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#356: How Have You Improved At Rolling With Life? Lessons From The Mat, Professor Chad.

22 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's amazing how calm & confident one can be while rolling with any size, speed or strength opponent when you have been rolling & drilling BJJ consist...

#355: 2 Real Stories of Control Freaks. What Is Your Relationship With Control?

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Two stories of control freaks & some corresponding lessons: 1 story of a control freak is from my business cult days & the 2nd story of a control frea...

#354: Helping Someone Get Emotionally Unstuck, Story of a 5 Yr Old On The BJJ Mats

15 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is a fascinating story of helping a 5 y/o little girl get emotionally unstuck while attending her first Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (BJJ) class.    It ...

#353: Two Big Failures & Boundaries Insights.

12 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  This episode is about one of my recent failures.    I felt like I absolutely bombed Day 3 of the Boundaries Workshop that I just completed.    ...

#352: 3 Important Questions Discussed With A 16 Yr Old Young Man.

08 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

EQG Ep 352 3 Important Questions Discussed With A 16 Yr Old Young Man   These 3 questions stemmed from a conversation with a 15 y/o teen from our chu...

#351: Be Where You Are. Be Who You Are.

05 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Wow, how present & in the moment am I?    This is definitely another area I'm sucking in.    After some reflection, I've realized how much of my t...

#350: I Thought I Would've Had Life Figured Out By Now

01 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I got hit with some heavy emotions on the way to get my car serviced. Heavy emotions like feeling behind, incompetent, insecurity, clueless, ineffecti...

#349: How Intentionally Do You Celebrate Your Failures? Lessons From The BJJ Mats

29 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I got tapped 3 times today by a blue belt & it was awesome! More on that later.   There were 4 purple belts, 3 blue belts and 2 white belts in my 6am...

#346: 6 EQ Exercises To Increase Your Self-Regard & Self-Confidence

25 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why does it seem like so many leaders have to increase & work on their EQ aspect of self-regard?    How do you grow your own self-regard and/or thos...

#347: How Emotionally Agile Are You? How Can You Change Your Perspective?

22 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at begin to change."    This is a story about a friend who recently got promoted to a...

#346: The Empathetic Executive Managing $1B & 2000 Employees, West Point Grad, Roxanne Bernstein

18 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Roxanne is the executive vice president and president of ACCO Brands North America, a $1Bn segment of ACCO Brands. She has responsibility for 2,000 em...

#345: The Follow Up To Failure After Choking On Day 3 of the Boundaries Workshop

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is a follow-up of feeling like I completely bombed Day 3 of my recent free Boundaries Workshop.    The quick recap of that experience was I got...

#344: On Humility With Advisor To Billionaire Company Senior Executives, Bob McCoole

11 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Bob McCoole is the Founder & Principal at McCoole, LLC - A Consulting Firm. Bob was the CEO of an $800 Million Construction company for 10 years. Then...

#343: Deliberate Discomfort. Lessons From The BJJ Mats

08 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is about another fellow Purple Belt who oddly enough has claustrophobia.    He asked me to roll two times in a row for 5 - 6 min each r...

#342: Life Lessons from the BJJ Mats, Senior USAF Leader, Purple Belt Joe

04 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This episode comes from a great conversation I had with a fellow BJJ Purple Belt and and Active Duty Air Force Senior Enlisted Leader.    He has an ...

#341: The Real Business Impact of Cultural Intelligence, DEI & Political Correctness with Csaba, Founder of ICQ Global

01 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You do NOT want to miss this episode. Csaba ("Chahbah") shares some amazing insights about leadership, personal development, failure, tension, conflic...

#340: How Is Your Childhood Affecting You and To What Extent Is It Affecting You?

27 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One of the biggest insights I've gleaned from the hundreds of leaders I've coached over the past 20 years exhibit behaviors as an adult as a direct re...

#339: How Are Breathing & Staying Calm Related? Lessons From the BJJ Mats.

24 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I was able to breathe through my nose through every single BJJ roll tonight except for 1 roll.    The "White Belt Spazz" syndrome on the BJJ mats le...

#338 Everyone Has a Story. Teacher Shares Very Challenging Environment_1

20 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#337: What I Learned About EQ From a Hunter

17 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#336: Another Recent Failure & Consistent Trigger of Feeling Overwhelmed

13 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#335: Simplify The Struggle (A BJJ & Life Lesson).mp3

10 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#334 How Controlling Are You_ What Is Your Relationship With Control__1

06 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

#333: How Vulnerable Should You Be? A Vulnerability Audit

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

#332: A Culture Audit & The Intersection of Culture & EQ

30 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

#331: Are Emotions That Important? How Are They Controlling You?

27 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

#330: How Do You Deal With Disappointment?

