TPP 024: A Conversation with 12-year-old Asher About Carol Dweck's MINDSET
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is the purpose of introducing mindset concepts to a 12‑year‑old?
You seem to really enjoy learning about how the brain works.
Because it's science. Yay science.
It is science, but it's also Well, it's interesting to learn about how. you work. It's like, oh, so that's how I think. Yeah, that makes sense. I do think like that, don't I?
Does it help connect
dots for you? It yeah, it's kind of like a guide to how you you yourself think. And it's like, oh so that's why it's nice when that happens.
Welcome to the Tilt Parenting Podcast, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I'm your host, Debbie Rieber, and today's episode features another conversation with my 12-year-old son Asher. In this episode, Asher and I wanted to share with you one of our favorite brain science tools: the concept of mindset, or more specifically, fixed. Versus growth mindsets as defined by researcher Carol Duack. As Asher's mother and teacher, I consider one of my biggest jobs to be helping him learn about himself and how he's wired so he can develop a strong sense of self-awareness. I see this as one of the most important skills anyone can develop, but especially differently wired kids who may have extra skills to work on in order to reach their goals.
As you'll hear from the following conversation, Asher is totally into this stuff. And I found that when I share articles and books and videos about the way our brains and cognitive processes work, he always considers the new information in relation to himself, and sometimes even makes a decision to change his response to something based on what he's learned. This makes sense though because studies show that kids are interested in learning about how their brains work, and that when we take the time to let them in on why we're working on certain skills and concepts, they can make the connection and invest in working harder. This has absolutely been the case with Asher. Introducing him to this concept of mindset has actually had a very real and profound impact on how Asher approaches work.
And it gives us a language to use when he comes up against obstacles or things he doesn't really want to do. So if your differently wired kid struggles with tasks that feel hard or too big or uninteresting, this could be a great tool for you too. As always, thank you for listening. To learn more about this podcast in Tilt, the Revolution for Parents Raising Differently Wired Kids, visit www.tiltparenting.com.
Hi, Asher. Hello, Mom and various viewers.
They're not viewing the podcast.
That's my intro every week. Hello, mom and various viewers. I mean listeners.
I'm really excited today to talk with you about mindset. Yeah. And for listeners, I just wanted to introduce this concept of mindset in case you're not familiar with it. The idea of mindset was developed by a Stanford psychologist named Carol Dweck, who has written a book called Mindset. It's called Mindset, How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential. And she's also given an awesome TED Talk, which we watched. Yeah. But we have been kind of tuning into her work with mindset and talking about it for at least the past two years. Definitely. So she talks about two different types of mindset. Do you remember what they are?
A growth mindset and a fixed mindset.
And how would you we'll give like the real definition according to her, but I'm curious just in your words, how would you describe a fixed mindset?
Bad.
No.
A fixed mindset is kinda when you think that you can't that everyone has has a certain value of just smartosity or something. Smartness, I don't know.
Mhm.
And it can't be changed. Which makes them want to look smart. Right?
Interesting, yeah.
They want to look smart instead of want to be smart. They're like, Oh, I have a certain amount of smartosity that I can't change, so I should at least make other people think I have loads of it, even if I don't. And then they end up d doing all these bad things because they want to seem smart instead of be smart.
Right.
And then the growth mindset people are all learning and improving themselves.
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Chapters
5 chapters
1
What is the purpose of introducing mindset concepts to a 12‑year‑old?
0:00–8:05
2
How does Asher define a fixed mindset in his own words?
8:05–13:20
3
What does a growth mindset look like according to Carol Dweck’s definition?
13:20–18:06
4
How have challenges and setbacks helped Asher shift toward a growth mindset?
18:06–23:01
5
What strategies do Debbie and Asher use to turn criticism into learning opportunities?
23:01–26:09
Speakers
1 identifiedMore from Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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