kindness has been mistaken for weakness, it can cause you to live in isolation and self-sabotage, therefore no...
84. Q & A w/ Tonya - "Should I leave My Emotionally Abusive Spouse?"
28 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Emotional abuse is one of those "hidden types" that maybe harder to notice. This form of abuse impacts many areas of your life as well as the overall ...
83. Reconnecting to Your Confidence w/ Destiny Inspire
21 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When relationships end, your confidence has the impact of being compromised where you feel rejected, insecure, to even self-blame. If left unresolved,...
82. Building Better Boundaries w/ Chautè Thompson, LMHC
14 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
One of the biggest statements I hear from women is “I don’t know who I am” And when you’re unsure of who you are, your voice (aka your persona...
81. Becoming Your Best Self After Divorce w/ Catherine Shanahan & Karen Chellew
07 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Divorce is more than just the legal side of things. There are other sides that are important such as your mental state, emotional wellbeing, physical ...
80. Do Healthy Relationships Exist? w/ Dr. Patrice Berry
28 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There's heavy awareness and conversations around relationships that involve things such as narcissism, trauma, toxicity to even different types of abu...
79. The Courage to Love Again w/ Kiesha & Marvin Richardson
21 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When relationships dissolve, one of the misinterpretations is to get involved in another relationship. However, what many fail to see are the differen...
Re-Aired Episode! "Queenology" - Royalty Is Your Destiny w/ Bishop R.C. Blakes, Jr.
14 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week I've decided to reair one of my most popular episodes! Divorces and breakups can leave residue of inadequacy, lack and confidence and even t...
78. Dating Thyself w/ A'Jos-Lyn Brailsford
07 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Does "Dating Yourself" seem like a weird concept? Does "being single" make you feel left out? From society, family, friends, to even relationship expe...
77. Moving On From The Relationship You Thought You Wanted
31 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you want a relationship to truly work however, it doesn't? Remaining mentally and emotionally connected to a past relationship leave...
76. Dealing With Disappointment
24 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Disappointments are inevitable, even in the area of relationships! Even though this maybe logical to get, it may not always be understood mentally and...
75. Your Most Powerful Asset In Order To Heal
17 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What you believe about yourself, your life and others will be the influence on your direction! When wanting to heal, the elevation of your thought pro...
74. Forgetting Your Ex
10 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When breakups occur, there are times where you find yourself mentally and emotionally connected to your ex where it's occupying so much of your time a...
73. Getting Through The Breakup For The New Year!
03 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the area of relationships they're couples who chose not to continue their marriage or their relationship within the New Year! This decision brings ...
72. You Cannot "Save" Everyone w/ Johnetta Middleton
27 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Have you taken on the role of always being the “rescuer” for others? Do you feel the need to save people? Have you developed a strong tend...
71. Recovering From Regret
20 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We've all regretted something at one point in our lives. From mistakes we've made, mishaps that has taken place, to even making not so good choices. H...
70. Healing for High Achieving Women w/ Kay Smith
13 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Women who are “high achievers” expect to excel in EVERY role they play in their lives. And with all the hats they normally wear, the hat of their ...
69. When Loving Hard Is Hurting You
06 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like displaying love is a waste of time when it goes unappreciated and/or taken advantage of? Do you feel like because you're a lov...
68. Releasing The Mom Guilt w/ Kim Williams
29 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
"Mom Guilt" can be pervasive amongst mothers where you may feel like you're doing enough to even feeling like you may not be doing things "right". Are...
67. The Story You're Telling Yourself
22 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The narrative you come up with about yourself and your life will become your reality. Your thoughts becomes your belief that produces a result that co...
66. Handling Emotional Holiday Triggers
15 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The holiday season is here and for many this time of year can bring emotions of sadness, loneliness, stress and even seasonal depression. When relatio...
65. People Pleasing Syndrome
08 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When attempting to please others takes precedence over your wellbeing and quality of life, then chances are you’ve developed a habit of being a “p...
64. When You've Been Ghosted
01 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Ghosting occurs when someone you're seeing all of sudden disappears without any form of communication. They won't respond to your texts, emails,...
63. Surviving Domestic Violence w/ Dana Martin
25 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Domestic violence can often be mistaken as ONLY a physical encounter. However, it also includes emotional, economic, psychological, and sexual. ...
62. Five Types of Relationships to Avoid Entertaining
18 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
There are just certain types of relationships that should be avoided at all costs! When you decide to "entertain" someone, you're giving them your tim...
