From Surviving to Thriving: A No Tools, No Techniques Shift from Stress and Overwhelm to Fulfilment
Episodes
Anticipation
29 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Anticipation is a source of stress. It is defined as, 'the action of anticipating something; expectation or prediction.' Here's what I see happening. ...
Innate Wellbeing
28 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Realising innate wellbeing relieves stress because something magic happens when you see how you work. That the feelings you are feeling are not you. T...
Virtual Reality Generator
27 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Perhaps you have noticed how your feelings of stress fluctuate despite the circumstances staying the same. You might have also had a moment when you h...
Wisdom
24 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When we are connected to wisdom, we experience less stress. We are guided and can navigate through life more easily. Sometimes people call it intuitio...
Laughter
23 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I am noticing there is more and more laughter. It seems to me that it can break a spell. When we are feeling stressed and realise we are creating that...
Judging. Monitoring and Supervising
22 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On Monday I spotted a source of stress in my life. It was something I had not realised before. Some thinking I am involved in. It's probably been arou...
Worry
20 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Worry ... It feels awful; anxious, scary and fearful. There's a clue in that feeling. It's let us know the truth. Not about what we are worrying about...
Bodily Wisdom
17 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Stress can result when we don't listen to our bodily wisdom. We have learnt to ignore it. We are much more likely to listen to that voice in our heads...
Potential
16 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Not seeing our potential creates stress. It has us believing that we cannot do things, solve things and that we don't have the answers. But our potent...
Shouldification
15 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Shouldification often plays a part in the creation of stressful feelings. I know it is a made up word but I am sure you know exactly what it means. It...
Relief
14 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We are all looking to find relief from our feelings. It seems to be a human mission. It makes sense when we see feelings as a problem but when we see ...
Flow
13 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Flow is the antidote to stress and anxiety. A space where we are connected to the present moment. Where we only consider the next step. One step at a ...
Transformation
10 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
My transformation was from stressed out Headteacher to Queen of Calm but there were really two stages to it. The first was the fix myself stage; tools...
Rejection
09 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Rejection can often seem like a source of stress. Especially in business but in other walks of life too. I was asked to create this episode on 'the st...
Hindsight
08 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Hindsight is a wonderful thing ... apparently! Google defines hindsight as the ability to understand and realise something about an event after it has...
Intrusive Thoughts
07 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
'How do we work through unhelpful intrusive thoughts!' was a question I was asked recently. Perhaps it's best to consider what an intrusive thought is...
Balance
06 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Balance can be seen as a pillar of having a calm life and avoiding stress. Surely once we have created balance between our work and personal life, we ...
Self-Identity
01 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Self-identity is linked to stress and burn out because our self-identity creates every outcome. Who we think we are is at play all the time. It forms ...
Storification
31 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Storification is a made up word. But this time it isn't me who has made it up. This word was made up by the lovely Wynn Morgan.I heard him say it in h...
Urgency
30 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Recently I have become more aware of urgency! You know that feeling that something needs to be done yesterday! Urgency feels very real in the moment ...
Comparison
27 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
'Comparison is the thief of joy' - Theodore Roosevelt. From what I have seen this is certainly true. It comes up often in my coaching sessions but tod...
Futurism
26 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Futurism is defined as the concern with events and trends of the future, or which anticipate the future. I suspect this can be fun when we are curious...
Personality
25 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What is a personality? Of course I looked it up on Google. Personality refers to individual differences in characteristic patterns of thinking, feelin...
Escalation
24 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do things escalate? A small disagreement which becomes a massive argument. It's always fuelled by a misunderstanding. It's the same misunderstandi...
Difficult Conversations
23 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Difficult conversations is the topic today. It's a request from Dr. Johannes Metzler (Please drop me a message if you have a request)This is what he s...
Seeking
20 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I was seeking for a long time. Looking to feel differently. Wanting more motivation. I tried E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. Every tool and technique and all the...
Moods
19 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you good at mood awareness? Not mood judgement or criticism but awareness. Do you know what is going on when you are in a low mood? It's low mood ...
Criticism
18 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Criticism comes in 3 flavours that I have seen. Criticism of others, being criticised and self criticism. They are all created in the same way from ce...
Meaning
17 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Human's are meaning making beings. This is a normal and natural part of how we work. When something happens we create meaning about it but often we do...
Shrinking
16 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Is your world shrinking? Are you avoiding things because you think they make you feel bad. Like certain people, situations and circumstances. Or are y...
Choice
13 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do we really have a choice? It can look like there is choosing happening can't it? But who is doing the choosing. The same mind which has created the ...
Loneliness
12 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Loneliness is the state of being lonely. Lonely is defined as, 'being unhappy because you are not with other people'. But being alone is not a prerequ...
