Escaping the Drift with John Gafford
Building a Business That Outlasts You (David Grau Sr.)
17 Feb 2026
Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
And now, Escaping the Drift, the show designed to get you from where you are to where you want to be. I'm John Gafford, and I have a knack for getting extraordinary achievers to drop their secrets to help you on a path to greatness. So stop drifting along, escape the drift, and it's time to start right now.
back again back again for another episode of like it says in the opening the podcast that gets you from where you are to where you want to go and today beaming into the studio from lexington kentucky i have an awesome guest if you are somebody that is a business builder you're trying to build a business you're thinking about building a business this guy has got you cold he is the founder and ceo of grouse esquire law group a national healthcare law firm representing physicians and healthcare founders that was his previous life
And then he kind of fell in love with becoming a consultant for small business and teaching you how to build a business that is going to last or outlast you anyway. He has published many books, including The Stewardship Advantage, Building with the End in Mind, and Acquiring Your Future Through a Succession Plan. We are lucky to have him and can't wait to learn from him.
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the program. This is David Grau, Sr. David, how are you?
Pleasure. Thank you for having me. What a great way to end the week.
Yeah, a great way to end the week. So yeah, I've got y'all hyped up now. So obviously you were early in life, an attorney by trade. That's what you did. Tell me about the end of that career and pivoting into the new one.
Well, so I came out of college in the Midwest, and I was an English major. And from day one, I wanted to write books.
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Chapter 2: What is the Founders Treadmill and how does it impact entrepreneurs?
But, you know, we're not all Stephen King. And I realized I also needed to make a living. And so I chose a profession that I thought would give me a chance to do a lot of writing. And I went to law school. And so I ended up... in the securities trade. I was a securities regulator right out of law school.
I graduated past the bar and eventually opened up my own securities law practice and not not a lot of writing, certainly nothing creative in that line of work. So I got into the law and, you know, I made a good living, started my own small business, and I was a sole proprietorship, which is kind of my dream come true. My dad and my
grandfather, you know, they were all sole proprietors in their life. So I had to do it. But lo and behold, I kind of stumbled into a consulting business where I worked with independent financial advisors. Think, you know, the advisors under, you know, Charles Schwab, Fidelity, TD Ameritrade, or, you know, Ameriprise. But I started working with them and really enjoyed the work.
And obviously my securities law background, you know, parlayed into a really good meeting of the minds. And so what I did is I started a consulting business, you know, when we opened it late 1990s, I thought of it as eHarmony for financial advisors. You know, we were going to be the company that matched them up using this newfangled thing called internet. And And that worked well enough.
But I liked the consulting. I came to love teaching. And so during that career, I got up on stage a thousand times. I actually tracked them. And I got to teach what it was I did to the people in that audience. And most of the people I talked to They were sole proprietors, too. And if they weren't, they thought like sole proprietors. And so what I did is I learned how to help them think long term.
So why build a business that dies with you? Why build a small business that statistically will last 10 years and then fade out of existence? Let's build it right. Let's build it to last. And let's take care of everybody that that small business touches. And so little by little over the last 30 years, I became an expert at building and rescuing small businesses. And it's what I love to do.
So when you walk into a, let's say you walk into a small business, and to me, I'm of the opinion that all businesses kind of run the same. The fundamentals are the same. Yeah. You know, everything is kind of the same, just the widgets change, right? Just whatever's going out the door, product or service, is the only thing really that changes.
But, you know, cost of goods and KPIs and all of those things kind of are the same, no matter what you're running. So what is, if you had to say, what's the overwhelming number one thing that most people in small business, what's the biggest mistake they make?
Well, and this is working on my newest book right now. To answer that question, the book is called The Founders Treadmill. And so the first thing that most, I think, small businesses stumble over is they make themselves the center of the business. And it gives you total control. It feels wonderful. You're the smartest guy or the smartest lady in the room.
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Chapter 3: How can a solopreneur transition to a CEO mindset?
hey, maybe I don't own a business. I think I own a job. I have a job, yeah. My job is overhead. I mean, that's not a good place to end up, you know, seven or eight years down the road.
Yeah, one of my good friends, one of my good friends, Kent Clothier always said, if you want to really see where you're at, go out of town for three months, come back. And if your business is completely crumbled, you don't own a business, you have a job.
Yep, I mean, and ultimately, you know, while you're there, you know,
you're the bottleneck and nobody wants to admit that or say that because for a long time there was no small business without you and what you did and how you did it i mean it's not like you opened it up you know and jumped on that treadmill and made a mistake no that that's how you start a small business the key is you have to learn when to get off and maybe understand why.
If we can get you to recognize the problem and learn the why, then how is easy. And so that's where I start.
Well, I've got to see with us, just to let you know a little bit of background on me if you don't know, but we own a very large luxury real estate brokerage in Las Vegas. We own a very large mortgage company. We own a large title company. You know, for us, you know, like the real estate company itself has five hundred and eighty five agents that work here.