61. Getting Past The Hurt & Betrayal
11 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When someone you love hurts you, so much gets processed internally: The disbelief and shock of it all Your self-esteem gets compromised An over...
60. When You're Tired!
04 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Are you exhausted? Not just physically but mentally, emotionally and spiritually? Divorces/breakups can bring a level of tiredness where you find your...
59. Knowing Your Numbers w/ Catherine Shanahan
27 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The emotional overwhelm of going through a divorce can be very taxing on a person. There are many areas to consider when the dissolution of a marriage...
58. When You Thought Your Love Would Be Enough
20 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Can one person's effort eventually be enough for a relationship to sustain even when it's clear that the other person's patterns is displaying somethi...
57. Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend w/Shonda B. White
13 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
"Giving Your All" can sound so honorable and normalized where it can also send the wrong message of what it means when it comes to serving in relation...
56. Divorcing Your Story
06 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The narrative that you're attached to mentally is the foundation in how you feel about yourself, your life and others. From that narrative, a manifest...
55. Hope After Divorce (Forgiveness, self-love, & living life again) w/ Mechelle Luster
30 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Divorce is a huge interruption in a person's life. There' so much behind the scenes that needs to unfold that many don't know nor see. From the ...
54. Overcoming Rejection
23 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling rejected from a relationship can often leave a person to question themselves. They often wonder: Why wasn’t I enough? What’...
53. Four Common Relationship Mistakes
10 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In relationships we all have made mistakes. We've all done something that we may not necessarily be proud of or don't even want to admit. However, wha...
52. Managing Trust Issues In a New Relationship
26 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Phrases & Thoughts such as: “I don’t trust no one!” “No one is to be trusted!” “There are no loyal people nowadays”...
51. Is Love A "Struggle"?
12 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Somewhere, somehow it’s been glorified that dealing with a high level of constant pain in a relationship must be taken for the “real love” to fo...
50. "T.H.R.I.V.E Series" - Co-dependency, forgiveness, & creating a new way of living w/ Shunte Jones
28 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Over the next four weeks, we're doing a "T.H.R.I.V.E series" where previous clients who have been through my 12-week program, are joining me to share ...
49. "T.H.R.I.V.E Series" - When You Grow Tired w/ Tee Chapman
21 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Over the next four weeks, we're doing a "T.H.R.I.V.E series" where previous clients who have been through my 12-week program, are joining me to share ...
48. "T.H.R.I.V.E Series" - Overcoming Depression To Establishing Peace w/ Renee Jackson
14 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Over the next four weeks, we're doing a "T.H.R.I.V.E series" where previous clients who have been through my 12-week program, are joining me to share ...
47. "T.H.R.I.V.E Series" - When You're "asleep" In Your Marriage w/ Maliha Ahmed
07 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Over the next four weeks, we're doing a "T.H.R.I.V.E series" where previous clients who have been through my 12-week program, are joining me to share ...
46. The "Other Woman"....The New Woman.....How to handle it?
24 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode I decided to do a Q & A from a question that I received on IG. The individual who reached out to me is having trouble dealing w...
45. Relationships & Mental Health w/Bree Gordon
17 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
May is Mental Health Awareness Month and to bring a level of insight around this topic, this episode discuss your relationships and mental health. Why...
44. "Conversations With Men" - Getting Married Again: A Man's Perspective w/Glenn P. Brooks Jr.
03 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Studies show that 60% of second time marriages end in divorce. So the million dollar question is: "Why?" From emotional residue from the 1...
43. "Conversations With Men" - Involved Dad: Responsible Fatherhood w/Shon Hart
26 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Studies show that a father's involvement is linked to better outcomes on a child's well-being. From cognitive development, education achievement, self...
42. "Conversations With Men" - Men After Divorce w/ Jamel Jackson
19 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Contrary to what many think, divorce is hard on both men and women. It's often believed that it's easier for men but studies show that divorce is an e...
41. "Conversations With Men" - Men Need Healing Too w/ Joseph Wilson, MMFT
12 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Healing is an area that seems to not get enough positive attention towards men. When this happens, men are left to suppress every emotion, every feeli...
40. Embracing Your Womanhood
18 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When a relationship ends, it could cause you to question yourself in ways that impacts who you are. You may wonder: Am I good enough? Am I pretty ...
39. When "Being Single" Bothers You
22 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
For many "being single" appears to be some kind of disease that nobody wants to catch.... Chances are when you've been in a relationship for a long ti...
38. I Want To Make It Work But They Don't
01 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when one person wants to exit out of the relationship and the other one doesn't? Even though the logical solution is to respect the other...
