TPP 106a: Author and Parent Coach Julie King on Sibling Dynamics
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
44 min
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What is the focus of the episode and why are sibling dynamics important for parents?
Hey there, it's Debbie and welcome to Playback Friday. Every Friday I'll re-release one of my favorite conversations from the archives. Unless you're a longtime listener of the show, there's a good chance you haven't heard this one yet. And even if you have, you just may get something completely different listening to it this time around. So if we
see it as a statement of needs and we're trying to figure out how to meet everybody's real needs, then we look for ways to to solve that as a problem rather than it's a c you know, a win lose competition and if I give you more then he gets less sort of thing.
Welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I'm your host, Debbie Reaver, and if you're the parent of more than one child, neurotypical or atypical, this is an episode you're definitely going to want to listen to. I get requests for topics from listeners all the time, which by the way is great, please keep them coming. But one of the most common requests is for an episode specifically on sibling relationships. So I found the perfect guest to talk about the sibling dynamic. Parent education. Julie King. Julie co-authored the book How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen, a survival guide for life with children ages two to seven, alongside Joanna Faber, and she leads dynamic lecture presentations for schools and other parent organizations.
Among the workshops she offers is one based on siblings without rivalry, and she brings to her work the perspective of having raised two differently wired and one neurotypical kids herself. I'm really excited to share this conversation with you and I hope to do more episodes on this topic. So here is my conversation with Julie. Hey Julie, welcome to the podcast. Thank you. It's nice to be here. Well, I'm looking forward to this conversation. This topic we're gonna go into today is something I've been getting requests for for a long time from my community and I think there's a lot to talk about, but I'm just looking forward to scratching the surface with you and getting a little deeper into this idea of siblings and
How complicated those relationships can be. But before we get into that, I always ask my guests to just introduce themselves, give us a little bit about your personal background, um, maybe your family makeup, and also I always like to know people's personal why for the work that they do.
Sure. Well, as you know, I wrote the book, How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen, with my friend Joanna Faber. She and I met as babies. My family had just moved to the suburbs of New York, as had her family. Her mother was pushing her and her brother up the street in the stroller and my mother saw them outside, literally went running outside and invited them in. And her mother, Adele, and my mother Pat became very good friends and Joanne and I became good friends. Well at that point we were just babies, but we went to nursery school together, actually all the way through high school together. But while we were in nursery school, her mother took a parenting workshop with a child psychologist, Hiam Gannott.
And she and my mother would talk daily. about what she was learning. And they would experiment on Joanna and me and our siblings. So we were really guinea pigs for this whole approach. And after high school we kind of went our separate ways. She went to college. I I ended up going to law school and I practiced law briefly and decided that the way that lawyers approach conflict was really not consistent with sort of my orientation to problem solving and considering people's needs. And so when I uh uh I'm sort of condensing my life story here for you at a I I'm married and my husband and I had three kids and I discovered first hand that kinda hard to do this all the time. This approach that I grew up with and I thought I knew.
Was quite challenging. Um, when my firstborn Asher was a baby, I helped form a mother's group. We used to get together every week.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is the focus of the episode and why are sibling dynamics important for parents?
0:00–8:00
2
How does Julie King’s personal family background shape her approach to sibling relationships?
8:00–15:46
3
What are the common challenges families face when children are differently‑wired?
15:46–22:08
4
How can parents address resentment and perceived inequality between siblings?
22:08–29:43
5
What practical strategies does Julie recommend for resolving sibling conflict peacefully?
29:43–36:03
6
How do real‑life stories (phone‑answering, diagnosis talks) illustrate effective communication techniques?
36:03–39:24
7
What final tips does Julie give for teaching kids conflict‑resolution skills that last a lifetime?
39:24–42:29
8
Where can listeners connect with Julie King and access her resources for further support?
42:29–44:12
Speakers
1 identifiedMore from Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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