23 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

#329: What Is The Relationship Between Storytelling & EQ From TV Host, Haddie Djemal

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

LinkedIn.com/in/HaddieDjemal IG: @HaddieTheHost Twitter: @HaddieTheHost   Haddie Djemal is a seasoned on-air personality with over a decade of experi...

#328: What Role Does Surrendering Play In Your Growth-

16 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#327: What Is The Relationship Between Confidence & Self-Awareness-

13 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#326: Relationship Between Ego, EQ & Learning & How You Respond In High Ego Environments

09 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#325: Never Miss An Opportunity To Connect With Someone

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#324: Real Life EQ Exercise About 2 Massive Business Opportunities. 46 Emotions & 18 Questions.

02 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#323: Deliberate Discomfort

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#322: Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe. How Do You Affect Those Around You?

23 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#321: Celebrating My Failures & Others Successes. An Ego Check Exercise

20 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#320: Huge Personal Epiphany On My Unworthiness, Self-Hatred, Self-Sabotage & Performance Based Relationship

16 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Anyone else struggle with any of this?    I grew up Catholic. There are a lot of activities & tasks that are encouraged in the Catholic Church.   ...

#319: A Personal Experience With Road Rage & Emotional Intelligence

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A guy flipped me off.   And then I got pissed.   And we don't even know each other.   And I had done nothing wrong.    I went through a series of...

EP 318: Turn Your Frown Upside Down, Personal BJJ Open Mat

09 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#317: What Is The Relationship Between Feeling In Control & Your Stress Levels? A BJJ Story

06 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What is the connection between how in control you feel and how much stress & anxiety you experience?    My hypothesis is that the less control we fe...

#316: The Emotional Journey of This Marine In The Loss of His Soldiers & Children, Speaker Dimyas Perdue

02 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dimyas' bio: Lead of TalentSmartEQ's military vertical, 22 years of training and leadership experience. Retired United States Marine. Served as the Se...

#315: Consequences of Unaddressed Emotional Injuries From a BJJ Tng Partner

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Convicting story from a BJJ friend of mine who was literally run over by a semi truck & the corresponding physical, mental & emotional consequences of...

#314: What's the Impact of Empathetic Leadership, Author Sophie Wade

26 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sophie is a work futurist, keynote speaker, and Workforce Innovation Specialist at Flexcel Network. Sophie's advisory services and workshops help lead...

#313: A Boundaries Audit. The Rewarding Experience of Helping a Client Develop Boundaries

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When is the last time you felt the emotion of "rewarding"?   What was it that made you feel the emotion of "rewarding"?   Helping one of my clients ...

#312: The EQ Journey of Author & Entrepreneur of Dude Derm, Drew Plotkin (EXPLICIT)

19 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Drew is the author of Under My Skin book.  DREW PLOTKIN is an Emmy nominated producer and founder of the Launch DRTV agency. Created and directed awa...

#309: Last Year's Failures

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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#311: Stress Exercise, Self-Awareness, Energy Management & Taking Care of Yourself From a Conversation With a Medical Professional

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I walked a medical professional through the "Stress Plate" exercise.   Here are some good questions to ask yourself as well:    How self-aware are...

#310: 4 Steps to Dealing With People-Pleasing From Life Coach, Nick Pollard (EXPLICIT)

12 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Nick shares his super unique story of how he started in the People-Pleasing space. He also shared very openly about a number of the challenges he's ov...

#308: How Do You Set Boundaries & Pull Away From Toxic Relationships, Life Coach Amy Fiedler.

05 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Amy is one of my favorite guests on the EQ Gangster podcast. She was also my guest on Episode #183 discussing "Self-Awareness & Finding a Life Coach"....

#307: What If You Were Told How Long You Had To Live? Giving & Receiving. Lessons From a Client.

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I share a client story w/some sobering news.   This story raises some really important questions to ask yourself & reflect on.   Wh...

#306: Intimidated & Doubtful To Empowered & Confident & A Panic Story. More BJJ Life Lessons.

29 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Some more life & emotional lessons from my Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (BJJ) "therapy".    2 Stories in this episode: 1 story of me feeling intimidated & do...

#305: 10+ Questions For You To Do An Emotional Audit Of This Year. How Did You Do Emotionally This Year?

26 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Schedule some time in your calendar to do an Emotional Audit of this year. Here are some questions to ask yourself to get you started:    How did yo...

#304: How Do You Turn A Bad Day Into A Good Day? How Well Do You Manage Your Energy?

22 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How productive & effective are you when you're fatigued?    How aware are you of your energy levels?    How do your energy levels affect you?   ...

#303: How Aware Are You of How Your Emotions Are Impacting Your Decision Making Process? More Business Cult Consequences

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

EQG Ep. 303 How Aware Are You of How Your Emotions Are Impacting Your Decision Making Process? More Business Cult Consequences   How do you make diff...