Association
11 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you aware of the associations that you make? How you connect one incident to a similar one in the past. We are all doing it all the time. I did it...
Optimism
10 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Optimism is something we are encouraged to be more of because being pessimistic is not the done thing. I completed a gratitude journal for 5 years, ev...
Awareness
09 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's mental health awareness week! The most powerful word in that phrase is awareness because with awareness you can see that you are not any of the t...
Mindreading
06 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How much time do you spend inside other people's heads? Have you noticed how that can make you feel? Angry, frustrated or overwhelmed. That feeling ...
Clarity
05 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When we are caught up in our stressful thinking and tired, we don't have clarity. Literally there is too much noise in the system. Just knowing this i...
Force
04 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There is a force in the universe! It gets a lot done. It makes the earth spin around the sun, my heart beat and my lungs breath and it makes the flowe...
Should
03 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Should is a much over used word. I spot it in my clients quite often and in myself. It comes from a sense that something is supposed to be different t...
Misinterpretation
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you aware that you are misinterpreting things all day every day? It's not just you - me too! The look on someone's face, why they are doing what t...
Universe
28 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You are the universe. You have everything you need inside you. Sometimes I know it doesn't feel that way but I promise you it's true. Can you notice i...
Fixing
27 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Fixing feelings was my mission for so many years! It was exhausting! First manipulating the outside world then manipulating me! I tried every tool and...
Discomfort
26 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Discomfort has a purpose! With physical discomfort, the purpose is clear! It's to let you know that there is something to do like rest, move or seek h...
Feelings
25 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Feelings! If we could just understand this one thing about ourselves, it would be truly transformational. Then we could stop trying to control them. I...
Toxicity
22 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Toxicity from our environment is much spoken about these days and I don't mean the kind that we can inhale or get from our food. I mean the kind that ...
Stress Management
21 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We are talking too much about stress management. It is causing people to look in the wrong direction towards the following lies. 1. That stress comes...
Creativity
20 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
'I am not creative!' is something I really used to believe. I carried from childhood into adulthood. I thought creativity wasn't my thing. Perhaps you...
Truth
19 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know which of your thoughts is true? Perhaps you have never considered that question. I know I hadn't and I used to believe it all. Every s...
Stress
13 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There seems to be a lot of people feeling stressed at the moment. I have a deep level of compassion for them all. I have been there. The long term str...
Communication
12 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Communication is something we are doing all day every day. Have you noticed when don't communicate well. When you have a lot on your mind, you're upse...
Willpower
11 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you trying to use willpower to change your behaviour? Reacting better eating less or exercising more. Here are some reasons why that might not be ...
Purpose
08 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you know your purpose or has searching for it become your purpose i.e. the thing you do every day. When we are looking for our purpose, we are look...
Emotions
07 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you misunderstand your emotions? I think we all do that sometimes. We think they are coming from the outside world or other people. Maybe we think ...
The Self
06 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What is this self we speak of? We mention it in so many ways. Self-care, self-love, self-development, self-esteem, self-confidence and self-concept....
Capability
05 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Your capability has nothing to do with your thinking nor does it have anything to do with what you have done before. Your capability does not have any...
My Story Part 3
04 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Part 3 of my story is the happy ending or maybe the happy beginning. Listen to hear how my experience of life has changed to include the following:- E...
My Story Part 2
01 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Continuing my story from yesterday and released on my 6 year anniversary of my resignation from my 20 year career in Education, 1st April 2022, here i...
My Story Part 1
31 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
By way of an introduction and released on my 7 year burnout anniversary, 31st March 2022, here is the first part of my outside-in to inside-out story....
Quiet
30 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you say you want to feel better, do you know what you are looking for? Generally we focus first on the feelings we don't want. We don't want to f...
Perfection
29 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You are psychologically perfect! In fact we all are but we just don't see it a lot of the time. That's because we spend most of the time our thinking ...
Reacting
28 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How many times in the day do you find yourself reacting? Perhaps some of those times end in regret and the sense that you wished you had done that dif...
Behaviour
25 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Stop trying to change your behaviour might seem like a strange thing for a coach to say but I really mean it. The thing is that when we are trying to ...
Brainwashing
24 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We have all been brainwashed! All our lives this has been happening but perhaps not in the way you think. No-one has been deliberately brainwashing us...
Wellbeing
23 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Wellbeing does not come from outside. It does not come from any of those tools and techniques. It does not come from The Miracle Morning or the conten...
It's not them, it's you
22 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's not them, it's you is not always easy to see especially when they are being difficult. But it doesn't matter what someone else does or says. How ...
Control
21 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I spent much of my life trying to control. It started with the outside world. Other people's behaviour and my circumstances. I did this because I thou...
