From Surviving to Thriving: A No Tools, No Techniques Shift from Stress and Overwhelm to Fulfilment
Episodes
It's Easier Than You Think to Live in the Present Moment
12 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Being in the present moment is much sought after but it can seem like there is a lot to do to live life there. Mindfulness courses, meditation and aff...
How Our Beliefs Create Our Reality
08 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you aware of how your beliefs create your reality? All day every day they are the means by which our brain prioritises what you see and what you d...
Control is the Master Addiction
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you noticed how much in life you are trying to control? People, circumstances and situations. But ultimately underpinning this is our need to con...
How to Know You are a Resilient Person
06 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Resilience can look like something to get from outside us. That we need to train hard to get it. But what if you knew that every day you are alive res...
What is Really Creating Our Anxious Feelings?
05 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When we are feeling anxious, it can often seem like things in the world need to change for us to feel better. Once we see that thought in the moment i...
How to Manage a Low Mood
01 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When we are in a low mood, it is really easy to think that means there is something wrong with us. We might get caught up in trying to fix the mood. T...
Stay Calm Despite Your Circumstances
30 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When it looks like our circumstances are in the way of us staying calm, we can feel like a victim. Ranting and raving can result as we try to think ou...
Imposter Syndrome at Work
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I was plagued by imposter syndrome at work. I took it with me into self-employment. That voice in my head telling me I was not good enough. I tried al...
How to Quit Putting Things Off
28 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you in the habit of putting things off? I noticed this about myself a long time ago and then tried to fix it. I used to be waiting for a certain f...
Is Knowledge Really Power?
24 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Knowledge can be truly powerful. Particularly if that knowledge is universal. Something which is true all the time like gravity. There is some knowled...
Do you need to Carve out Time for Mental Wellbeing Activities?
23 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you need to Carve out Time for Mental Wellbeing Activities? It can look like that is the right thing to do. But have you noticed how guilty you fee...
How to Stop Trying to Always be Calm
22 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you trying to always be calm? Doing endless tools and techniques and suffering every time you don't feel calm. There are two things which might be...
How to Follow Your Joy
21 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you able to follow your joy? Take the next step when wisdom emerges. Or is there a voice in your head saying, "You can't do that". The voice...
What to do When You Feel Angry
17 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you wonder what to do when you feel angry? I used to spend a lot of time pondering that one. I tried to control anger in all sorts of ways. It was ...
Unhelpful Thoughts
16 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine if you had a way of knowing when your thoughts were unhelpful. It's good to know that you have. Not all your thinking is true (in fact most of...
What Fear Are Holding You Back?
15 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What Fears are Holding You back? Stopping you from taking on a big new client, a promotion or asking that dreamy person out on a date. It doesn't real...
Clarity
14 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Clarity can seem like something we need to get. That we must work on it endlessly. But what if you just trusted that it is always there? That even whe...
Spontaneity
10 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Being spontaneous can be something wonderful. But we all feel differently about it. Some people find it really uncomfortable. Some people love it. How...
How to Know You are Stressed
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We are often pointed to the physical symptoms to identify whether we are stressed but there is something available much earlier than that. Having an a...
How to Feel Less Stressed
08 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Searching for the next stress management technique can seem like the thing to do if you are feeling stressed. But when you realise that stress is caus...
Be Grateful Whatever You Have
07 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I used to keep a gratitude journal every day. That seems to be a thing to do if you want to feel good doesn't it. But have you noticed where your thin...
Where Do the Voices in Your Head Come From?
03 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered where the voices in your head come from? They can seem so familiar that they feel like you. But they are not you. They are some...
Psychological Stress
02 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
All stress is psychological. In other words, all stress is created via thought in the moment. It doesn't come from the outside world. That's a misunde...
Thinking Slow and Thinking Fast
01 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When we have racing thoughts, it can look like we need to slow them down. Yet another thing to manage. But when you see that your racing thoughts are ...
Understanding Separate Realities Creates Calm
31 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you noticed how you feel when you rant about someone? Pretty rubbish I guess. It really looks like that feeling is coming from the person we are ...
Staying Calm Under Pressure
27 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Staying calm under pressure can seem like a lot of work. It can seem like an amount of restraint is necessary. But something amazing happens when we b...
Life Without Stress-Management
26 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Life Without Stress-Management is possible. All that we actually need is to understand what stress actually is. It's like all other feelings; an indic...
Fast Thinking Causes Stress
25 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you aware of the speed of you thinking? Just stop now and take a moment to notice. Does it feel like you are pottering down a country lane or full...
You are Amazing
24 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
People often ask if I can help them. I understand why - lots hasn't helped them so far. They feel really broken. I help them see how amazing they are....
The Simple Imposter Syndrome Solution
20 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Imposter syndrome is rife. I remember my days when it was ever present. That Niggly Nelly inside my head telling me I wasn't quite up to scratch. That...
Doing Life Your Way Creates Calm
19 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Doing Life Your Way Creates Calm. When you listen to your intuition. When you connect to your wisdom. When you trust your gut. You just have to learn ...