#302: Celebrate Your Small Wins! My Ego Didn't Need To Win Today In My BJJ Class

15 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I rolled with the Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (BJJ) "Jesus" tonight! lol He was half my size & more than half my age and was twice as experienced as me in BJJ...

#301: How Much Value Do You Get Out Of Each Interaction You Have? How Much Value Do You Give?

12 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How intentional are you about leadership? Really?    How intentional are you at growing yourself as a leader?    What type of preparation do you d...

#300: More Imposter Syndrome Insights From My Corporate Client & My Recent Purple Belt Promotion

09 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

One of my corporate clients shared how he also felt some imposter syndrome after a recent promotion of his to a very high position in his company.   ...

#299: Woke Up At 1AM With These Heart Wrenching Questions & I'm Struggling

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Am I enough?    Am I worthy?    Do I deserve anything good in life?   Do I have what it takes?   What's the relationship between the spiritual &...

#298: It's Ok To Not Be Ok. Your EQ Growth Journey Is Circular, Not Linear.

01 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

  Do you allow yourself to feel both pleasant & unpleasant emotions?    How curious are you about your emotions?    How judgmental are you about ...

#297 Who Recharges You? Who Is Your Tribe?

28 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Post-Bible Study reflections…   What kind of people make you feel comfortable & safe?    What type of people are you drawn to?    What do those...

#296: How Our Energy Levels, Personality, Strengths & EQ Are All Connected.

24 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

My wife is much more self-aware than I am.    She shared some insights coming from her self-awareness that really helped me make some connections in...

#295: People Pleasing Triggered From Missing An Appointment & BJJ Control & Power

21 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Man, the emotional floodgates opened when I missed a couple appointments.    My old people-pleasing addiction emotions came fast & furious into a va...

#294: The Unintended Emotional Consequences of Using My Weaknesses When Writing a Proposal

17 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode goes into how writing a proposal for a company triggered some unpleasant (old) emotional consequences for me.    Whew…I wasn't prepar...

#293: Grace & The Mental - Emotional Prisons We Put Ourselves In

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Post-Bible Study reflection.   Lots of old emotions were triggered from this Bible study.   I was in a mental, emotional & spiritual prison for a fe...

#292: What Is The Relationship Between Conflict & EQ?

10 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

EQ Exercise: Do a "Conflict Audit".    List your recent 5 - 10 conflicts you've had or been involved in.   Start evaluating each of those conflicts...

#291: How Often Do You Feel Peace?

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How often do you feel the emotion of peace?    In the past, what has contributed to you feeling peaceful?   What are the conditions that lead to yo...

#290: How Trusting Are You? How Trustworthy Are You? How Are Your Emotions Affecting Your Ability To Trust?

03 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How long does it take you to build trust in relationships?    What needs to happen for you to trust someone?    How does your personality impact h...

#289: How Patient Are You? How Self-Aware Are You?

31 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Post Bible Study reflection on the concept of "patience".    How would you define "patience"?    How patient are you?    What value does patienc...

#288: How To Discover Who You Are With Best Selling Author Michael Bungay Stanier

27 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What an amazing, fun & insightful conversation w/one of the world's greatest minds in leadership & coaching!    Michael Bungay Stanier (MBS) is the ...

#287: How My Pride, Ego & Fear Turned Into a Blast of Scary Aggression

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Whew…this was some very nervous, scary, raw, transparent reflection after a brief moment of, what felt like, uncontrolled aggression.    Thankfull...

#286: More Insecurity & Self-Image Issues After Unexpected BJJ Purple Belt Promotion

20 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Whew…why is it so difficult being vulnerable? This was a bit of a challenging episode because I got emotional a couple times & I wasn't sure why I g...

#285 Addiction - What Are You Addicted To?

17 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode was also recorded after the morning mens' Bible study I attended.    Addiction was brought up a number of times in the Bible study. Man...

#284: Self-Confrontation - How Can You Get Better At It?

13 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I had just left a men's Bible study earlier that morning & the topic of self-confrontation came up. It's actually the entire theme of the Bible study....

#283: From the Hood to Author & CEO, Lessons from the Valley, Army Veteran Ritchie Thomas

10 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ritchie Thomas, A Soldier's Coach, helps our transitioning military service members mentally transition from a Soldier's mindset to a business profess...

#282: The 3 Biggest Challenges of a Social Entrepreneur with NI4SI CEO Jonathan Liebert

06 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jonathan Liebert is the founder & CEO of the National Institute for Social Impact (NI4SI) and also the CEO of the Better Business Bureau in Colorado S...

