Chapter 1: What insights do the hosts share about love in the air?
Hi, everyone, and welcome to this week's episode. Love is in the air.
Yes.
Do, do, do, do, do. Love is in the air. Do, do, do, do, do. Too bad I don't know the words.
Is that it? That's all the words I know. Did you get your heater fixed? I did.
Quite a bit of a battle. I woke up the other day with no heat, and it was over the weekend. And I knew that if I made the call and called the guy, and anyone that's always said, call the guy, I'm not one of the call the guys kind of guy.
You are the guy.
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Chapter 2: How do you move on from a relationship that may not be right?
I am the guy. And so, because you, right here.
That's right.
That's Fix-It Shop. So I got on the phone and called myself, the guy, and went through the protocols of getting that heater fixed. And guess what? What? It is fixed. It is running wonderful. Lisa came over and she said, oh, the house feels so warm. Best heat you've ever had? Best heat. It really is fantastic. So we were very happy that that has been fixed. And my house is 25 years old now.
Chapter 3: What challenges arise when love becomes complicated?
It's probably like a sauna in there every night now.
No, but it's amazing. 25 years, some of the things start tipping out. When you were there, we lost the air conditioning. And that was a $20,000 estimate. I fixed it for 500 bucks. And that was seven years ago and it's still operational. So it goes to show you guys that if you put your mind to it, you can really do anything. True. Okay.
Very nice message to start us off.
Love it in the air.
Yeah.
Story number one.
Number one.
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Chapter 4: How can you maintain love when it gets hard?
And I've got the Minnesota hat on today.
And by the way, that was so perfect what Morgan put on at the beginning of the last episode. I was very proud that you guys really went through and said that.
We're still here. Represent. Okay. Number one. Number one. Hey, y'all. Me, 22 female, and my boyfriend, 24 male, have been dating for six years, and we have a five-year-old. Got pregnant three months into dating when we were in high school. We grew up fast and never split up, and I genuinely love him so much and believe he is my person.
This I have known for a while, and I want to get married to him. And in previous conversations, he says he does too, but now it feels like we have waited for the right time for so long. And marriage means so much to me, coming from married parents.
Chapter 5: What advice is given for discussing commitment in relationships?
And to him, I think he thinks it will change things." all marriages in his family have ended in divorce. I don't think it will change much, seeing we have lived together independently from our families since we were 16 and 18, and have merged accounts and already worked together in any situation.
I have approached this situation multiple times and it seems I always get an excuse or a reason to wait. Money, wedding, ideal physique, et cetera. I just don't know what the issue is or why he doesn't want to commit. Any male ideas? Or how could I approach this without setting by this date ideas?
I don't want to force him into it, but I think I have reached a point where I feel embarrassed saying boyfriend instead of husband, seeing as where we are in our relationship. Ideal outcome, male advice to see if I'm pushing too hard on something that will never happen.
You came to the right place because you got two guys here. That's true. That we have all had the same kind of thought and feeling. And I'm going to share first my story. Yes.
Chapter 6: How should you handle feelings for someone who is unavailable?
And then you can share your stories and see if they're different. And this is interesting because I also had a conversation earlier about marriage and why do people, you know, what's the benefit of marriage? I just had that conversation coming. I was talking to my cousin about her daughter. But let's go back to where we were as guys with this. And I'm going to go back.
I'm going to roll back to 1983. Okay.
Okay.
So in 1979, I started dating someone. And I really came out of that relationship at that age and said, this is my person. It took a year for her to go out with me. And then we started dating and we fell in love and we had this wonderful relationship. And she certainly, you know, after two years or three, she was waiting for the ring.
But she also said some things to me that, you know, before she gets, you know, when she gets engaged, she identified she needed a rock the size of, you know, the rock of Gibraltar.
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Chapter 7: What steps can you take to protect your heart in a complicated friendship?
And she wanted to make sure it came with this, you know, very exotic car. Oh, wow. There was a lot of pressure. And yeah, I was making some money, but where is it enough to go think about a life and buying a house and buying this rocket Gibraltar and getting her this car?
Everything was dysfunctionally prioritized with status because she came out of an environment of friends that were all getting status. And that's not really what I was about. And I didn't think that I could afford all that. And as much as I did want to marry her, that I realized I wasn't ready enough financially to know that I could provide her with all these things.
And it really inhibited me from moving forward with my own priorities to go do this. I was jacked in the head what I thought was important or not. I had to be in my mind 100% sufficient, 100% funded, 100% with everything before I got near that because I wanted to be sure I was ready. Right. Now, today, ask me that question. I was an idiot because life... is never certain.
Chapter 8: How do you navigate feelings when both parties are confused?
We're always going to have the ups and downs. You're already having the ups and downs, raising a child together, being together as long as you are. But he may still feel he wants to be secure before he pulls that word marriage, that everyone can afford the wedding. We can afford all this stuff. And my answer is, it doesn't matter if you have a big wedding.
being a couple, it's just going through life. Whatever it is, we are going to do it together and we're going to manage our way through it. That means financially having tough times, financially having easy times. You know, children, being ill, getting through that. I mean, life consistently throws us these hard balls. And I don't care if you guys are married at 16 or you're married at 60.
Even at 60, there's going to be some ups and downs. My life goes up and down consistently. And I've had some runs where I've had some amazing 10-year runs without any hiccups and everything's beautiful. And all of a sudden, bam, something in the world changes, the dynamic changes, and you have to reinvent yourself. So if you have a partner...
that you're doing this with, that you're going through these struggles, that you guys can at least hold each other's hands through it. That's really what matters. So I want to hear your story, Justin, because it took you a while before you came comfortable with the idea of really getting married, even though you knew that this person was your person from the moment you met her.
Yeah, I mean, I came from a similar situation to him, but in reality, no one is, well, I can speak for guys. I don't think any guy ever feels truly ready. There is no perfect time. It's not gonna be after you make enough money because something else will be in the way. It's not after you finish school and get your degree and have more time because something else is gonna be there. Mm-hmm.
You're never going to be at that place you think you'll be where you're truly ready. I don't think that exists. You get to a place where you're ready in a different sense of it's time to take the next step. And I think you get there naturally, hopefully together as a couple, but in situations like this, I don't foresee them being able to
kick the stone down the road another 10 years, because we're starting to be at a difference of what we want. When you have a partner that really wants this, and then the other one's kind of dragging their feet, yeah, you don't wanna set an ultimatum, but at some point you have to make your wants clear.
It's a fine balance between saying, if it doesn't happen by this date or this year, I'm gonna be done. But you have to make it known what you want. And the thing is, that want can exist outside of this relationship. It's, I really want to get married. It's important to me. That's what I want for my life. And so at some point,
If it's not with this person, it's going to be with someone at some point, because you can't, if that's that important to you, you can't wait around forever and constantly wonder, why are you not going to commit to me?
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