37. It's Over...Now What?
11 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
It's 2021 & the New Year tends to bring new changes even in the area of relationships & marriages. They're couples who decide to not car...
36. Don't Overlook The Person Who Compliments You!
24 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes when you're only focused on the external attributes of a person, you overlook the intangible assets that are vital to go through life succes...
35. Winning & Thriving As a Single Parent w/ Kaywanda Lamb
10 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When couples split, the parenting dynamic shifts. Those dynamics can be: Coparenting Parallel Parent OR one parent can have the majority of the c...
34. Surviving The Holidays
26 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This year for some may not be considered "The most wonderful time of the year" especially when your relationship has ended. The detachments from someo...
33. Stop Entertaining These Type of Relationships
05 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Here's the bottom line: There are just certain "types" of relationships that you need to avoid entertaining. When you're entertaining someone, it impa...
32. When Your Ex Moves On Quickly
15 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Seeing your ex move on quickly after your relationship can leave questions. You may wonder: How could they move on so soon? Did they value the rel...
31. Don't Go Back For These Reasons
17 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
To go back to something that you've walked away from needs to be carefully considered.. You're often told to "work things out" but why? What would tha...
30. Be Your Own Hero
03 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Being your own hero involves showing up for yourself by being committed to what you say you want for your life! It's easy to look at someone to save y...
29. "Be Intentional"... 4 Things You Need To Stop Doing After Your Relationship
20 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Simply put...there are just certain things that you must stop doing when you want to move on with your life from a relationship... Anyone can physical...
28. When They Couldn't See Your Value
05 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I get asked this a lot "Tonya, why didn't they see my value?", "What's wrong with me?" That question will keep you in an endless loop to find an answe...
27. Don't Make Your Moves Based On Your Ex.
23 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Your ex isn't your competition. What does this mean? It means that whatever they choose to do or don't do shouldn't determine what you need to do for ...
26. Seeking The Closure You Never Got
09 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Not understanding why a relationship ended can bring feelings of rejection, stagnation and one’s own personal attempt to figure it out only to be me...
25. "Queenology" - Royalty Is Your Destiny w/ Bishop R.C. Blakes, Jr.
01 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Divorces and breakups can leave residue of inadequacy, lack and confidence and even the mindset of believing that your worth as a woman has diminished...
24. What You Need To Know From A "Legal" Perspective w/ Attorney Drea Harvey
24 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When couples split, there is also a "legal" side of things that needs to be handled from assets, liabilities, child support, custody and/or spousal su...
23. Don't Become Bitter.....Become Better!
17 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When someone mentions to me that they've been angry for years, the truth is that anger doesn't last that long. Anger is a feeling that is short lived ...
22. Sweet Revenge
10 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
"Getting Even" often sounds sweet right? Especially when you want someone to pay for what you think should be their karma. However, we fail to see tha...
21. The Pain Of Your Story Is The Foundation Of Your Strength w/ Jasmyne Reynolds
27 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
As speaker Eric Thomas says "If you're going to go through pain, then get an reward from it" Many often let their pain become a ceiling where it keeps...
20. Got Trust Issues?
20 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Trust is defined as "firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something". When this trust seems to be broken thoughts...
19. Changing Her Narrative Changed Her Life w/Marquita Rias
13 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It only takes a mental shift to begin a new chapter. We can often believe that what has taken place in our lives is the final chapter not realiz...
18. Your Mental Health Matters
06 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know that 1 in 5 people will have a mental illness in their lifetime? It's also stated that everyone who faces challenges in life, their menta...
17. Using Journaling As A Healing Tool w/ Renee Ross
29 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
From social media posts to even texting, we have all used writing to express ourselves in some way. Did you know that journaling is an effective...
16. When You Still Love & Miss Your Ex
22 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
There's this misconception that when the relationship is over, all feelings are gone when that's hardly even the case. This can cause a person to beli...
15. Mental & Emotional Health is Your Self-Care w/ Dr. Tiffany Bellamy
15 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Self care is often encouraged as "treat yourself and you'll feel better". Now make no mistake there is nothing wrong with an "indulge" but we don't wa...
14. Don't Forget to Forgive You!
08 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
There's a lot of talk in these streets about forgiving other people which is true but I don't think we emphasize enough the importance of genuine self...
13. Side Hustles That Paid Off 43K w/ Valencia Morton
01 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When relationships end, finances shift. One of the biggest challenges I hear from women is the fear of not being able to manage and/or pay off current...