The Connection Between Menopause and Happiness
18 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The Connection Between Menopause and Happiness. It might seem that once we are free from menopause symptoms, we can be happy. But what if being happy ...
Our thinking about things creates stress.
17 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Our thinking about things creates stress. There are places you can see this every day. You just have to be in a place of curiosity. To see that things...
Inside Out Relationships
13 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In our closest relationships, it really can look like our feelings are coming from the other person (outside in). Like they are making us feel bad (an...
Confirmation Bias
12 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Confirmation Bias Stops Us Seeing Our Potential. Because our belief system cuts out what doesn't fit. There are millions of bits of information availa...
Underlying Fear Creates Stress
11 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you aware of underlying fear in your life? What is it stopping you doing? Where is it holding you back? Once you see that it is all thought create...
Innate Mental Health
10 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We all have innate mental health. Sometimes that is hard to see. Especially if you are feeling mentally unwell. But this new paradigm can be see when ...
Thought Created Stress
06 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Stress is created via thought. We mostly aren't aware that's what is going on. It looks like it's the outside world. But as we gain awareness of certa...
Taking Action
05 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes it can look like we need to feel a certain way to take action. Like all our ducks need to be in a row before we do something. But what if th...
Accepting How You Feel
04 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It can create a whole extra level of stress if you think you should not be feeling a certain way. This is especially true if you have done a lot of wo...
Inner Creativity
03 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Somewhere along the line we have learnt that we need to be stressed to find the solutions to our problems. It turns out that is a seriously misunderst...
Listening to Your Body
29 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Can you listen to your body? It is always speaking to you. Letting you know what you need. Then your thinking comes in and says - no do this instead! ...
Not Caring How You Feel
28 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What if you didn't care how you felt? I suspect that would take a lot off your plate. Less to manage, diagnose and think about. As you begin to see ho...
Abandoning the Quest for Happiness
27 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The quest for happiness or any other feeling can seem like a never ending one. So when we experience a feeling we don't like there can be guilt, judge...
Accessing Presence
26 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Accessing presence can see like a lot of work. Ironic don't you think. But maybe it is easier to fall into presence than we have been led to believe. ...
Putting Yourself First
22 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When was the last time you put yourself first? It is hard when there is voice in your head saying the opposite isn't it?The voice that cannot say no. ...
Experiencing Physical Health
21 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When I burnt out I had no idea of the consequences. Years of getting tired easily. That has changed a lot recently as I have seen things differently.J...
Other People's Thinking
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Other people's thinking and therefore their behaviour can look like a cause of stress. It can look like our sanity is being impacted upon by other peo...
Deep Listening
15 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When listening happens with presence, something amazing happens. A deep connection. A release of stress. A sharing of love. But it's not as hard as it...
That Lying Voice Inside Your Head
14 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There's a voice inside your head. It tells you lies. It guides you away from what is truly good for you. Once you are aware it is there, it starts to ...
Being Yourself
13 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We are told again and again to be ourselves. But who is this self they speak of. Is that who we truly are? How do we know? Join me as I explore this t...
Change
12 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It can sometimes feel like there is a lot of change. It seems like that can induce stress. But change is part of life. We don't feel the change, we fe...
Accessing Better Feelings in the Outside World
08 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Drinking wine and meditation to feel better come from the same misunderstanding. I hope that got you to sit up and listen. I know one is better for th...
Letting Go
07 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes letting go is hard. It can seem that our gut is guiding us one way but the urge to carry on keeps guiding us to hang on. A time of awareness...
Taking the Should Out of Self-Care
06 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It seems there are rules about self-care. That there are certain things you have to do to be well. But when we should ourselves, we can experience gui...
Present Moment Self-Care
05 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Boundaries, rules and self-expectations! This seems to be the way to engage with self-care. But what if it was simpler than that. What if self-care wa...
Patience
02 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There's a stressful feeling in the body when we feel impatient. It's an itchy, jittery feeling for me. It comes up whilst queuing or waiting for anyth...
Ignoring Fear
01 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What would happen if you ignored fear? What if you trusted your creative guidance and gave fear a back seat? You thinking doesn't know what you are ca...
Life Unfolding
30 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Life is unfolding. It is happening for us not to us (Byron Katie). It doesn't always go how we might want it to. As it unfolds, we can be in a place...
How Thought Works
25 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It seems there is a lot to do to change your thinking. Tools, techniques and therapy. But what if understanding how thought works was more beneficial....
It's All Made Up
24 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There appear to be so many rules in life. It can get a little overwhelming. But have you explored how many of those rules are true. Have you considere...
Lightly Held Goals
23 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Goals can easily become instruments to beat ourselves up with! I used to have tightly held goals. I ended up procrastinating endlessly. It was like my...
Playfulness
22 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Playfulness is a wonderful way to experience less stress but have to ever pondered what gets in the pay of you being more playful. Maybe it's the thou...
A Different Conversation About Mental Health
19 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's time for a different conversation about mental health. Let's face it, the one we are having isn't really working; more people are suffering than ...
The Stress of Living in Two Paradigms
18 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
A paradigm is a pattern or model of how something works. Where we have a single paradigm like gravity which we understand, life gets simpler and easie...
