Why is it so hard to relax… even when everything is finally done? You finish work. The dishes are clean. The kids are asleep. The house is quiet. Yet your shoulders are still tight, your jaw is clenched, and your mind is already scanning for the next thing that needs your attention. In this insightful conversation, Dr. Mariza sits down with clinical psychologist and nervous system expert Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge to unpack why so many high-performing women feel trapped in survival mode, even when there's no immediate crisis. Together, they explore how years of chronic stress, caregiving, perfectionism, trauma, and constantly being "the one who holds everything together" can leave the nervous system stuck in a state of protection. The result? Irritability, anxiety, poor sleep, overwhelm, brain fog, and the feeling that you can never truly switch off. Dr. Roseann explains the difference between everyday stress and nervous system dysregulation, why being highly productive doesn't necessarily mean you're regulated, and how your "stress cup" gradually fills until even small challenges feel overwhelming. Most importantly, she shares practical, science-backed techniques that help retrain the nervous system to recognize safety again, from diaphragmatic breathing and somatic exercises to micro-moments of regulation throughout the day. If you've ever wondered why you can't seem to relax, even when life is technically under control, this conversation will help you understand what's happening inside your body and how to begin creating more calm, resilience, and joy. Roseann Capanna-Hodge Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge is a licensed clinical psychologist, mental health educator, author, and expert in nervous system regulation. With more than three decades of clinical experience, she specializes in helping children and adults overcome anxiety, ADHD, trauma, OCD, emotional dysregulation, and chronic stress using evidence-based neuroscience and holistic approaches. She is the author of The Dysregulated Kid and founder of DrRoseann.com. IN THIS EPISODE Why high-performing women often live in chronic survival mode The difference between stress and true nervous system dysregulation How perfectionism, trauma, and caregiving overload your "stress cup" Why your body struggles to relax, even when life feels under control Simple nervous system resets you can practice throughout the day How micro-moments of regulation build long-term resilience Why awareness alone isn't enough to create lasting change The "Love Pause" technique for reducing reactivity and improving relationships QUOTES “Just because you're high-performing doesn't mean your nervous system is regulated.” “You can't heal when you don't feel safe.” “We're leaving our kids emotional wealth, not just financial wealth.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Stop surviving and start thriving, join Midlife on Fire Collective now https://drmariza.com/jumpstart The Dysregulated Kid by Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge The Power Struggle Reset Plan Dr Roseann Website Dr. Roseann Instagram Dr. Roseann Youtube Dr. Roseann Facebook RELATED EPISODES 763: Why So Many High-Functing and Achieving Women Miss the Signs of Hormone Imbalance with Anastasia Sartan 758: Why Your Body Can’t Heal Until It Feels Safe: The Nervous System Shift That Changes Everything with Dr. Dave Rabin 760: The Mindset Shift That Helps You Stop Feeling Stuck with Dr. Rachel Goldman 754: How to Find Joy When Life Doesn’t Go According to Plan with Amberly Lago

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