And the issue that I've always seen it within, especially the real estate industry, is the brokerage business in itself is kind of a commodity. You know what I mean? It's not it's soup cans on a shelf. It's just this one might cost that much. This one might cost this much. But for the most part of it, for the for the most, we all kind of do the same thing.
so what makes one brokerage different from the other and this is the problem i have in reconciling this is the culture that's created by the leadership within it which is why you have that like man i can't get out i can't stop being that person that is the figurehead of the company i can't stop being the day-to-day available to everybody so you're on that trap so i have that side of that coin right but here's my flip side
I have come to realize in some of this that being a solopreneur, if you will, I have a partner, but being a solopreneur, You always say, I can't replace myself in this one position because nobody, the lie we tell ourselves is nobody will ever do it as good as me. Nobody will ever be me in that position.
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Chapter 4: Why are most small businesses considered non-investable?
But let me answer this, and here's kind of a funny story. When I first started out in the financial services industry, so they don't call them stockbrokers anymore, they're money managers or RIAs, registered investment advisors. I would go out on the road and I'd get up on stage in front of an audience of 150, 200 of these people, and I would tell them, The world is changing.
You know, along with the internet, we've created a marketplace. And every time we list a practice for sale, you know, you work for, you know, Charles Schwab, you're an independent contractor, a sole proprietor, and you've got 150 clients, you get 200 million in assets under management. and you gross $900,000 a year. And I tell them, that practice you built has a value, ascertainable.
An appraiser could tell you that, but better yet, let the marketplace tell you that. And if you don't like the answer, don't sell it. If you do like the answer, now you have something to consider.
Oh, I take those meetings. I love those meetings when people want to sit down with us and tell us what our, you know, we want to buy your company. All right, cool. Yeah, let's have a meeting. Because it's just, for me, it's just a free valuation. It's a free price. All right.
You know, for the first four or five years that I did this, you know, literally starting January 1st, year 2000, I would get off the stage and walk down. And afterwards, these guys would come up to me. And they were all guys back then. They're all white guys. That was the industry 25 years ago. But they would walk up and say, There's no value in what I do.
My clients wouldn't be here if it weren't for me. All they wanna do is work with me. So no one would buy it because they can't possibly replace me. But I mean, they're literally arguing against their own best interest here. And I'm telling them, I'm not telling you that you should sell or you have to sell. This is like owning a house. When the real estate market is strong,
It feels good to say, hey, I've got $900,000 in home equity. I'm not going to sell it, but it's nice to know I have it. And what I would say as a small business owner, isn't it good to know that when the day comes, however your story might end, you have real, ascertainable, realizable value. And they would just shake their heads and go, no way. I could never be replaced. And I said, well...
If that's what you want to own, you can build that. I'm just telling you there's another way. It took, I mean, 10 years before we could crack the surface on that and convince these folks that they actually had value. And just to let it happen when the time came.
And little by little, after we sold a couple of thousand practices and 95 to 97% of the client relationships transferred, people would say, Huh, I guess I am replaceable. And it was the best thing that could have happened to them.
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Chapter 5: What steps can be taken to create a succession plan?
But whatever it is, Write it down and operationalize it. In other words, create a stewardship plan and then share that with every person you interview. Everybody that walks in the door and buys something from you, tell them who you are. Show them what you stand for. And what we found is that over time, as word spreads,
People in the community will run into someone who says, hey, I know a business that believes in exactly the same thing you do. You should go over there and talk to them about working there. And now you give them one more reason to come and find you, one more reason to get excited about coming to work in the morning, not just to make a good living.
Now they go to work for you because you helped them live a great life. And if it's not ownership, Maybe it's purpose. Maybe it's both.
Yeah. The purpose driven business model is something that we subscribe to very much. I mean, I read a Harvard study years ago where it said that 80% of people would rather do business with a company where they know where some of the money is coming. So having those built in charitable arms into your business and being purpose driven and having those things
Definitely makes people, you know, you're not just going to buy another sports car. This is actually going somewhere that's good. So I totally agree with that. We preach that, you know, religiously within our real estate brokerage. I mean, our for sale signs actually say on them purpose-driven real estate.
And then instead of having like those riders on the bottom that say, you know, pool or honey, stop the car, that nonsense. They actually say like the charity that we're donating part of the commission to. Um, so like right now, a good, good friend of mine, John Hopkins and the Zach Brown band has ALS.
And so all of the, all of the donations we make a portion of the commission that we sell to help his, his charity, which is hop on a cure. So, uh, to fight ALS. So I'm a, I'm a huge proponent of that, a huge believer in that. I think that's wonderful. And I think a lot of people, I think what happens is there's gotta be a shift, uh, When you first start out, you're just bootstrapping.
You don't know if what you're doing is going to work. You're going a million miles an hour with your hair on fire. And then it starts to become a real business, right? And then talk to me a little bit about what people should look for in that moment when it starts to become a real business and that shift in mindset that they need to make.