#281:The Power of Passing Your Status & Giving Encouragement

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I share a story of how my new Brazilian Jiu Jitsu gym owner shared some of his "status" with me & how unexpected it was & how it made ...

#280: Whose Approval Do You Seek Consciously or Subconsciously?

29 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I share a story about how subconsciously it seems that our teenage daughter seeks our approval, but I'm not sure how aware she is of ...

#279: How a Law Enforcement Officer (LEO) Used EQ to Deal With a Toxic Environment, Bill Proctor

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Bill Proctor is a U.S. Air Force Security Forces (police) veteran, civilian Law Enforcement Officer (LEO), and Hostage Negotiator. He shares his story...

#278; How Do You Emotionally Connect With Someone Else? How Do You Know? How Does It Impact Your Leadership?

22 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Bust out your pen & paper on this one!    We hit a lot of questions in this episode about this topic.    Here are some of them:   Do others feel ...

#277: USAF Chief Master Sergeant, Resilience & The Inspired Leader, Joe Bogdan

19 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

#276: How Our Emotions Impact Our Relationships With Relationship Expert, Dr. Holly Battey

15 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Holly helps conscious single men and women find the love of their dreams. With a doctorate in clinical psychology, she founded Find Love At Last i...

#275: What Does An Emotionally Healthy Man Look Like, Therapist Logan Cohen

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Logan, an author & Licensed Family Therapist & Certified Trauma Professional, shares some very insightful comments and practical advi...

#274: Hit With Another Dose of Imposter Syndrome & Self-Sabotage So I Went A.P.E.D. & Did My Emotional Exercises to Get Out of the Pit

08 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Whew, I just got hit this week with a bunch of old emotional issues that I had already worked through quite a few times.    I share my process for h...

#273: Dr. Brooks Gibbs, Emotional Resilience In Teens & Adults and Creating Unstoppable Humans

05 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Brooks Gibbs is a social psychologist and award-winning resilience educator who teaches students how to regulate emotions and solve social problem...

#272: 5 EQ Leadership Thoughts for Teens & Parents

01 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

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#271: How Defensive Are You?

29 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

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#270: How Safe Are You In Emotionally Charged Conversations

25 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

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#269: Who Is Qualified To Teach EQ??

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

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#268: Who Is Your Story Meant To Help With Athlete, Entrepreneur & Podcast Host, Robert B. Foster

18 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

#267: Proof Of Growth With a $10B Company. No More Self-Sabotage

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

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#266: How Are You Dealing With Your Trauma With Business Owner & Licensed Professional Counselor, Courtneyrose

11 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is sponsored by MyDenverTherapy.com. If you're in the Denver area & need a great therapist, definitely look them up!   If you're ready t...

#265: Got Choked Out In BJJ Unintentionally. Have We Normalized Our Own Dysfunction That We're Not Even Aware Of It?

08 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is sponsored by MyDenverTherapy.com. If you're in the Denver area & need a great therapist, definitely check them out!   I was almost co...

#264: Learning EQ Lessons At Every Level? A Conversation With Hollywood Writer & West Point Classmate, TJ Brady

04 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A super reflective conversation with my West Point classmate & Hollywood Writer, TJ Brady.    He shared some emotion & leadership insights on his ex...

#263: Pt. 3, Insights From My Growth From Parenting Our Teenage Daughter

01 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I finally had the conversation with my teenage daughter about how I got triggered over a week ago, what I'm learning, my apology & my boundaries.   I...

#262: How Does Your Personality Affect How You View Failure?

28 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

An episode about the intersection of our EQ, Personality & Failure.    How do you define 'failure'?   What 'stories' or 'scripts' do you have perta...

#261 EQ Insights - Do Strong Emotions Equal a Low EQ and Is It Ok To Like Words of Affirmation?

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I had a conversation with a friend who dialed me in after I had prematurely come to the conclusion that feeling strong emotions equaled a low EQ.   ...

# 260: What Does Emotionally Healthy Dreaming Look Like

21 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

  This episode introduces the concept & question of how do you set goals & "dream build" from an emotionally healthy place.    How have you develop...

#259: How My Unhealthy Emotional Coping Mechanisms Are Negatively Impacting My Relationship With Our Teen Daughter

18 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I share some current personal reflection on how my coping, survival mechanism is negatively impacting my relationship with our daughter.    There ar...

#258: Managing Emotions On Remote Teams With Dr. Travis Hearne, author & former Marine

14 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Travis Hearne shares some great insights regarding managing emotions of not only yourself, but your team when working remotely.   He also shares ...

#257: EQ Insights & 15 Questions to Ask Yourself About What You Do, With Dr. Jerry Novack

11 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There are two other episodes involving Dr. Jerry Novack. One previous episode was based on some more excellent EQ insights I received from him during ...