Choices
18 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered what is happening when we make a choice? Here's the truth about it.In any moment, we choose because of where we think our feeli...
Luck
17 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you see yourself as lucky? When I look back on the synchronicities in my life it is easier to see. I even see the burnout I experienced in 2015 as ...
Innate Resilience
16 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Innate resilience. Can you connect to it in yourself? Can you see it in others? It's always been there you know. You have literally been falling down ...
Circumstances
15 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Take a moment to consider your circumstances right now! Are they the ones you thought were going to make you happy? Have you been in that place where ...
Success
14 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
My definition of success has changed dramatically over the years. I bought into the societal story for a long time. Defining success in terms of wealt...
Disguised Blessings
11 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When we feel an uncomfortable sensation it makes sense to want it to go away. Of course it does. No-one wants to feel anxious, stressed, tense or in a...
Discernment
10 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Discernment is defined as the ability to judge well. I guess what I ponder in that is, how do we know if we are judging well when it seems that all we...
Curiosity
09 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
They say that curiosity killed the cat. The meaning of that phrase is that being inquisitive about other people's affairs may get you into trouble. Wh...
Seeking Calm
08 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Seeking calm feels like a thing to do. There so many tools and techniques available to do that. I don't need to list them. But the thing is, you are c...
Similarities
07 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There are more similarities than differences between us. I know that is very hard to see that sometimes but there are some fundamental things which ar...
Adding Doesn't Help
04 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I spent a long time teaching people to add in order to feel okay. Adding affirmations, meditation and gratitude practices. Adding knowledge from self-...
The Journey to Calm
03 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
My journey to calm really started in January 2020 but before that I thought I was on it. For a long I thought the journey to calm was about meditation...
Trying to Control Feelings
02 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Trying to control our feelings is like trying to fix a system which is not broken. A system which was created perfectly to support you in life. A much...
Preferences
01 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We all have preference. That is pretty human. But have you noticed how some circumstances don't seem to be preferences. But there are some things in l...
Noticing
28 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Noticing is one of the most powerful ways we can change but it is a particular kind of noticing. It comes from a place of understanding how the system...
Being Right
25 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I spent a long time being right and goodness did I get riled up about it. It was my way or the highway! I would get angry and upset when someone didn'...
Reality Check
24 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Here are some things you might think are real which really are not! What you think someone else is thinking, thoughts about the future, the limiting b...
Work-Life Balance
23 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Work-life balance seems to be something we should pursue. The lack of it is blamed for all sorts of ills such as burnout, stress related illness and h...
Solving Problems
22 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We all have problems to solve and it seems there are lots of possible ways to do this but there are problems with these strategies. They are using our...
Pain and Physical Symptoms
21 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It took me a long time to see how my experience of my physical body was being created. I have had a few physical things over the last few years includ...
Meditation
18 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I used to meditate every single day. In fact, I didn't miss a day for about 4 years. I did it when I was on holiday, when I was busy and even when I w...
Thought Control
17 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Thought control has had great PR over that last few years. I did a quick search for 'How to control your thinking', on Google and got 9,840,000,000 re...
Changing People
16 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How many people do you need to change? Your parents, partner, children, friends. Who else is on the list? When we live in the outside in paradigm, it ...
Understanding Things
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you often find yourself trying to understand things like the decisions of government, the behaviour of other people or the circumstances you find y...
I was miles away
14 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever use the phrase, 'I was miles away'? As I walked up a narrow path a few days ago, there was a woman in front of me. She didn't hear me comi...
Objective Reality
11 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever considered what is real? In our world of form, there are clearly some things which exist. On my desk right now, there are all sorts of t...
Managing the Future
10 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How much time do you spend in the future? I put dates in my diary but other than that I spend little time in the future these days but that wasn't alw...
Inside Someone Else's Head
09 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How much time do you spend inside someone else's head? This came up more than once in coaching conversations yesterday but I think we all do it someti...
Thought Separates Us
08 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are there some people you really don't get on with? We all have someone don't we? Someone who seems to rub us up the wrong way. We can feel the sensat...
Don't Swallow the Storm
07 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
'Don't swallow the storm', was a brilliant phrase I heard on a TV show I was watching over the weekend. I just love the beautiful guidance in this adv...
You are a Diamond
04 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You are a diamond because everything you are seeking outside you is already there inside. Your resilience that meant you fell down and got up over and...
Confused About Calm
03 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you confused about calm? If you are I think you might not be the only one. In a networking meeting recently, I said I helped people to be calm and...
Proof Reading
02 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you any good at proof reading? I thought I had that licked but a few days ago, I invited some people to check out my membership space. One of my f...
The Source of All Suffering
01 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What do you think is happening when you are not feeling okay? Do you think it is because the outside world is not okay, because other people are behav...