Yeah, I mean, ultimately, you know, that's the joy I have in my consulting work is I help people find and start that real business because most of the time when they walk into my office, they own the job and they love it. They don't think they have anything that needs fixing. So when you start to own a real business, I like to say rather than you working for it, it starts to work for you.
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Chapter 6: How does hiring a bookkeeper contribute to business freedom?
If you don't think that way, start. Bookkeeping, you don't need to get good at bookkeeping. Somebody else is good at bookkeeping. Bring that person in, have them take care of the payroll, and literally give yourself back five to 10 hours a week. It's just not that hard. And I say that funny because that's where I started.
And that person then sat down, still with my company, 25 years later, knows everything about the P&Ls, the balance sheets, where we came from, our growth rates, our taxes, payroll taxes. If I've got a question, I don't go to my accountant. I go to my bookkeeper because they're experienced, they know it, and they charge a third of what the accountant does.
yeah oh yeah oh for sure no no for sure we've got yeah we're blessed to have yeah we're blessed to have some really good bookkeepers that help us and and they're full time with us because we just in this business you process so much money um you know checks coming in checks going out it's it's it's millions and millions and millions of dollars in commissions and it's um it's a lot we cut probably
6,000 checks a year for commissions.
It's a lot. And again, you know, I'm talking, you know, a 20, 25 person, you know, practice. Sure. That's busy enough. And the second person I would hire would be a marketing director. You know, almost every small business owner I run into, the CPAs, the engineers, the architects, the financial advisors, the independent insurance agents. I'm the rainmaker. I bring the money in. That's my job.
Nobody's ever going to do that better than I can. And, you know, I talked to him and I said, listen, I mean, I'm looking at your college background, you know, your majors and all this stuff. I see all the, you know, the designations and credentials you carry. I don't see a single one on there that's about marketing. And it's called, yeah, but that's how the industry works.
It's like, well, yeah, but you only grow like 7% to 8% a year. And instead of doing the tax returns or managing the money or giving clients great advice, you're taking them out to dinner. You're taking them out to lunch. Why don't you hire a marketing department to take care of those kinds of things for you? And you and your team do what you're trained to do.
And when they follow that advice, the growth rate is just about double, and they become predictable.
Well, let's talk about that. So as you grow, obviously, you're scaling operations, you're scaling locations, you're scaling this. When you sit down with people, obviously, the hiring of certain staff to replace yourself so you don't become the bottleneck is important. But you also do a scaling plan where you're saying, here's this benchmark. And then when this happens, we're executing this.
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Chapter 7: What are the common mistakes small business owners make?
But I am absolutely sure that there are some great books out there. But I think the problem becomes Most entrepreneurs aren't sure of what question to ask. They're not sure what problem to solve. And so what I try to help them understand is I am going to take you from the organizational model where you're the hub of the wheel and everything runs through you.
And I'm going to take you out of that role, off the treadmill, and we're going to promote you to CEO. And as CEO, you need to learn how to run a business, a small business. You need to learn how to delegate. You don't need to learn how to hire. You need to learn how to hire somebody who can go find people to solve the problems that you need solved.
And so let's figure out what the non-negotiables are. Let's figure out all the jobs you currently do that we are going to take off of your plate in the next three years. Now, we're not going to go hire somebody who's got a good work ethic that promises to show up every day. No, we're going to hire somebody that can take over payroll and the bookkeeping. Get that out of the way.
Then we're going to hire somebody who can make it rain consistently, day after day, year after year. Well, you're on a four-week vacation in Maui.
we're going to go hire sales and then we're going to go hire a coo and then a cfo to help manage this place so you're the person has to organize and orchestrate that whole group those are the skills i want you to go learn and if you get them off of a book on amazon super if you want to watch the book the book i recommend if everybody's wondering what it was it's the personal mba that's the book i tell everybody to read
Because what I love about that book, that particular book, and again, I get nothing for saying this. I think it's a very useful tool for this. But if you read it through the lens of your business as you go through and just take notes of things that you could do to impact your business. I actually go back to it probably every, I don't know, maybe call it a year and a half, two years.
And I'll just read through it. You know, and I'll be like, ah, yeah, that's something. That's where I get my hit list of places in our businesses that probably need some attention. That's where I get my hit list.
That's cool. And I'll add another one, not necessarily a book, but something that's very practical is join a study group. And I always tell the younger owners, don't try to be the smartest or the loudest or the richest person in that study group. Go in there and learn and listen. Talk to those folks as to what they do and how they do it and what worked and what didn't work.
And then ask follow-up questions. And so unlike a video where you just have to sit and listen, or a book where you can read it at your leisure, create a two-way conversation with people in your community who have been there. What did you read to get this done? How did you figure it out? Who did you talk to? Who's your lawyer? Who's your CPA? Who did you hire as a bookkeeper?
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