Imposter Syndrome
17 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The dreaded imposter syndrome. That voice in your head which says you are not supposed to be here. It says, 'You are going to get found out any minu...
Your Amazing Life
16 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You have an amazing life to lead! One amazing life. It won't be like that guru's you follow. It won't be a straight line. It will be what is meant to ...
Hate
15 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Hate is a word I used to use a lot. Then I saw the energy which came with it. It brought an uncomfortable feeling. Letting it go I felt better. Join m...
Hope
12 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Hope is often something which is held up as being useful. A feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen. Future thinking that t...
The Energy of Life
11 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you realise the energy of life is running through you stress becomes less prevalent. It's like knowing that you are held. That you are supported....
Creating Our Own Suffering
10 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you aware where you are creating your own suffering? If you knew you were doing it, would you carry on. I suspect not! But the thing is you probab...
Mind or Moment
09 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Mind or moment is the choice which leads us away from stress and anxiety. In any moment there is a choice when you know there is one. Do you choose mi...
Slowing Down to Speed Up
08 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this busy world, it looks like we are supposed to live life at a ridiculous pace. But what if that was wrong. What if slowing down could reap so mu...
Presence and Connection
05 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you noticed when you feel truly connected to someone. What needs to be in place for that to happen? It seems to me to happen when we have less on...
Low Mood Thinking
04 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Low moods are vital if you want to live a guided life because they let you know about your low mood thinking! And low mood thinking is almost always n...
Psychological Misunderstandings
03 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Psychological misunderstandings are causing most human suffering. The problem is that we don't know how we work. We don't understand the information i...
Self-Esteem
02 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Self-esteem is a hot topic. Seems it is vital for our wellbeing. It is defined as confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect. Join me as...
Our Nature
01 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Once we know our true nature, it changes everything. We start to see our potential. We feel more connected to each other and the world. There is a tru...
Am I bovvered?
29 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It is possible to feel less bothered about life. It doesn't matter who you are or what seems to be bothersome. Once you realise that you feelings are ...
Transformation
28 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
My story is one of huge transformation. From stressed out headteacher to Queen of Calm. But this transformation is not exclusive to me. It is possible...
A Different Experience of Life
27 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What if all the things you feel stressed about stopped feeling stressful? What of nothing needed to change for you to see them differently? What if fr...
The End of Suffering
26 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When we see that something is causing suffering, we tend to stop. Removing a stone from our shoe, loosening a belt after a heavy meal or getting up an...
Laughter
25 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Laughter is a great stress reliever but have you ever wondered why. I had an insight about this recently. Laughter is helpful because it helps us natu...
The Noise in Our Heads
22 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Bringing some awareness to the noise in your head can help relieve stress. Just awareness mind you - not judging it as wrong. With awareness we can st...
The Lie About Feelings
21 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There is a big, fat lie about where your feelings comes from. It surrounds us all day every day. The lie that our feelings come from outside us. They ...
Being Less Bothered
20 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It seems there are a lot of things to be bothered about doesn't it? There always has been to be honest but perhaps it has reached a peak in the last f...
Wisdom in Action
19 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Wisdom is always guiding you no matter how you feel. In fact the off feelings might be the most vital because they let you know that your state of min...
My Boring Life
18 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Perhaps we can be utterly content with a boring life. Maybe simple is a better word but you know what I mean. When we realise that doing stuff doesn't...
Self-Worth
15 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How worthy do you feel? I used to think I was not good enough. I did not feel worthy. Have you considered where this idea of worth comes from. Get f...
Ability
14 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There is something which falls away when you realise that your ability and your thinking are not connected. That they have nothing to do with each oth...
The Meaning of Words
13 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you noticed that the meaning of words can create stress. A couple of the ones I don't like are 'hate' and 'should'. But I end up thinking people ...
Thought Algorithm
12 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The thoughts which are causing your stress work like an algorithm. The more you focus on them, the more they turn up. And that focus can even be your ...
Planning or Presence
11 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Planning or presence - which is the least stressful? Of course we have to plan. I have dates in my diary and things booked in. But there is something ...
Suffering
08 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Suffering is not coming from where you might think. By suffering I am talking about stress, anxiety, unhealthy behaviour, anger to name but a few. It'...
Love
07 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We are made of love and once we know this everything changes. It's what is underneath our conditioned thinking. Seeing this can change all your relati...
The Source of Stress
06 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We are being told a lie about the source of stress. At the moment it is the cost of living. Previously it has been lockdowns and before that ... well ...
Workaholism
05 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Workaholism works like any other addiction! Like all other addictions, it comes from a misunderstanding about where your feelings are coming from. It'...
Comfort Zone
04 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Your comfort zone does not exist! It is only a collection of thoughts. Something magical happens when you start to take it less seriously. It begins t...
The Calm Gazelle
01 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Why is the Gazelle so calm? Because she doesn't think like us. She doesn't worry, 'what if' or time travel in her head. What if you could be more gaz...
Confusion
30 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There's a confusion which pervades our world right now and it is causing a lot of suffering. Someone recently asked me to talk about why people feel b...