TPP 039a: A Conversation with 12-year-old Asher About Goal Setting
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is the purpose of this kid‑POV episode and who are the hosts?
Hey there, it's Debbie and welcome to Playback Friday. Every Friday, I'll re-release one of my favorite conversations from the archives. Unless you're a longtime listener of the show, there's a good chance you haven't heard this one yet. And even if you have, you just may get something completely different listening to it this time around. The last line on this was my personal why for pursuing this goal is, do you remember what I meant when I said a personal why? Well, what's my reason for trying to run five kilometers? And why is it important to have a personal why?
Because otherwise it's not really your goal, is it? It's somebody else's goal that they set for you. If you're working towards a goal that you set, but you don't really want to, you should really consider why you're doing it.
Welcome to the Tilt Parenting Podcast, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I'm your host, Debbie Reber, and today's episode is a special kids POV episode with my 12-year-old son, Asher. Today we're talking about goal setting from Asher's perspective as a kid who has executive functioning challenges while also having a lot of goals he wants to pursue. We're going to talk about the strategies we use to help Asher set and reach goals while also developing his planning and organization skills. We're also sharing our goal planning worksheet on our website. So if you want to download that after listening to the show, I'll share at the end how to do that.
This is our first show of 2017. And I've been very busy lining up super interesting topics for the coming year, including the birds and the bees, aka sex ed for differently wired kids, fostering a love of reading how to organize your home to support your child's executive function development, ADHD tools, nutrition challenges, and much more. I also wanted to share with you that I recently launched a Patreon campaign for the podcast. In case you're not familiar with it, Patreon is a tool to allow patrons or fans to support the work of artists, musicians, and yes, even podcasters. Thank you for watching. please check out our page at www.patreon.com slash tilt parenting. Thank you for considering supporting us and for your patience during this little PSA.
And now without further ado, I'll get on with the show. Hey, Asher. Hello. Thank you for doing another Asher special episode with me today. You're
welcome.
And today, I just have to share for listeners, we are going to be talking about goal setting. And when I suggested that as a topic to you, you know what you said to me? What? You said, Oh, good. I love goals. Yeah. Is that true? Yeah. Awesome. And also, I just want to let listeners know we are trying something different today. So Asher and I are Skyping this interview. We're in different rooms in our apartment, and we are looking at each other. So we're pretending it's face to face, but this should make the editing process easier. So we'll see how it goes. Sound like a plan? Yeah. So you said I love goals. What is it about goals that you love? Just curious.
Well, it's nice to have things that you're planning to do.
That's true. Before we get into talking about our specific process for goal planning, I wanted to just talk a wee bit about executive functioning. Do you know what executive functioning is, Ash? Yeah,
it's a part of your brain that controls goals, I think. Well, I mean, the part of your brain is not called executive functioning, but executive functioning means that it controls goals.
Right. And actually, I'm going to pull from understood.org, which is one of our favorite resources here. And they have some great information on executive functioning. And they describe executive function is like the CEO of the brain.
Exactly.
It's like, do this, do that. On their website, it says it's in charge of making sure things get done from the planning stages of the job to the final deadline.
How does Asher define executive functioning and why does it matter for goal setting?
And when kids have issues with executive functioning, and a lot of kids who have who are differently wired, who have ADHD, or learning differences, or autism, any sort of neurological differences are often go hand in hand with executive functioning challenges.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is the purpose of this kid‑POV episode and who are the hosts?
0:00–4:32
2
How does Asher define executive functioning and why does it matter for goal setting?
4:32–7:59
3
What steps did Asher and Debbie use to plan and complete the Color Run 5K goal?
7:59–11:05
4
How does the goal‑planning worksheet break a big project into measurable parts?
11:05–14:35
5
What is the daily goal‑planning routine and why is a daily check‑in important?
14:35–18:05
6
What typical obstacles derail Asher’s projects and how can they be prevented?
18:05–21:26
7
How does Asher estimate task time and why does he double his estimates?
21:26–24:43
8
What support strategies (scaffolding, check‑ins) do parents use to help kids stay on track?
24:43–27:43
Speakers
1 identifiedMore from Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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